Our Christian homes are not what they should be we all know this we all struggle in the area of the home. Our society rises and falls based upon the spiritual success of the Christian home. Try this throw out all the Family Help books, fire the marriage counselors, and turn off Dr. Phil!!!
Open the scriptures to Ephesians 5 and let us keep it real simple 3 simple commands. You folks may already know this but in case you dont then here we go!
1. Husbands, love your wives.
Do you know why God commanded the man to love his wife? Because men dont naturally love. We men are rough, crude, analytical, deal with the facts type creatures. We think with our heads based upon the facts. We are naturally tender. We are hard by nature. Our problem is not our wives our problem is we dont love our wives unconditionally. When our wives start acting up instead of seeking to be the big corrector maybe we need to see if we have been neglecting this simple command. But, one says, Yea, but my wife is a rough one and cant cook, clean, talks mean to me, etc. So, God says to love her. Yea, but my wife looks rough in the morning and when I get home! Ok, love her. Yea, but my wife . Ok, love her. Yea, if she would just submit then Id love her! God commanded you to love whether she submitted to you or not.
Men need to love their wives no matter what.
2. Wives, submit to your own husbands.
Do you know why God commanded the wife to submit to their own husbands? Women dont submit naturally. God gave them a tender heart they naturally love but that submission is another thing. Yea, but husband makes all the wrong decisions! Ok, submit and trust God. Yea, but my husband is a derpis sometimes! (Derpis our family name for being whacky or stupid.) Ok, submit and trust God. Yea, but he is selfish, non-understanding, etc. Ok, submit and trust God. Yea, but he doesnt love me! God told you to submit. You were commanded to submit whether he loved you or not.
Am I saying to submit to unscriptural or cruel requests? Of course not you know what Im talking about here.
By the way the scriptures say Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, notice the word own think about this and women in the work place.
Women need to submit to their own husbands.
3. Children, obey your parents in the Lord.
Do you know why God commanded the children to obey their parents? Children do not naturally obey. Yea, but my parents are weird! Ok, God told you to obey. Yea, but I just dont understand why they do things. Ok, God told you to obey you havent learned enough yet. Yea, but my way is better. God told you to obey.
Children need to obey their parents.
You see how simple that is three commands:
Husbands love.
Wives submit.
Children obey.
Do you realize how much would be solved if we would obey those three simple commands!?!?!?
Life is so simple oh, the simplicity that is in Christ!!! Oh, how we make it so complicated.
I close with a personal example. Years ago my wife and I were having some rough problems. We went to our preacher. He told us to both go home write down all our grievances and what we thought the problems were and then give them to him. After giving him our list of grievances he told us he would compile the list, study the issues, and then we would meet again at his house and he would give his thoughts on the matter.
So, after a week we met at the house. We sat there he gave us the list and asked us if it was accurate and he sat there a minute or two in complete quietness. He then sat back, looked at me and said, Do you know what your problem is Brett? You are an unloving husband.
He then sat back and looked at my wife and said, Do you know what your problem is Jan? You are an unsubmissive wife.
That was it case closed he never discussed all the details or our grievances against each other for our grievances were not the issue the issue was we were not fulfilling the role God gave to both of us and that is what he spent his time expounding. That was a great lesson on marriage.
We still struggle in these areas but at least we know where to look at first when problems arise.
May God bless!
Open the scriptures to Ephesians 5 and let us keep it real simple 3 simple commands. You folks may already know this but in case you dont then here we go!
1. Husbands, love your wives.
Do you know why God commanded the man to love his wife? Because men dont naturally love. We men are rough, crude, analytical, deal with the facts type creatures. We think with our heads based upon the facts. We are naturally tender. We are hard by nature. Our problem is not our wives our problem is we dont love our wives unconditionally. When our wives start acting up instead of seeking to be the big corrector maybe we need to see if we have been neglecting this simple command. But, one says, Yea, but my wife is a rough one and cant cook, clean, talks mean to me, etc. So, God says to love her. Yea, but my wife looks rough in the morning and when I get home! Ok, love her. Yea, but my wife . Ok, love her. Yea, if she would just submit then Id love her! God commanded you to love whether she submitted to you or not.
Men need to love their wives no matter what.
2. Wives, submit to your own husbands.
Do you know why God commanded the wife to submit to their own husbands? Women dont submit naturally. God gave them a tender heart they naturally love but that submission is another thing. Yea, but husband makes all the wrong decisions! Ok, submit and trust God. Yea, but my husband is a derpis sometimes! (Derpis our family name for being whacky or stupid.) Ok, submit and trust God. Yea, but he is selfish, non-understanding, etc. Ok, submit and trust God. Yea, but he doesnt love me! God told you to submit. You were commanded to submit whether he loved you or not.
Am I saying to submit to unscriptural or cruel requests? Of course not you know what Im talking about here.
By the way the scriptures say Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, notice the word own think about this and women in the work place.
Women need to submit to their own husbands.
3. Children, obey your parents in the Lord.
Do you know why God commanded the children to obey their parents? Children do not naturally obey. Yea, but my parents are weird! Ok, God told you to obey. Yea, but I just dont understand why they do things. Ok, God told you to obey you havent learned enough yet. Yea, but my way is better. God told you to obey.
Children need to obey their parents.
You see how simple that is three commands:
Husbands love.
Wives submit.
Children obey.
Do you realize how much would be solved if we would obey those three simple commands!?!?!?
Life is so simple oh, the simplicity that is in Christ!!! Oh, how we make it so complicated.
I close with a personal example. Years ago my wife and I were having some rough problems. We went to our preacher. He told us to both go home write down all our grievances and what we thought the problems were and then give them to him. After giving him our list of grievances he told us he would compile the list, study the issues, and then we would meet again at his house and he would give his thoughts on the matter.
So, after a week we met at the house. We sat there he gave us the list and asked us if it was accurate and he sat there a minute or two in complete quietness. He then sat back, looked at me and said, Do you know what your problem is Brett? You are an unloving husband.
He then sat back and looked at my wife and said, Do you know what your problem is Jan? You are an unsubmissive wife.
That was it case closed he never discussed all the details or our grievances against each other for our grievances were not the issue the issue was we were not fulfilling the role God gave to both of us and that is what he spent his time expounding. That was a great lesson on marriage.
We still struggle in these areas but at least we know where to look at first when problems arise.
May God bless!