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I beg to differ. We are called to enter marriage with only another God-seeking Christian. If we are living our faith, we should be able to be compatible with any other believer who is also focused on following God.
if she was okay with hand-holding, hugs, or kisses, maybe. if she had boundaries against doing such things before marriage i'd be totally fine with that. she would already have shown me that romantic interest is there. I don't have an issue with waiting until marriage for such things.
definitely came with maturity(getting saved certainly helped). I was the total opposite before Christ.That’s admirable and uncommon. We’re you always restrained or did that arrive with time and maturity?
~Bella
I disagree. Relationships have challenges and many exist without the attributes mentioned. Including Christian ones. The absence of the qualities named doesn’t minimize their belief. No marriage is perfect.
The bible is full of biblical commands that believers fall short on every day. Husbands and wives are no different and neither will walk out His precepts perfectly. Both will fail many times.
Few people plan for bad events. Life happens. How we handle it reveals the depth of our tether to Him. The unexpected is a part of life. No one can escape it.
No one is advocating foolhardiness. Today’s singles have longer periods of singleness. We’re older, more mature, and less prone to idealistic sentiments.
The gospel rests upon God’s love for us. The bible is filled with references to love from beginning to end. Our ability to love like He does is the difference.
The choice is surrendering to His will over your own. Choosing His way above yourself.
The feeling you’re referencing is related to acceptance and validation. It has little to do with overcoming. The common denominator are positive results. That’s what they’re responding to. It’s comfort not challenges.
That takes time and constancy to build. With two surrendered souls pursuing the same.
God’s foreknowledge is always present. He knows we’ll veer off course and works through our mistakes to accomplish His will.
I think that’s perfectly fine. But the qualities you believe are most important may not hold true for others and their difference doesn’t make them wrong. Or you for that matter.
My fealty is to God. Saying no comes easy for me. I’ve placed my choice of suitor in His hands. But even if I go astray, forsaking Him is not an option.
~Bella
definitely came with maturity(getting saved certainly helped). I was the total opposite before Christ.
born again on april 29th 2012. my views on manhood also came with maturity.How long have you been saved? Were you ideas on manhood firmly entrenched or did they undergo a change with God’s input?
~Bella
born again on april 29th 2012. my views on manhood also came with maturity.
God is the authority on marriage. He knows our strengths and weakness and addresses them in our walk. What you’re emphasizing doesn’t correlate with the things He’s impressed.
For obvious reasons. Our difference in makeup, season, and calling. He knows how to prepare us each for the path He’s set. And that’s what I focus on.
~Bella
That’s wonderful.
My thoughts on womanhood were instilled in my youth but He’s altered a few and made them more inclusive.
Do you mentor or shepherd men? If not, have you considered it?
~Bella
You honestly believe that two people who are dedicated to following God can be incompatible ?
Compatibility goes beyond faith. And that is rarely the reason someone opts not to go forward. It usually relates to other factors.
It’s a catch-all for everything from appearance, personality, interests, goals, beliefs, etc.
Few people have identical wants and needs. That’s the comparability they’re referencing.
~Bella
as already demonstrated in this forum, the things I have to say about men make other guys angry.
funny thing is, I was these guys at one point. finding out these things about manhood didn't anger me though, they gave me peace and set me free. that's what Jesus said the truth does for you.
it can also be due to the fact that when I understand how things work, I have more peace about it. it's true what they say that peace is the absence of confusion. that's certainty been true for me.
Compatibility is what takes a marriage through the hard times and into a mature state of marital love.
yeah, too much heat. I burned the roast.Sometimes difficult truths are challenging to swallow if they’re presented all at once.
I was a hot mess before I came to Christ. I was living a different life.Are you diminishing the presence of strength and other attributes before you came to faith? I suspect you were pretty tough already.
companions, no. most of what I now understand is from being around people who are smarter than me and know more than me and just listening to them.I feel a similar peace. Have you found likeminded companions?
yeah, too much heat. I burned the roast.
I was a hot mess before I came to Christ. I was living a different life.
companions, no. most of what I now understand is from being around people who are smarter than me and know more than me and just listening to them.
I look back on my pre-Christ past with shame. i'm disgusted with who I was.I’m sure you have your share of stories. I was really fun. Or so I’m told.
if you have questions i'll do what I can to help.That’s a wise practice. Are you willing to share your knowledge? I’m sure you have a lot by now.
I look back on my pre-Christ past with shame. i'm disgusted with who I was.
if you have questions i'll do what I can to help.
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