A non-believer problem... please help.

[Heathen Dawn]

I can see you're getting a lot of input from non-christians.

She posted this on a forum where non-Christians can participate.

Go by your own heart, what you feel is right.

Eh, I thought the heart was deceitful above all things according to your book?

Maybe you can invite him to go to church with you.

Yeah, make him join your ranks, fill you with pride.

 

[Mylinkay Asdara]

I'm surprised that a Christian hasn't said this already! Let him see Christ work in your life and be a living example of how good it is to be a Christian. If he sees the happiness you have in your faith he might be drawn to it - more than mere words can draw him. Once he expressess a keen interest again then it's time to bring out the words and explain anything he might want to question.
I'd let him alone and be an example to him - that way there's not pressure and you'll be evangailzing the way Jesus did, by example.

Good luck to boht of you

 

[lando]

first thing to do is to pray for him, hardcore(1John 5:14-17). second is to confront him in a humble and gentle manner so that you may ask him why he believes the things you said he believed and to correct him of any false teachings that you claim he believes(2Timothy 4:2-5). third is to be there and encourage him in his walk with Christ. if he needs somebody let him know that he can always come to you for a good word(Acts 15:32). and last make sure that your own walk with Christ is right so that you can be an example to him(Matthew 5:13).

 

[Brenda55555]

Thank you AmeriLovesJesus. Riddick - yes i know i am trying to get some input from christians but this is in a non christian board also... Thanx Phinehas. Kir Faye - i need help on letting him know. i guess i have to risk a relationship for him to be saved. i just want him to know christianity isnt the way he believes or how his friends tell him. Iando - got ya. Ive been praying already. ~ Brenda

**Dont rush the best things in life**

 

[9Harmony]

Dear Brenda,

You mentioned that alot of bad things had happened in his life. And through prompting of so-called friends he has withdrawn from his faith.

I agree with others here that just to be there for him when he has questions and show him through your actions what your faith does for you.

You may also express to him that tests that we all go through are for our own benefit. It is difficult to discern sometimes but in reality it's true. I know many times I have been unable to see anything good coming from some of the tests I have had to endure (at the time), but in hindsight, I am able to understand that it was actually the best outcome in the long run.

I love this quote from the Baha'i writings regarding tests...

"Tests are benefits from God, for which we should thank Him. Grief and sorrow do not come to us by chance; they are sent to us by divine mercy for our own perfecting...The plant most pruned by the gardeners is that one which, when the summer comes, will have the most beautiful blossoms and the most abundant fruit." 'Abdul-Baha, Paris Talks, p 50-51

Encourage him to seek answers to his questions and be his friend. That's the best thing you can do. As well as pray for God's Will in his life.

Loving Greetings, Harmony

 

[vajradhara]

You know...


if you're a Calvinist.. you pretty much believe that God has chosen whom He will prior to the creation of the world... as such, if your friend doesn't believe that's because God chose from him not to. in this theological tradition it would be pretty useless to spend time trying to witness since it's Gods choice in this matter.

of course, you could be in a different theological position such that you feel that he's lost unless you help him find Jesus. there are plenty of folks that feel that way and that wouldn't be anything to radical.

perhaps... you can simply demonstrate the transformitive power of Christianity in your life and use that as your example? this is often the most effective form of witnessing, in my opinion, since it will certainly preclude the doubts of hypocrisy that will commonly arise.

 

[AmeriLovesJesus]

Mylinkay Asdara~I'm surprised that a Christian hasn't said this already! Let him see Christ work in your life and be a living example of how good it is to be a Christian. If he sees the happiness you have in your faith he might be drawn to it - more than mere words can draw him. Once he expressess a keen interest again then it's time to bring out the words and explain anything he might want to question.

Wow!!! Mylinkay, Thank you for writing that!! lats night.. I was so tired.. I wanted to explain this in my earlier post.. but I didnt really know how to word it right as I was very tired... Thank you!!!

Yes!! You are right!! Be an example of Jesus.. then later as Mylinkay said when he starts questioning.. then you can share everything with him!!!

Let him see Christ work in your life and be a living example of how good it is to be a Christian. If he sees the happiness you have in your faith he might be drawn to it - more than mere words can draw him.

I AGREE COMPLETELY!!! ...


THANK YOU!!!

 

[Brenda55555]

thanks for the feedback you guys. yeah i will take your guys' advice.

 

[AmeriLovesJesus]

thanks for the feedback you guys. yeah i will take your guys' advice.

Your welcome!!

 

[Noor Saffiyah]

He needs to make these decisions on his own. Too many times people are using co-ercion to get you to believe in something. And that can take many, many different forms too... A choice in a belief system requires study and reflection.

No compulsion in religion.