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A Musing

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Ok. I have been dealing with a lot of stress lately, and so here is a musing that im not sure how true it is, but maybe if i throw it out there i can get some feedback on it.

"Excess stress is to the soul, what overly-loud music is to the auditory system."

I just say that because ive had so much stress today im purposely taking a breather and trying to chill, even though i could be working on making summaries of my books that i will be having a final over in college, because i have to return them to the library tomorrow. But the point is, one cant just try to overlook the level of stress they have, because im sure ive heard more than one story of people ending up in the hospital because they overloaded themselves and tried to keep going. But i think there is a big split among the peoples about this topic, because it seems so many people just think u can go forever, or maybe its just because they can, and half the time the people who are just not able to handle a lot of stress are taking a bunch of flak and being called lazy and everything simply because they arent like the ones who can do a lot more.

I have begun to start weighing my future stresses (like even though im wasted with stress right now, if i dont do this and this now, the consequences will be far worse and add more stress than i will get from doing it now) kinda thing, but even then, like tonight, somedays i think we just have to chill, even though it may ruin some plans we've had, if we just had a really bad day.

I just wanted people to discuss the topic, maybe give some info if they have found any out there lying around. And give a true or false to the saying i have made up.

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Look, what you're really missing here is that Triangle Man beats Person Man.

Ok, but seriously. I dunno, I think the overcoming of stress is what separates the men from the boys, so to speak. I don't know what you're doing, but let's say it's, I dunno, dumping your girlfriend. It's gonna be rough now, but you're gonna be stronger after you get over the whole thing. Next time, it isn't going to hurt as bad, and when push comes to shove, you're going to be able to do what someone without stress isn't. How about "Stress is to the soul as fire is to steel."
 
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You are following wisdom. :thumbsup:

Your "saying" is very true.

If you also think (when you have the time) of ways to have fun unstressing that happen to also leave you in a better position to handle tomorrow, then you will grow even stronger.

The idea that "what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger" is a ploy and deception. The real truth is that what doesn't kill you today, might tomorrow if you let it build up.

The base: "Never ingest more than you can digest (or refuse)"

That feeling of stress comes from the indecision involved in what to do about concerns that are not being truly resolved (or not seen as such). Worry kills and destroys all you have accomplished along with it usually. Don't let it build up. Have "faith" ;)

Allow yourself to "go with the flow" at times in order to conserve your strength for when it is more effective. Don't try to do every tiny thing that can be done, else when you run up to a hump, you have nothing left to get you over it. It is much the same as saving money up by not spending it just because you can.

When you are not spending an income, you are building power to overcome things of tomorrow. You save it up by doing things that are fun, but not costly. The fun keeps you stress freer and the lack of spending allows that stress freer moment tomorrow to have more punch with the money and confidence you have built up.

The lack of worry frees your mind to be more directly involved in decisions. While you store worry, you are in effect, occupying parts of your brain/mind with useless drama and losing attention to detail of the present.

You are suggesting what is basically the same process as sleeping when you get too tired. When you sleep, your autonomic systems are freer to clean up the mess that accumulated during your efforts of struggle with life. You must take the time to clean yourself up after you engage in struggle of any kind.

The principle is the same as the Yin-Yang concern of alternating to the opposite of what the first effort created in a cycle.

Fast - Feed.
Wake - Sleep.
Stress - Relax.

Don't try to run any of those 24/7 unless you are perfectly balanced and thus clean as you go, sleep as you walk, relax as you stress in perfect balance as though you were eating exactly and only what your body required and thus never had to fast.

The "musing" gives you confidence that your worries are not as important as they want you to believe they are. They are very much like little children complaining for attention constantly. When you "muse", you distract those children toward something more rewarding and fun for them. They stop bothering you and they get to re-examine they need for attention later if the problem they were concerned about is still there. Those parts of your mind often cannot see if something is truly resolved and thus continue the worry process needlessly.

Christianity is VERY largely about this very issue and is the real reason why they promote having "faith". The faith that "things will be okay" (in general) helps them to actually become okay and thus they are "saved" from the "devil" of worry that would have brought them down. ;)
 
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ReluctantProphet said:
The idea that "what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger" is a ploy and deception. The real truth is that what doesn't kill you today, might tomorrow if you let it build up.

I haven't seen this in a while from someone living. I think you call it -- widdy -- wishom -- wyshdum -- wisdym -- wisdom.

That was bloody well stated.

Nevertheless, I think the original quote has a life of its own when applied to necessary torment. Suffering, after all, is what it is because we want to be away from what causes us aversion. But when it seems necessity has dropped us a trial, the Nietzschean thought can make one happy.
 
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