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Matrona

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I don't like this idea of voting on people to join staff... there are some pretty sick puppies on this forum, whose offenses are only known in private staff fora, and if they managed to finagle enough votes to get on staff, they could do so much damage. You would make those victims choose between being quietly stalked or openly humiliated.
 
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Perfect. And I got that from the start. WISDOM people. THINK about this - it's a good thing and meets the needs of all people.
 
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If I'm not mistaken this is twice you have welcomed people to leave.

You are definitely mistaken ! And to quote myself on why I said that,

 
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Still wanting to leave the members in the dark while you have super secret meetings? The whole point of these plans is to stop that kind of nonsense, is it not?

He has already made the decisions, thats my concern. Now, its about him re-evaluating things (and not asking everyone's opinion first).
Super secrete meetings, thats the problem: it doesn't go one in every forum, but the entire site is paying for that misbehavior.
 
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However, your previous post, like this thread , shows why rules are needed and mods are needed.

People seem to have to one up each other. Get in the last dig. Deliver the zinger. And online, people are worse about that than in person.

I fear Erwin has set up a disaster in the making. All the posts supporting it totally come off as totally idealistic without looking at logistics and some important consequences.
 
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Some people may not report for that reason, but if enough people are reporting the same stalker openly that's a great deterent.
 
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I was in favor of this openness and transparency, but now I am not.

I guess I will vote to close those doors and perhaps leave CF myself.
As unpleasant as all this is, it's probably actually really healthy. Plus, it's sort of a lot of stored up frustration coming out - which is definitely healthy.

No-one should make any rash decisions. It would behoove us to throw everything in the pot, and when it's come off the boil, see what we're left with

It will be nicer than the way it's looking now
 
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I also do not understand why Erwin hasent said anything to the staff about it...... and hasent shown appreactation at all to us, and has only show us this.
Unfortunately I think we have seen his appreciation. But hey he holds no ill will if we leave. Yippee!!!!!

For what it is worth I won't be back, quite honestly the only reason I came here was for the Congregational fora and for what it is worth they are sufficiently being gutted.

Sorry that I will miss the free for all in OBOB though that could be fun.

Go ahead Ray sing with joy.
 
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do you even realize that the people who gave themselves to CF are literally crying right now? Being on staff isn't just a title! It's being part of a family! You're breaking up families and friendships! It goes deeper than the red "M" next to my name!
 
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I agree with you and I also have to add my dissapointmet with these new rules... they should at least be implemented one at a time and under a trial to see if it will work....
 
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I think people are jumping to conclusions here. They're way of life is threatened, and they feel scared. I'm not good at arguing but I'll say this: Settle down.

The world isn't ending. Maybe you guys just haven't had a chance to experience how things will work. Give it a chance once things are implemented, and wait it out until things progress and mature fully. Patience is good. Yup.

I post at a website called uberchristians and the idea there is to have complete openness. No secrets or any of that. In theory it's some sort of anarchy, but it isn't. We respect each other, and our beliefs for the most part. There are flames and they are simply moved to an area flames go. I have sorta played devil's advocate, and pushed the system of their so-called openness and things seem to have worked out pretty well. So yeah, I'm saying "chill" because this isn't nearly as bad as you probably think it is.

And even if it was, it still wouldn't be as bad as you think it is.
 
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I kind of agree with Leanna on this one....The site BELONGS to Erwin and he can run it as he sees fit. It can change at any time, he could shut it all down without owing any of us a moment's notice. By the same token anyone is free to leave at any time and to come back as they so desire. Erwin said the rules would be created unilaterally and I for one hope he stands his ground, I think trying to please everyone is what got us into the current mess.

If you don't like it you are always free to create your own space, and in fact if you feel as though God is calling you elsewhere then by all means go where he leads.
 
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You can't think those friends and family could be broken apart by a site restructuring?

I've seen many amazing friendships made on this site. That isn't going to stop and it's not going to be lost.

It'll turn out ok
 
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I wish you had included a thanks to all the staff that tried so hard to do what they could for CF. : (
 
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