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Neogaia777

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A Good Man

I haven't read the whole thing and I found this quite by accident. So far it's a pretty interesting read. I disagree only with one thing they say about looks (long hair, tattoos, piercings)

Let me know what you guys think

I just got out of a relationship of twelve years and so, right now, I'm content in/upon "waiting" besides I know I'm just not ready yet to get back into another relationship and so, I am spending some time by myself (and with the Lord)... I am realtively "happy" right now (as happy as a single person can be), because/and I do feel the "longing" to "be with" "somebody" and I do get lonely, but I know that's not the primary reason one should get involved with somebody, so right now I'm pretty comfortable with waiting and being patient, and taking the time to figure myself out a little bit and what I want (and what I can offer) a potential mate....

"You shouldn't be "looking" for a man, you should be asking God to bring one to you, one of His choosing." I feel the same way about a potential "wife" Right now, I'm content with waiting...and God will find me someone eventually...

Right now I am taking the time to develop a right heart relationship with the Lord, and he is helping me, I just got out of a relationship with someone who has a track record of being very emotionally abusive and with clinical validated behavioral issues and documented mental problems, and a past history of being abused themselves (which she seems to be "stuck" in/on) I am not saying this to be mean, I just saying it because it's the "truth" and this has taken a severe toll on my heart and soul, but I am healing and recovering and the Lord's helping me...

I found in that letter that I met most of the "qualifications" (I think, anyway) but this one get's me..."A good man PROVIDES for himself and his family", I cannot do a very good job of this as I am disabled and on a fixed income, I do my best, but it seems that it's not enough... I cannot "work" anymore (for reasons that I will not go into here) so, I feel guilty over this sometimes, and wonder if I'll really, really be able to find anyone, due to this... I don't know if I can call myself "A good man" or not, but agree with the letter that it definetly set's a standard that men should "aspire" to, and I will/am trying to, but I'm not perfect... Overall, I really liked and appreciated the letter and agreed with what it has to say... As I said though, I can only "try" to "live up to" it though...:)
 
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Haven't read the book but have read The Mark of a Man by Elizabet Elliot which may be similar.

I also say that I think I am a good man. I might be a little weird around the edges and fun-loving but my heart is good. I have a lot to give. Sometimes I go through the market and think if only women could see the good in me the would smile and make themselves more available.

Yes, I admit this is tooting my own horn but I believe it.
 
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