A hard question.

[berry2000]

What do you tell your friends/family/mental health workers when you are having suicidal thoughts? Are you honest? Or do you hold it inside for fear of what will happen? Who do you tell? Who do you hide it from?

Me, I tend to hide it from everyone...until I can't take it anymore. Then I let little bits of it slip out. But nobody seems to know what to do about it.

 

[Alive again]

I will pm you my answer, as I do not want to somehow put someone else at risk by my answer!

 

[Jeshu]

Dear Berry hidding suicidal thoughts for fear of the consequences, though it is a locical stand to take, it is not the best, even dangerous. The need to commit suicide can come on suddenly and VERY powerfully - if good support systems are not in place - it could turn out with terrible conseqences. My advise is to ignore the negativity that surrounds killing your self and speak openly (to appropiate people) about your suicidal feelings. Just to be on the safe side.

 

[united4Peace]

Great question!!

Myself...I hide it.
Im not suicidal...but I do think about which is normal.
So when I think about it I just dont tell anyone...I dont see the point. Its not as though Im thinking about it all the time.
Besides I dont see the need to worry others.
I have though on occasion threatened suicide but it wasnt serious...it was out of anger.
Oh gosh...real good question

 

[HisArrow]

My friend tells me of his suicidal thoughts after the fact. So I pray for him hard. I found a site that has a link for bipolar and help for people with suicidal thoughts. It is www.acc-growing-deeper.de/brokenhearts.htm Hope this might help some people.

 

[xtreN]

What do you tell your friends/family/mental health workers when you are having suicidal thoughts? Are you honest? Or do you hold it inside for fear of what will happen? Who do you tell? Who do you hide it from?

Me, I tend to hide it from everyone...until I can't take it anymore. Then I let little bits of it slip out. But nobody seems to know what to do about it.

Hello and good morning,

First of all my friend what you do first always in all things in your life is always go to God first; talk to him out loud in your room or wherever you usually pray with Him and let him know exactly how you feel. And after you tell him, ask Him to take it, take it all, and to replace all your thoughts, soul and mind with Peace, Joy, Love and Life. We have not, because we ask not or we ask on our own accord. Ask Him humbly in Faith and He will grant you your request; do that today and i will STAND with you in your request okay.

i love you in Christ.

Peace, Joy, Love and Light be with you

We do serve a mighty and awesome God my sister and friend

a friend,
xtreN

FEAR NOT, BELIEVE ONLY..
Luke 8:50​

& HAPPY EASTER!!




​

 

[lemonflavor]

Hello and good morning,

First of all my friend what you do first always in all things in your life is always go to God first; talk to him out loud in your room or wherever you usually pray with Him and let him know exactly how you feel. And after you tell him, ask Him to take it, take it all, and to replace all your thoughts, soul and mind with Peace, Joy, Love and Life. We have not, because we ask not or we ask on our own accord. Ask Him humbly in Faith and He will grant you your request; do that today and i will STAND with you in your request okay.

We certainly should do that. I wish it were that easy though. Then we could live life happily ever after.

What if she already did everything you talked about above and still has those feelings? She will feel like she is lacking faith and wonder what she's doing wrong or why God isn't helping her. This can be counter-productive if you don't know the person.

 

[goldenviolet]

hi! it's been along time! *hug* i'm dee. when you feel suicial, you need to list or picture in your head your resource options. you need to evaluate yourself first. do you feel just alittle suicidal, are you just starting to have panic thoughts that it's the only answer, are you thinking up ways to do this, or are you just sitting around wishing you could? your evaluation of your feelings and thoughts is what determines what resource you pick. ALWAYS pick a resource. is it that you just need a hug? a comforting word? a prayer? a distracting fun exsperiance? a doctor visit? writting it down? sharing with someone/posting for support? a crisis line or center, or the emergency room. if you treat yourself like a very special friend, what would you want them to do?

crisis lines are a great resource to help us decide what we need, and or help us to get back on track with solutions. you are special *hug* ... i hope this helps.

 

[berry2000]

Wow thanks! A lot of great responses. And the cool thing for me is that we are TALKING ABOUT IT. It is such a taboo topic and people are always worried that they are afraid to say anything and a lot of times i'm afraid to ask. We think if we bring up the topic there will be whistles and sirens and hospitals.

Lemonflavor- you are right in your response HOWEVER for me Xtren has made a good point because i wouldn't think to do this and i probably should. That being said I think you are right what if you do that and God says NO this is a burden he won't take. But we should atleast talk to him about it, and i don't usually do that.

Goldenviolet- i love you response because it is so true...sometimes we need to evaluate what do we need...sometimes just someone to talk to can desecelate the thoughts and feelings and hug and a heart to heart is exetremly helpful. But we always need to pick something....so true.

 

[goldenviolet]

i'm happy you feel like you have some understanding. this is important good girl for you to reach out! i'm proud of you. *hug* xoxo

 

[spdnet75]

Berry, it is difficult to say anything for sure with respect to such a dificult question. For me, I've tussled with a dear friend of ours over such things and nearly lost that friendship.

The smart answer is to be honest with a Counselor or Doctor. I say this because they cannot hurt us and we cannot directly harm others with our words with them.

In a way, it makes things stronger between us and Counselors and saves us from harming the people so close to us.

As a recovering alcoholic and addict, this is important to me and a good plan in the eyes of my Counselor.

My advice? Be good, true to yourself and true to those whom you love.

It is difficult for our loved one's to understand our illness. Not impossible though.

Stephen

 

[angelkiss]

I agree with Stephen. And am glad to see you post'n again Stephen We've missed see'n your posts.
It's always good to talk with your counselor bout such things and keep them updated. For me, the one rule I have when it comes to my counselor is: Always be open and honest about EVERYTHING. I will say I have ended up in the hospital a time or two by doing so, but it helped a great deal.
We're pray'n for ya!
s and es!!

 

[LoG]

When it comes up for me I might share it with someone who is fairly strong and stable emotionally and can handle it. Mainly I try to talk to someone who will help me look at the deeper issues that the suicidal thoughts are a symptom of. When I focus on the thoughts alone it just gets stronger but when I try to find out what the deeper issue is then the thoughts stop because I see that they come as a result of discouragement, hopelessness or frustration. I then pray to have those feelings lifted and look to see what I need to do overcome them whether it is by setting managable goals, help someone else, living a day at a time etc. The suicidal thoughts leave when I do this and don't come back unless I get off track again.

 

[DoubtingThomas29]

I think suicidal thoughts are disturbing, but I kind of think of them as like listening to a record on a record player. When the record get's stuck, you got to bump the needle and get the record to quit repeating the music.

So to me when I have a suicidal thought, which are infrequent, I just bump the brain along to get the thought to stop repeating.

I think they are serious when you start becoming preoccupied with them, and start coming up with a plan to do it, that is when you are in an emergency.

I am no therapist, but I recommend you keep talking to your therapist or counselor, and tell him or her what you are thinking, and see what he or she can do for you to kind of like bump the needle a little easier, the next time you get a suicidal thought.

Sincerely,

Thomas

 

[pennsyginny]

Years ago when I overdosed, I did not talk to anyone, I just acted or reacted as the case might be to my circumstances. I obviously didn't succeed. BUT I did learn a lot from that experience. About a years agho (Julu) I got suicidal again. This time I did talk --to friends. Then I called on YWCA and got therapy one-on-one and also joined a group. I also got back into my Bible and got back on meds which I had dropped.
I don't think you should hide your feelings. There are those who will want to be there beside you to help you. And you should not count out professional help.