A Consideration..........

[Jenna]

Do you think that it is improper for an adult child to nudge their parents back toward each other to reconcile their marriage? Some people seem to think that suddenly the world becomes right again when a divorce is finalized, and that somehow the sun starts to shine again. This definitely hasn't been the case for my parents. My father has found out that the grass really was not greener on the other side, and is learning what it is like to really feel lonely. He's going through some good lessons about what is important, how love changes a relationship, and how empty things can feel without that real love connection. On the other end of things, my mother is just miserable. She pines over my father every night, though she won't admit it to many other people. She misses him terribly and still loves him. She says that she will not date or re-marry because she still feels married to him and doesn't have the heart to become involved in another relationship.

Well, the last time that my mom was in town, my dad asked her over to his boat to watch a movie. They spent some time together, and apparently my dad kept placing his hand on my mom's knee, and even tried kissing her. I know that there is something there, something that could probably overpower the hurt between them, if only they had some solid support. I've already talked with my mom about her feelings for my dad and what she would ideally like from the future. I know that if my dad can show himself to be a man of honor and really invest himself in the relationship, she would take him back. I've considered talking with my dad to see where he stands, but I'm hesitant to. I'm not sure if this is something that I should do, or if I am somehow stepping over some kind of boundary. It just seems that they are both miserable without each other, and that maybe they could finally learn to be happy together. What do you think?

 

[seekfirst]

I guess a lot would depend on your relationship with your dad, and how easy it is to open up to eachother. Does he know your mom feels the way that she does? I would hope if he did, then he wouldn't be going over there putting his hand on her knee and kissing her if he didn't want to get back together with her. Of course, pray about it...and based on your past conversations with your dad, decide from there. Is both your parents Christian? Give it to God, and be open to His leading...and maybe an opportunity will come up that you'll be able to guide them both. I am sorry I can't be much help...I hope others can help more!!

 

[bkg]

Restoration is God's will... Does that mean you can help nudge that along? Wow - I don't know. Everytime I've tried to nudge along my own restoration, it's failed miserably. But as an outsider, maybe you'd have better "luck"? No good answers from this guy, but I'll say this: With God, all things are possible!!!!!!!