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A discussion on the morality of polygamy

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Whenever the subject of gay marriage comes up, often I see a comparison made between it and polygamous marriages, as though it was so horrific or immoral that it should be used in the slippery-slope argument.

In examing the issue of marriage, it seems people are interested in maintaining our cultural definition of marriage, which excludes consideration for other cultural marriage practices. These include polygamous marriages, which are accepted throughout the world and in past cultures. In fact, it is even practiced by many Jewish religious figures in the Old Testament. I do not understand why polygamy, therefore, should be against the law in a supposedly secular nation, when in fact, I can't seem to find anything objectionable about it that doesn't involve biblical interpretations.

With the increasing acceptance of non-traditional western marriages, I do think polygamy will be a more debated subject in the future. Especially when these marriages involve bisexual partners, rather than all heterosexual ones.

In evaluating this, I see emotional benefits and hardships for the partners involved, both being about equal. For children, I see an advantage in having more of chance of getting attention and possibly a stay-at-home parent. The only downside I can see is a vague assertion that it will somehow 'harm' the child in being raised. However, single parent households prove that having one male and one female parent is not necessary for development. Economically, it is obviously advantageous.

So, can someone tell me why this issue is a big deal at all? Outside of violating the status quo, of course.

*Note - I am not trying to condone this in any way. I am trying to understand the objections of others to have a greater understanding on this issue.
 

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For one I don't think many women would go for this. There starting to become more equal, and that would push 'em back a few steps I'd say.
Besides, managing one is hard enough, how are you gonna manage 6? It's a little weird in my book. I don't think our legal system should be in any way based on the bible. It's justice system is way out of whack.
 
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Keep in mind the definiton of polygamy.

polygamy... marriage in which a spouse of either sex may have more than one mate at the same time

polyandry...the state or practice of having more than one husband or male mate at one time

polygyny....the state or practice of having more than one wife or female mate at a time
 
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There are many families here in Utah that practice it, it is not a positive. Plus many of the wives are married to their husbands when they are 13 or 14. Not a good practice. It is always man + many wives, never the other way around......Plus no man has ever done anything bad enough to deserve 2 wives.....hee hee....
 
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goodoldboy said:
I am curious about this too. In fact, I think a polygamous marriage would be the only kind of marriage I would be interested in. So why is it so darned objectionable?

I'm not sure what I would do with more than one husband.
Okay, one advantage would be I'd have an extra guy to do the yardwork. :clap:

*I hate mowing the lawn!!
 
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Deus said:
For one I don't think many women would go for this. There starting to become more equal, and that would push 'em back a few steps I'd say.
Starting to become equal? We've always been equal, it just took males a while to accept it but....welcome to the 21st century!
Besides, managing one is hard enough, how are you gonna manage 6? It's a little weird in my book. I don't think our legal system should be in any way based on the bible. It's justice system is way out of whack
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Managing? You don't 'manage' a spouse.
 
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oldrooster said:
There are many families here in Utah that practice it, it is not a positive. Plus many of the wives are married to their husbands when they are 13 or 14. Not a good practice. It is always man + many wives, never the other way around......Plus no man has ever done anything bad enough to deserve 2 wives.....hee hee....
I think it may be a mistake to let the small selection of Mormon polygamists in Utah represent how polygamy would tend to be if legalized in general.
 
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goodoldboy said:
I think it may be a mistake to let the small selection of Mormon polygamists in Utah represent how polygamy would tend to be if legalized in general.
I really don't think it would be any other way. It would be practiced by fringe elements, and there would be no difference in how it is now. Even when it was quasi-legal it still was not a good system. I have no problem with it being legal, and if you want 10 wives go for it......
 
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Deus said:
For one I don't think many women would go for this. There starting to become more equal, and that would push 'em back a few steps I'd say.
Women may not like it, but I don't think that feminists should restrict the freedoms of a few men and women who are willing to enter a polygamous relationship. In my book, women should be allowed to degrade themselves as much as they darn well please.
 
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oldrooster said:
I really don't think it would be any other way. It would be practiced by fringe elements, and there would be no difference in how it is now. Even when it was quasi-legal it still was not a good system. I have no problem with it being legal, and if you want 10 wives go for it......
OK, so I take it that you understand that it is the "fringe element" part that is more likely to cause trouble in polygamist marriages rather than the polygamy itself, is that so? Correlation is not enough to show causation, I often tell myself.
 
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goodoldboy said:
OK, so I take it that you understand that it is the "fringe element" part that is more likely to cause trouble in polygamist marriages rather than the polygamy itself, is that so? Correlation is not enough to show causation, I often tell myself.
I have no problem with the practice itself, other than having more than one wife is not for me. I have one ex-wife and one wife, and that is plenty for me.....
 
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Deus said:
For one I don't think many women would go for this. There starting to become more equal, and that would push 'em back a few steps I'd say.
Besides, managing one is hard enough, how are you gonna manage 6? It's a little weird in my book. I don't think our legal system should be in any way based on the bible. It's justice system is way out of whack.

There are different types of polygamous marriages. If two people are friends and want to 'share' a spouse and the spouse likes the other person, what is the big deal?

If I found a male and female couple that wanted another partner (and I would be intimate with both) what is so harmful about that?

If I weren't Christian, I couldn't see any argument to not be involved in those sorts of relationships...
 
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oldrooster said:
There are many families here in Utah that practice it, it is not a positive. Plus many of the wives are married to their husbands when they are 13 or 14. Not a good practice. It is always man + many wives, never the other way around......Plus no man has ever done anything bad enough to deserve 2 wives.....hee hee....

Those marriages involve a concern of consent. While that may be a problem in some marriages, the issue is regarding all the partners giving consent and being happy with the arrangements.
 
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Here is what I am afraid of: going to bed with the same woman day after day for years. Eventually, perhaps not after long, she gets fat. She gets whiny. She gets old. All you guys who are married know what I am talking about.

That is enough to persuade me to remain single for the rest of my life. But then I am missing out on children. Children need at least two parents. If I never get married, I'll never have a Xerox copy of myself to successfully raise and make up for all my personal shortcomings.

Polygamy solves both problems. After my first wife gets fat/old/whiny/whatever, I can stop hitting her and start hitting a sweet young one instead. Maybe my wives would even keep themselves desirable to compete for my attention.

I could do this only when I am rich. If I ever get rich, that is what I plan to do.
 
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