Hey I have a friend who's been making some awful choices as of the last 6 months. He's HIV+ and hasn't been telling his sexual partners he's + so his other friends and I have been having to try and tract them down and tell them to get tested. He's stopped taking his meds and started doing drugs like Molly and DMT. He's even gotten a drug dealer boyfriend so he can get cheap drugs. Most of his friends have abandoned him, but I refuse to leave him to die like this. He's been through horrible things in his life and I understand why he is this way, why he's become a monster. He used to be a kind, funny, adventurous person who was a true friend and companion. I stopped talking to him for a month because I thought it would be healthier for me to be out of his life, but I find that I can't stay away, I can't let him kill himself like this. Advice on what I should do would much appreciated, thanks
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A lost friend
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Dear jack4022,
My heart, and sympathy goes out, not only to your friend, but to you as well. You are in a position that allows you to see first hand the effects of drugs and the effects of a very dangerous lifestyle. I pray that you remain strong and encourage you not to be too discouraged. I thank you for being concerned for your friend. As you stated in your post, it is easy for some to turn a blind eye to a person's need and look the other way. If it is possible, and as much as depends on you, love him. Encourage him. Whenever the opportunity is there, love him. He needs to know that he is important, and special. He needs to know that his life can be redeemed. He needs to know that there is hope.
In my life, I have had much experience with drug abuse. All of which was bad. Nothing good ever came from it. I have been addicted to several drugs, all of which could have killed me. But God was merciful to me. I have had experience with being involved with a man. Not sexually, but emotionall and mentally, and if I had been given the chance, I believe I would have acted on my desire and would have engaged in sexual relations with this person. But God was merciful. I was not given the chance. I do understand a little of how your friend feels. I have been suicidal numerous times in my life. But God was merciful. When I was at my lowest, God showed me He loved me. It was then and only then that I really realized that I needed Him.
Your friend needs Him now. This time in your friends life is dark. But it doesnt have to end in the dark. This time may be just the time that he is brought to his lowest point. From there, there is only one way to go, and that is up. Ultimately, he must decide to live, or die... To stay down, or to rise up. This he cannot do on his own. He must have help. He must have help. Who can help him, who is it than can save him from himself?
You may not acknowledge God, I do not know what your personal beliefs are. But I say to you that I know a man who several years ago was in a similar position that your friend is in now. This man was without hope. Death seemed to be his fate. But Jesus came and visited this man when no one else could, or would. He saved this man and came to live inside of Him forever. This man.... is me.
My heart, and sympathy goes out, not only to your friend, but to you as well. You are in a position that allows you to see first hand the effects of drugs and the effects of a very dangerous lifestyle. I pray that you remain strong and encourage you not to be too discouraged. I thank you for being concerned for your friend. As you stated in your post, it is easy for some to turn a blind eye to a person's need and look the other way. If it is possible, and as much as depends on you, love him. Encourage him. Whenever the opportunity is there, love him. He needs to know that he is important, and special. He needs to know that his life can be redeemed. He needs to know that there is hope.
In my life, I have had much experience with drug abuse. All of which was bad. Nothing good ever came from it. I have been addicted to several drugs, all of which could have killed me. But God was merciful to me. I have had experience with being involved with a man. Not sexually, but emotionall and mentally, and if I had been given the chance, I believe I would have acted on my desire and would have engaged in sexual relations with this person. But God was merciful. I was not given the chance. I do understand a little of how your friend feels. I have been suicidal numerous times in my life. But God was merciful. When I was at my lowest, God showed me He loved me. It was then and only then that I really realized that I needed Him.
Your friend needs Him now. This time in your friends life is dark. But it doesnt have to end in the dark. This time may be just the time that he is brought to his lowest point. From there, there is only one way to go, and that is up. Ultimately, he must decide to live, or die... To stay down, or to rise up. This he cannot do on his own. He must have help. He must have help. Who can help him, who is it than can save him from himself?
You may not acknowledge God, I do not know what your personal beliefs are. But I say to you that I know a man who several years ago was in a similar position that your friend is in now. This man was without hope. Death seemed to be his fate. But Jesus came and visited this man when no one else could, or would. He saved this man and came to live inside of Him forever. This man.... is me.
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When a person sets himself on the road to self-destruction, there is no way to save them, unless they earnestly seek salvation themselves. [I had to learn this the hard way a few times.] We have an illustration in the bible through the story Christ told of the prodigal son. In short a son wanted his share of the inheritance the father was going to leave him Before the father died, so he could leave his fathers house and party. So what did the father do? He let him leave and allowed the son to selfdistruct to the point he took to living with pigs for warmth, and ate what they ate for food. At which point the son hit bottom and decided to return home and get help.
The message here is to do what is best long term for the person who wants to wander. Long term being eternity and not what this life offers. Sometimes people must destroy all that they have to appreciate what has been offered. The offer being eternal life. If your friend destroys this life well enough and (wastes his maintenance) then maybe He will seek out God and returns Home. Which is the ultimate goal, not the preservation of this life or living out the ideal existence.
What you should do is stay out of his way and let him hit bottom, (the sooner the better) then be there to rebuild what life he has left. Anything else will be a wasted effort. support Him but do not enable him to do any of the self distructive things he is doing. If this means allowing to sleep on the street then that is what you must do.
The message here is to do what is best long term for the person who wants to wander. Long term being eternity and not what this life offers. Sometimes people must destroy all that they have to appreciate what has been offered. The offer being eternal life. If your friend destroys this life well enough and (wastes his maintenance) then maybe He will seek out God and returns Home. Which is the ultimate goal, not the preservation of this life or living out the ideal existence.
What you should do is stay out of his way and let him hit bottom, (the sooner the better) then be there to rebuild what life he has left. Anything else will be a wasted effort. support Him but do not enable him to do any of the self distructive things he is doing. If this means allowing to sleep on the street then that is what you must do.
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