A "break"

[UnbrokenSoul]

awww yay! that's amazing. Doesn't God work wonders when you get close to Him?
So my advice now you're closer to God... is don't stop working on it. You need to keep working on your relationship with God for Him to keep blessing you like this... When you start to slide, God fires these warning shots. Can you see how having failed to get your attention for so long, it took drastic action to get it? It got the result He wanted right? And now you've got things straight with God He's working things out.
Here's what you gotta do now.
Pray. Don't stop praying. Don't stop giving yourself, your feelings and your troubles over to God. Don't just pray when times are tough either, remember to pray when things are good too. I thank God every night for Lisa when I go to bed. I thank Him for giving me the most amazing and beautiful girl in the world, with the most beautiful heart and amazing passion for God. God loves it when you pray about the good things.
Bible. Keep reading your bible. I'm actually reading my way through the bible at the moment. I'm just getting to the end of 2 Chronicles. Kings and Chronicles are horrendously long, but I've since realised that they need to be that long to get the message across. It's essentially the story of the Israelites, how each of their Kings treated God, and how God respectively blessed or punished the people. Kings who did what pleased God had long successful reigns, kings who disobeyed God or outright rejected Him brought destruction on themselves. Apply that to our lives, and you'll notice how things are better when you get close to God and how when you start to drift, while God doesn't let go, things dont seem to go as they should. Lisa and I do devotions together whenever we can, and that is the most amazing feeling, connecting with God together, and we provoke each other's thoughts. Why not try it with your girlfriend? Ask her if you can both do some bible studies together, and watch the look on her face but I also read the bible alone, and that helps enormously too.

Yes.. God has blessed me tremendously as soon as I trusted in Him.. however, we are still not b/f and g/f.. As with all things, time is the test.. we want to be sure of EVERYTHING before we get back together, because then we can rest assured that this sort of thing won't happen again.. neither of us can go through this heartache again.. So, hopefully with God's help he will make us one again, and this time it'll be the right way.. we have vowed to stay away from physical temptation, as that is what hindered our growth the most in the past.. and we are each working with God alone to fix any weaknesses we have in our walk with Him..

I am just so anxious and excited to share this new mindset with her, but I need to wait for God's timing, not mine..

I have brought up the idea for a bible study/devotional together, but she wants to build a stronger personal relationship with Him first before she attempts it together with me.. She told me to keep asking her until she says 'yes', because that's when she is ready to share that together.. but I am guessing she'll be ready to share that when she is ready to be together again..

Overall, I still miss her more than most can imagine.. but I need to learn patience through God.. I do trust in Him, but it's the waiting that kills me..

Thanks for all the support, it has really helped me out..

 

[UnbrokenSoul]

Update:

Well, we are still friends.. This whole experience has really taken a toll on me emotionally, but I will continue to trust in the Lord, that whatever happens is His will.. Keep the prayers coming, I really need them at this point in my life.. Thank you

 

[ilovelucyMT]

Being friends is good!! You will make it through this. Just trust in Jesus.

I don't believe in "taking a break". You are either together or you aren't!! Your SO shouldn't hinder your relationship with the Lord, it should strengthen it!!

 

[ephraim101]

Friend, this is a hard time period. Always remember that the Lord loves you no matter what. I think that you will find that upon finding the Lord, he will guide you in understanding your love for your significant other. If that love is meant to be, the Lord will let you know.

 

[ephraim101]

ilovelucyMT--

I think "taking a break" is a way for his significant other to communicate to him the importance of him finding the Lord.

You will be in my prayers tonight.

 

[ilovelucyMT]

ilovelucyMT--

I think "taking a break" is a way for his significant other to communicate to him the importance of him finding the Lord.

You will be in my prayers tonight.

I know. I didn't mean for that to be made directly to him, just in general.

 

[UnbrokenSoul]

well, so far all my prayer and trust in the Lord has given me great peace in whatever happens.. I know that whatever happens, will be because He allowed it to.. I will continue to grow regardless if we end up together or not, and I am quite proud of this new mindset that God has given me.. I will wait patiently in the Lord for His answer, and I am now ready to hear Him.. thanks for all the prayers, keep them coming they are working..

 

[UnbrokenSoul]

Our relationship is officially over.. she is not sure if she loves me.. i'm in for a rough next few weeks/months trying to let her go.. please pray for me.. i will definitely need it..

If we are meant to be together, God will bring us together again.. but i can't put all my hope into that possibility..

 

[mikeyp]

oh man, I'm sorry about that...
Prayers definitely winging their way to you.
Cling on to God, He will heal your heart.
Don't stop growing toward God. Keep fighting to be closer to Him.
Chin up and soldier on. He's got someone better for you out there who won't hurt you like this.

 

[Blank123]

Our relationship is officially over.. she is not sure if she loves me.. i'm in for a rough next few weeks/months trying to let her go.. please pray for me.. i will definitely need it..

If we are meant to be together, God will bring us together again.. but i can't put all my hope into that possibility..

 

[nbiol]

Our relationship is officially over.. she is not sure if she loves me.. i'm in for a rough next few weeks/months trying to let her go.. please pray for me.. i will definitely need it..

If we are meant to be together, God will bring us together again.. but i can't put all my hope into that possibility..

I'll be praying for you man... Really...

 

[Nobility]

It's always hard isn't it...
I'm praying that God will ease the big hit on you...

Remember God has awesome things in store for you... It's hard to go through this (I know... I've been there myself ) But god can bring you through.

 

[UnbrokenSoul]

this girl is not for me... she has done things to my heart in this time that are unforgivable.. i will not go into detail, but i will just say that people can change on you in a heart beat.. one second she loves you, the next second she starts dating some other guy.. im just so hurt and confused i don't know where to start... please pray for me, I need it VERY badly... i don't want to do anything stupid, and only God can ease my pain...

 

[mikeyp]

praying for you dude, that's really rough

 

[UnbrokenSoul]

I've had so much support from family and friends... they are all shocked at the way she went about everything.. If you knew her you just wouldn't be able to believe she did what she did... It is not the same girl that we have all come to know and love for the last 4 years...this whole incident has just made her look really bad and look like a fool.. The disrespect she has shown me and our 3 1/2 year relationship is just appalling.. Like if it meant nothing, she threw it out the window, and replaced it with garbage..

I know God is just and He won't let what she has done pass. With a lot of prayer and support from people who really care about me I have been able to sort through all my strong emotional thoughts and come to the logical conclusion that the problem this whole time was her and not me.. Her family is upset, those that knew her in church are upset, her friends are upset.. I don't think she realizes the magnitude of what she has done..

But glory be to God, He saved me from BIGGER future heartache.. I mean, imagine if this would've developed while engaged, or even married.. So instead of blaming God for letting this happen to me.. I am thanking Him that He showed me this in such a way, that there is no doubt she is not the one for me..

I appreciate all the prayers and advice from everyone here on this forum in the last month, and I ask that you continue to pray for me, because I will have to go through a long healing process.. this whole experience has really taken a toll on me emotionally.

 

[ExDrip]

My girlfriend is to the point where she wants to take a "break" aswell, but for slightly different reasons. I have very strong with god and she wants to take a break so she can find herself and find her purpose in life. She doubts that I am completely in love with god, I think that I just am very bad at showing emotions for anything, so people cannot tell. Her friend told her basically to break up with me so she can be closer to god, which is devastating to me because growing closer to god apart is not nearly as good as growing closer to him together.

 

[Andrealin]

Just wondering how you are doing now?

 

[UnbrokenSoul]

My girlfriend is about to the point where she wants to take a "break" aswell, but for slightly different reasons. I have very strong with god and she wants to take a break so she can find herself and find her purpose in life. For some reason everyone doubts that I am completely in love with god, I think that I just am very bad at showing emotions for anything, so people cannot tell. Her friend told her basically to break up with me so she can be closer to god, which is devistating to me because growing closer to god apart is not nearly as good as growing closer to him together. I will use the information on this thread to help with my current situation.

My prayers are with you, and just remember nomatter how angry you get to keep your fate in gods hands and he will steer you in the right direction in the end.

I have to say that I have never grown closer to God than after the break... All I can say is that if you two are meant to be, then God will not keep you apart. As much as it hurts, you should support her decision and just give her time, don't rush anything.. Trust me, the more you intervene in God's work, the more you will suffer.. God wants you to trust in Him and not worry about it.. when you have this attitude of complete reliance on God, not only will she see it, but others will too, and your testimony through any hard time will shine..
In my church, people have a very high respect for me because of how I handled everything and how I continued to grow regardless if I stayed with her or not... She on the other hand lost all respect from anyone who ever cared about her, even her own family.. She has shown that her motives were wrong, and used God's name to justify it.. Not only that but she has actually fallen further from God than ever...

Anyways, keep your head up and keep on keeping on.. You will have bad days, but those are the days you do some extra praying.. Let her know that you will give her room to grow without you, and that you will be waiting for her...Don't go crying to her everyday.. give her some room to think, and she will come back to you if she is meant to be yours.. and if she doesn't come back, then so be it.. God is wiser than us, and he knows what is best...

I'll be praying for you Bud.. I know what it's like.. just don't make the same mistakes I did..

Just wondering how you are doing now?

I am actually doing fantastic.. God has shown me so much in the last month.. Things that I was too blind to see while I was in "love".. I have matured so much mentally, and spiritually.. God has saved me from a lot, and I am happy to be without her.. I am already used to being single again (ladies coming from all directions lol).. But I am being extremely picky and I will not rush anything..

I have a much closer relationship with God, and my family now.. and I can truly say that I am happy with my life.. I have everything I need, and God continues to bless me everyday...

Thanks to everyone who gave me advice through my hard times.. I really appreciate it and I know God will bless you all one way or another..

 

[UnbrokenSoul]

Quick update::

Guess who's trying to come back to me now?

I know people make mistakes in life.. but I mean this girl ripped my heart out and threw it in the garbage... She screwed up big time...

 

[Nobility]

My parents gave me wise advice as a teenager that I (luckily) followed:
Don't get into a relationship a second time with the same person unless things have SIGNIFICANTLY changed.