- Feb 8, 2019
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Well, at least for me.
My wife was diagnosed with MS around 17 years ago. She was OK for the first couple of years, but I moved
my office back home 15 years ago to take care of her. We were basically housebound for the first 10 years.
She had friends who would come over to visit and later had "helpers" who would come in every morning to get her out of bed, bathe and dress her. I made new friends by joining a local brew club which meets once a month.
After 13 years I was completely drained: mentally, emotionally and physically. Her brother came over to spot me off for a few weeks and I asked him to decide what we should do. I was too close to the situation to make a rational decision.
He decided she should go into assisted living. She has been there for a bit over 2 years now. I was devastated, especially when they took her hospital bed away. It left a big hole in our bedroom and in my heart. Still, I am glad her brother made that decision. She is being well taken care of and I had become unable to take care of her any longer.I couldn't have made that decision; I would have felt like I was abandoning her.
We had our 20th anniversary this year.
I sold our house last year. It was way too big for just me and it held too many bittersweet memories. I've been living in a motel trying to figure out what to do next.
So my "difficult decision" is how do I go on with my life? I'm getting close to semi-retirement and don't want to live around here much longer. I offered to move her to another assisted living facility near where I plan on moving, but she doesn't want to leave her friends and family.
We talk on the phone every night, but I only see her for around an hour every Sunday.
Am I wrong in moving away from her and starting a new life?
I would greatly appreciate your thoughts.
Thanks for reading.
My wife was diagnosed with MS around 17 years ago. She was OK for the first couple of years, but I moved
my office back home 15 years ago to take care of her. We were basically housebound for the first 10 years.
She had friends who would come over to visit and later had "helpers" who would come in every morning to get her out of bed, bathe and dress her. I made new friends by joining a local brew club which meets once a month.
After 13 years I was completely drained: mentally, emotionally and physically. Her brother came over to spot me off for a few weeks and I asked him to decide what we should do. I was too close to the situation to make a rational decision.
He decided she should go into assisted living. She has been there for a bit over 2 years now. I was devastated, especially when they took her hospital bed away. It left a big hole in our bedroom and in my heart. Still, I am glad her brother made that decision. She is being well taken care of and I had become unable to take care of her any longer.I couldn't have made that decision; I would have felt like I was abandoning her.
We had our 20th anniversary this year.
I sold our house last year. It was way too big for just me and it held too many bittersweet memories. I've been living in a motel trying to figure out what to do next.
So my "difficult decision" is how do I go on with my life? I'm getting close to semi-retirement and don't want to live around here much longer. I offered to move her to another assisted living facility near where I plan on moving, but she doesn't want to leave her friends and family.
We talk on the phone every night, but I only see her for around an hour every Sunday.
Am I wrong in moving away from her and starting a new life?
I would greatly appreciate your thoughts.
Thanks for reading.