A Christian you say?

[Jonathon]

So I met my bestfriend some years ago and last year I told her that I liked her, well around then I kinda went to her church too but like I never thought that I would wanna be a christian. So like I started to go to church more and than one day me and her was talking because well yeah she also likes me too but she told me that i would have to wait and that the only way she would date me is if I become a christian. Now i'm up to the point now to where I am becoming a christian and I meet the pastor this saterday or something. Well basicly I am becoming a christian because I want to not because of her, but the fact is I have and still is very much inlove with her. The problem is I don't want her to think that I am doing this just because of her, I mean I told her before but I don't know if she really beleived me even though she seemed like she did, but I also would like to be with her. Now it is kinda hard because if I try anything to soon she would think that I did it only because of her, and if I act on it too late than there is a chance that it will end, specialy since she is moving in about two years or so. I am really not sure what I should do ecause well I never done this nor had a girlfriend before, or even liked anyone. I have always been a religious type person and it was mostly because she was religous that kinda guided me to her.

Now my question is what should I do?

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

Now my question is what should I do?

Give up dating for lent. Quick! Start to day you're already a day late!!!

Gives you a 40 day waiting period!

In all honesty, depending on how faithful you are in God, you could do something like that. Just NOT DATE, trust that if God wants you two together, it'll happen on His time, and if not, just be happy that your friendship with her brought you to Christ kindof thing.

But, if gives God an opportunity to work in your life, and gives you the chance to demonstrate to her that you're going to church for the right reasons.

Then, in a year or whatever time frame you set, if it's meant to happen it'll happen. And if it doesn't happen, then maybe it's not the right time or right girl. Either way, concentrate your efforts on the Jebus and you'll be fine.

 

[Tink]

Give up dating for lent. Quick! Start to day you're already a day late!!!

Gives you a 40 day waiting period!

In all honesty, depending on how faithful you are in God, you could do something like that. Just NOT DATE, trust that if God wants you two together, it'll happen on His time, and if not, just be happy that your friendship with her brought you to Christ kindof thing.

But, if gives God an opportunity to work in your life, and gives you the chance to demonstrate to her that you're going to church for the right reasons.

Then, in a year or whatever time frame you set, if it's meant to happen it'll happen. And if it doesn't happen, then maybe it's not the right time or right girl. Either way, concentrate your efforts on the Jebus and you'll be fine.

Amen.

So be it.

 

[simmeringabsolute]

I suggest you give it some time. Let her see you for who you are and what you've become. Two years is a long while.

 

[g85]

you can talk to her... tell her that you became interested in God (maybe coz of her)... But that your desicion to follow Jesus wasnt based on your feelings for her. I dont see why you should wait to date her. Talk to her, see what she thinks... Tell her you are afraid she might think this or that She'll understand ... I know I would... Good luck! God bless!

 

[Gardener101]

So I met my bestfriend some years ago and last year I told her that I liked her, well around then I kinda went to her church too but like I never thought that I would wanna be a christian. So like I started to go to church more and than one day me and her was talking because well yeah she also likes me too but she told me that i would have to wait and that the only way she would date me is if I become a christian. Now i'm up to the point now to where I am becoming a christian and I meet the pastor this saterday or something. Well basicly I am becoming a christian because I want to not because of her, but the fact is I have and still is very much inlove with her. The problem is I don't want her to think that I am doing this just because of her, I mean I told her before but I don't know if she really beleived me even though she seemed like she did, but I also would like to be with her. Now it is kinda hard because if I try anything to soon she would think that I did it only because of her, and if I act on it too late than there is a chance that it will end, specialy since she is moving in about two years or so. I am really not sure what I should do ecause well I never done this nor had a girlfriend before, or even liked anyone. I have always been a religious type person and it was mostly because she was religous that kinda guided me to her.

Now my question is what should I do?

What should you do?

Simple.

Focus on Christ and becoming a Christian.


Oh....and never try to get a female best friend. Doesn't usually work.

 

[miss_klara]

Just wanted to say... Congratulations on this exciting new lifestyle you're taking on!! The girl aside for a moment, I'm stoked for you!

As far as the girl is concerned, you need to be as honest with ehr as you have been with us. Let her know where you stand, so she knows there's something there - but as others have suggested, take some time before you go any further. You're on a huge curve of learning and change at the moment, and if she sees you make that your first priority before you explore your options with her, she will see that this is a heart change, and not a boy claiming Christianity in order to get a girl. She will no doubt respect your patience, provided she knows from day #1 the way you feel for her...

Oh....and never try to get a female best friend. Doesn't usually work.

As for the 'not dating best friends' thing... Hmm, I tend to disagree. These relationships can certainly be messy if there's a break-up, as your history will generally make a strong friendship uncomfortable, at least at first. However, friendship is an excellent foundation for a relationship - with a best friend, you already know them through and through and can skip the whole (sometimes awkward) getting-to-know-you process. Going from best friends to a dating relationship is certainly awkward for a short period of time, but if you can get past that initial "so what do we do now?" phase, you're in for an amazing relationship.
But then, I'm biased. My boyfriend was my best friend for a year before we took it further

 

[~HopeFloats~]

Ian you da MAN

 

[intricatic]

Oy vai, that's a rough situation.

I'd go with what ike said. If you're serious about your relationship with God the words of scripture are clear enough about that.

33 But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
(Matthew 6)

 

[PassionateOne]

Well, I think your gf did have a little part with your walk with Christ......it just brought you a little closer to Him. I think it's GREAT that you want to do this for yourself....instead of doing it just because you love your gf.
I don't think you need to take a break from her.....your still young and you go thru alot of changes in your 20's. Your gf, too. I say just move forward with everything your doing now and be open and honest with your gf about how you feel about becoming a Christian. How your gf 'interprets' your honesty is another issue. If she is the type of person to ignore your true feelings and insists that your a Christian ONLY because of her....THEN I would re-evaluate if she is the right person for you, (if it bothers you)......but again, you're only going to know that thru time.

 

[Jonathon]

Truth is she was the one who brought me to that church for the first time, it was the only way I was able to meet the person that I had to in order for us to hang out, but it was my choice to continue to keep going and I enjoied every minute of it which is why I did and still continue to go today, not because of her evern though she was of course the one who started it all and help start the begining of my life, she even bought me a bible after I started going all the time for my birthday which i keep next to me at all times. Also the fact of the matter is I didn't plan on her being friends with her or anything it just happened and then some how it just changed in both of our feelings. We both don't act like we are friends with eachother, most days we normaly have our friends or other people, ask if we are married or boyfriend/girlfriend with eachother, the answer is of course no but we will still continue to act like that.(no kissing has been involved, I didn't mean that way) But as far from waiting or not waiting since everyone has a different opinion, I might in fact do both, both talk to her and wait a bit since both seem like great ideas and both together might both let her know everything, and the truth.

 

[AWorkInProgress]

So I met my bestfriend some years ago and last year I told her that I liked her, well around then I kinda went to her church too but like I never thought that I would wanna be a christian. So like I started to go to church more and than one day me and her was talking because well yeah she also likes me too but she told me that i would have to wait and that the only way she would date me is if I become a christian. Now i'm up to the point now to where I am becoming a christian and I meet the pastor this saterday or something. Well basicly I am becoming a christian because I want to not because of her, but the fact is I have and still is very much inlove with her. The problem is I don't want her to think that I am doing this just because of her, I mean I told her before but I don't know if she really beleived me even though she seemed like she did, but I also would like to be with her. Now it is kinda hard because if I try anything to soon she would think that I did it only because of her, and if I act on it too late than there is a chance that it will end, specialy since she is moving in about two years or so. I am really not sure what I should do ecause well I never done this nor had a girlfriend before, or even liked anyone. I have always been a religious type person and it was mostly because she was religous that kinda guided me to her.

Now my question is what should I do?

I think you got good head on your shoulders. It is great that you are checking into Christianity, lol took the fruit of my arrogence to finally make the move.

Only advice is be sincere about your search. If you believe there is a god, make sure you are worshipping the right God. Glenn Beck had a quote that I used in my search, 'For if there is a God, he would want honous questioning rather than blindfolded faith(fear)'. Ask any and all questions that your heart needs to know, for when you get your answers they fortify your faith. Also pick up the bible and see what it's all about yourself.

I know your girlfriend is very important to you, but ultimately your beliefs are more important. For they will define you if you accept Jesus as your savior.

I went to church as nonbeliever and I didn't sing or worship. I just listened to sermans and just try understand it all more. Later I finally accepted it, and been life change experience since.

Be sincere about your search, "Ask, Seek, Knock", and don't be afraid to ask the honous and tough questions.

 

[Jonathon]

I went to church as nonbeliever and I didn't sing or worship. I just listened to sermans and just try understand it all more. Later I finally accepted it, and been life change experience since.

I of course was the same way, when I first went there I wouldn't do anything but just sat/stood and listened. Though I might not know every single song by heart because of course there are too many xD and of course I never ever sing, but now I feel comfortable and I sing every song, go to the altar every now and then, and even talk about stuff and do things. I can't really say that I didn't beleive because I have always been close to god ever since I was younger and always put him first, but at the time it was awkward because I have went from a Jehovah Witness, to nothing, and now entering Christianity. I am a very very shy person, but am open with it comes to god, and when it comes to my friend, she was the one who brought me this life which I am thankful, and of course she got me to be more open with myself and others making me that that shy of a person anymore.

 

[Bubba1301]

Well... I think most of the advice given already has been good.
I have 5 words I often relate to people when they begin to stress over things like this: Relax, God is in control.

In order for us to really accept that we need to be spending time learning, talking to, and listening from God. Focus on Him, and everything will work out for His glory - no matter the outcome it will feel good if you're focused on him.

 

[Jonathon]

Well... I think most of the advice given already has been good.
I have 5 words I often relate to people when they begin to stress over things like this: Relax, God is in control.

In order for us to really accept that we need to be spending time learning, talking to, and listening from God. Focus on Him, and everything will work out for His glory - no matter the outcome it will feel good if you're focused on him.

You know, every time I have a problem or a question you have always seemed to reply to my posts. I am very greatful in this to you and to your posts.

 

[Bubba1301]

I just speak... er... type what I think.

 

[Jonathon]

I just speak... er... type what I think.

It still does alot of good that you and other people on here do, I just thought it was a bit odd though that you always reply to my posts xD but yeah this is kinda off subject so ^^'

 

[PassionateOne]

Well... I think most of the advice given already has been good.
I have 5 words I often relate to people when they begin to stress over things like this: Relax, God is in control.

In order for us to really accept that we need to be spending time learning, talking to, and listening from God. Focus on Him, and everything will work out for His glory - no matter the outcome it will feel good if you're focused on him.

 

[RefinedByFire]

For crying out loud man, you're 22 years old and you write like that? You sound like a pimple-faced teenager.

 

[Jonathon]

For crying out loud man, you're 22 years old and you write like that? You sound like a pimple-faced teenager.

I'm a kid at heart xD plus I didn't finish school so I went back a few years ago because I was out of school for a while and I felt that I needed to finish so. I guess you could say i'm still in highschool in a way. But yeah, I am and always will be a kid at heart.