A little problem... I need advice.

[rachey88]

Okay, I started dating this guy back in January and I didn't know if it was going to last because I had just gotten over a terrible break-up. But praise God!! We're going to be having our 5 month anniversary this Thursday! Well, last month my mom decided that she doesn't want to live in Tulsa anymore, and I live with her still, but she wants to move to OKC and she wants me to move too keep going to school, but I'll have no friends. All I will have will be my mom, grandma, and uncle. I don't know if I want to move... I really want to stay here with Tim. I really actually want to marry him but I don't know exactly how to tell him that I want to marry him... cause I don't want to say it too soon. But I mean I could keep going to school here in Tulsa and be happy with Tim. But I need some advice on what to do... how do I tell my mom I don't want to move? how do I tell Tim I don't want to move, and that I want to marry him?

 

[Windmill]

5 months is too soon.

Marriage is for life.

You can't just get married, decide it doesn't work then split.

You can only biblically divorce and remarry if he cheats on you.

If you decide you don't actually like each other and so decide to split, then you can't get remarried, and I'm going to be frank, that'll mean no sex. And some people who aren't asexuals rather like sex. So you want to sort of pick the right person off the bat. You'll also not be able to date anyone else, or else it'll be considered cheating and you'll be sinning big time.

You're in the "honeymoon" phase of dating. Your judgment can be clouded.

I suggest staying if possible because it would be good it sounds to pursue the relationship however do not marry unless you plan to have a 2 year engagement. Because your judgment is likely very clouded, and you do not see that person for their imperfections and all. You're high on love. Give it 2 years. A relationship is a life-long commitment so 2 years isn't that long in the scheme of things mate.

At the very least, even if you think 2 years sounds horrendous, 5 months of dating is far too small.

 

[Watari555]

I agree wholeheartedly with Lynn, especially about not moving. I would add that if you make such a large life decision like moving out of your home and living by yourself by holding down a job or even a few jobs then make sure you're doing it for YOU. Things may work out with this guy, they might crash and burn i won't try and imply either because I don't know you or him, but all I'll say is that either way you'll always have to live with yourself so make sure it's a decision that you as an individual are happy with, and that its the same decision you'd make if he wasn't in your life.