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Wish you well and hope it works. Try diet too, I know there's a big difference for me on days when I eat a light salad vs a bunch of fast food.

Not sure where your anxiety stems from, if it is generalized or from a traumatic event. This is something I've been taking a look at lately, no drugs involved. Haven' tried it myself, but it keeps crossing my path What is EMDR? | EMDR Institute – EYE MOVEMENT DESENSITIZATION AND REPROCESSING THERAPY
 
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I'm going to be seeing a psychiatrist for my anxiety disorder and stuff soon - my first appointment is on the 16th. I really hope that this helps since I have already tried pretty much everything else with no improvement. Please pray that this will go well and will help me. I'll let you know how it goes in this thread.

Also, I think I've made a discovery...spending too much time on CF appears to actually make my mood worse and my thoughts more negative. Recently I've been spending more of my online time watching gaming videos instead, and I notice that my mood has been better and my thoughts less negative, even a little more creative. It also helps that I have some things to do and look forward to right now!

Yay! Yes, spending too much time on CF or other similar forums isn't very healthy for anxiety and mental health, largely because a lot of it is arguments and disagreements rather than uplifting things. Glad you are enjoying the videos...it is definitely good to have things to look forward to each day. Prayers to you. :)
 
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I'm going to be seeing a psychiatrist for my anxiety disorder and stuff soon - my first appointment is on the 16th. I really hope that this helps since I have already tried pretty much everything else with no improvement. Please pray that this will go well and will help me. I'll let you know how it goes in this thread.

Also, I think I've made a discovery...spending too much time on CF appears to actually make my mood worse and my thoughts more negative. Recently I've been spending more of my online time watching gaming videos instead, and I notice that my mood has been better and my thoughts less negative, even a little more creative. It also helps that I have some things to do and look forward to right now!

Social media, including CF, is not too uplifting, especially when disagreements turn nasty. It doesn't bother me as I expect it and am used to it, but if it bothers you it's best to stop visiting social media altogether.
 
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Also, I think I've made a discovery...spending too much time on CF appears to actually make my mood worse and my thoughts more negative.
Good to recognize this. (not just mood change, but actually even worse: feeling 'good' and getting more and more deceived each day) .
It has happened to many people, many still here, and many long gone.
 
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One thing that has helped me is to play uplifting Christian praise music. I remember a friend I went to college with & he and his wife were missionaries in west Africa. His wife developed fibromyalgia & was tired & in pain a lot. I felt the Lord's prompting & gave her a wonderful praise CD from friends writing songs the Lord had given them.

When I saw them on their next furlough, she told me she had worn that CD completely out & it had been such a blessing to her, getting her mind off her issues & singing & praising the Lord. Many wonderful praise songs on utube that can play for hours while you are going about your business. I play some almost daily! Hope that might help, in addition to what you are doing. I am proud of you!
 
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I'm going to be seeing a psychiatrist for my anxiety disorder and stuff soon - my first appointment is on the 16th. I really hope that this helps since I have already tried pretty much everything else with no improvement. Please pray that this will go well and will help me. I'll let you know how it goes in this thread.

Also, I think I've made a discovery...spending too much time on CF appears to actually make my mood worse and my thoughts more negative. Recently I've been spending more of my online time watching gaming videos instead, and I notice that my mood has been better and my thoughts less negative, even a little more creative. It also helps that I have some things to do and look forward to right now!

I've been tinkering here and there with MAME lately, so much fan boy nostalgia for me. I remember going to arcades in the 80's and early 90's as a teenager and the excitement of searching for and finding the games which fascinated me the most. If I had to choose a favorite arcade game developer/publisher, it would easily be CAPCOM. But I'm old enough to remember seeing a few of the classics like Pac-Man, Donkey Kong, etc in arcades. It's crazy how despite the outdated graphics and sounds, how much fun the classics remain to this day. :) There are a couple of really interesting video documentaries about high scores in Donkey Kong, and the Twin Galaxies drama is a saga in itself. Some of the older players like
Billy Mitchell were idolized for their ability to achieve record high scores in arcade game like Pac-Man. But how the mighty have fallen...while new champions arise. :)
 
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sad to hear that you might have to get on something for your anxiety as so many people are addicted to those types of medications but I know how horribly painful it is to have social anxiety. try having it as a man lol, it's even worse because it's like the opposite of what women want in a man. some women can get away with it because shy women are cute. but still the torment is real.

social media really makes a bad impact on young ladies. suicide rates for them have gone up while all other forms of death for them have gone down. it's probably a terrible idea to let a 11 year old have access to things like facebook.
 
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well I hope you can get the help you need. you're a kind person and your worse fault that i knew of was wanting people to be in peace with each other :p
 
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I never did make an update on this situation, did I? I guess I'll do that now.

It's been kind of a crazy experience since I started seeing a psychiatrist. First I had to try a medication that actually made my anxiety worse, so I went off it. Then I started taking another one which actually helps...but its effects don't last long enough. I take it about 30 minutes before I go to bed and I feel nice and relaxed the rest of the night, but when I wake up in the morning I'm back to feeling anxious. It's supposed to help me sleep too, but I'm not sure how much it's helping. I'm sleeping later a lot of the time but still not sleeping wonderfully. Now I'm also taking another medication for anxiety, OCD, and depression, but I don't know how much it's helping. Overall, I don't notice a lot of difference.

I have good days where I feel more like myself and I can make it, but I also have bad days where I feel in a rush or really down and like I can't take much more. I've tried some natural remedies and changing my diet, but that hasn't helped much, if at all. I'm tired of being mentally ill, I wish I could just find the right thing that would make me feel better.

Keep up the prayers, please. I appreciate all that everyone has done for me so far. :purpleheart:
Will definitely continue praying for you, Multis. :hug::blueheart::blueheart:

No matter what, just know that you have the love and support of many of us here on the forums. :)
 
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Med balances or choices are difficult; unfortunately, it's a crap-shoot and by the time we are ready to try them, we are usually already at a very bad point, so if it makes it worse from there...

Hopefully things like this will become more common and further developed
Blood Test Can Help Determine Best Medication for Depression

"up to a third of depressed patients don’t improve during their first medication, and about 40 percent of people who start taking antidepressants stop taking them within three months."

UT Southwestern Medical Center researchers believe their findings will help the medical field move beyond what has essentially been a guessing game of prescribing antidepressants.“Currently, our selection of depression medications is not any more superior than flipping a coin, and yet that is what we do. Now we have a biological explanation to guide treatment of depression,”
 
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Also, I think I've made a discovery...spending too much time on CF appears to actually make my mood worse and my thoughts more negative.
This is true for most people, maybe for everyone, as far as I can see indicated the last ten or more years on forums.

Other things also have the same or worse effects on people, many of which we are forbidden from mentioning.
 
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I'm not sure if you have generalized anxiety or not, but one of the things we do in 12-Step recovery is make a "Fears Inventory". Different people do this different ways but essentially, handwrite down your top 10 fears on a piece of paper in a private journal. For each fear, answer these two questions, writing the answer out, as honestly as you can: "How has self reliance failed me with this fear?" "How can reliance upon God help me with this fear?"

I would encourage a lot of prayer while doing this for insight, both in writing the fears and the answers - you might find God revealing to you a root of your anxiety that is correct, but which you could not see or identify yourself previously. I went through a fears inventory with a sponsee yesterday, which also involved me sharing my own that I had written down a few years ago. Some of my fears were no longer there - faith had replaced them, or I had changed my way of life and they were no longer relevant. In other cases, I had literally experienced my worst fears in the intervening years, and God had gotten me through them. Incredibly painful, but after that happens... what else can life really do? And the fear is gone now.

I encouraged my sponsee to ask God what He has to say about each fear and I believe that he will get an answer that will relieve him from it.

Fear is not necessarily the same as generalized anxiety (and you are not in 12 Step recovery), but it's possible the anxiety *might* be stemming from a root cause you have or have not identified. The questions and the prayers and the searching might help. Certainly, they shouldn't hurt.

Wish you well. Remember, God is a God of Peace and is at peace Himself. And also, that you are His daughter whom He loves.
 
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I take it about 30 minutes before I go to bed and I feel nice and relaxed the rest of the night, but when I wake up in the morning I'm back to feeling anxious.

You probably don't need to hear this but I just let it go through me.

There's something quite supernatural about it that could manifest and affect other people with immediate and dramatic results.

It makes me wonder the real purpose of these drugs, whether for our protection or their protection. This world hates the extraordinary.

As I've said, you probably don't need to hear this!
 
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It makes me wonder the real purpose of these drugs, whether for our protection or their protection. This world hates the extraordinary.

People are doorways for the extraordinary to manifest and express itself in the natural world, if we allow it to or want it to. Honestly, I think for most people the door stays shut most of the time. They just spend their time in the world, kind of die without understanding the meaning or opportunity of life.

I've heard it said 'there's so much evil here, I just can't believe God exists. A good God would never allow the things that happen to happen, so obviously one does not exist, so there is no point in prayer'

How sadly ironic. When here He is saying 'Behold, I stand at the door and knock...'

I knew a woman who was brutally abused when she was a young girl by her father. One time, she started going to Church, and when he saw she was doing that, he attacked her again. Then he gave her a bible and said 'where is your God now?' because God had not defended her from him. Years later, we were cleaning out her room trying to get her into rehab, and she came across the bible and freaked into a panic attack. When I got her to calm down, she told me the story and I took the bible from her. Still have it. Thought long and hard about that question. And then I prayed about it.

The answer I got was: 'not in her father'. To the degree that God was present in her father, he would have defended his child from any harm, from any source. But he had chosen to become a doorway for something else, a long time ago.

I remember a few years ago, some guy shot up a church and killed a number of members, maybe even the pastor's daughter, I can't remember. People said 'well, obviously there is no God and prayer doesn't save or protect you from bullets or evil'

They don't understand.

Prayer doesn't save you from being shot.
Prayer saves you from being a shooter.
 
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To the degree that God was present in her father, he would have defended his child from any harm, from any source. But he had chosen to become a doorway for something else, a long time ago.

There's two forces at work here, good and evil.

Not everything supernatural is evil, some comes from God. It will begin to manifest more with the saints in the last days.

Don't reject it. The world will try to bury it, don't side with the world.

2 Timothy 3:5
having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people.

We are God's hands... But because many Christians love their lives so much, they are too afraid to get involved. This is why evil is rampant.
 
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Prayer doesn't save you from being shot.

I do want to caveat that a little bit. All the physical world is subject to the laws of God that He created, and I think some cirumstances and intersections that He has setup in advance. I think in *most* cases, he allows intentions to play out, so that Good may be seen to be Good, and Evil may be seen to be Evil. Sometimes He changes things, just by putting a thought into someone's head at the right time. To the degree He does that, it's Mercy, both for the target of the intention and the person that had the intention. I think we have a LOT more mercy than we think we do. Talking with a guy the other night, who had been framed, betrayed and jailed by an associate, and then the lawyer that he hired sold him out basically as a deal to get a better plea deal for a more high profile case. When he got out, he was consumed with revenge, and he planned the murder of the associate and the lawyer. He was on his way to execute that plan, when his cell phone rang.

It was his 7 year old son, who got the thought put in his head, to call his father that night at that moment. That saved his father from becoming a murderer. It's a decade later; he has struggled to put his life back together, but he is a good man and a servant of God. And his son still has a father.

Another guy, I don't know him well, but at Christmas he had reached a point where he was going to end his life. He was a marine. He disassembled his weapon, cleaned it, reassembled it, loaded it.

Put it to his head, and pulled the trigger.

Click.

His gun jammed.

"My guns," he said, "don't jam." From that point, he knew there was a God that wanted him around to tell that story, and some others. He tells it at Christmas to this day, as far as I know.

Another kid I knew struggled with addiction and alcoholism. Did ok for awhile, met him at a bible study some people in recovery started. Then I didn't hear from him or see him for a bit. After about a year, visiting his parents, he went to a nearby party with some friends and relapsed again. That night, high and drunk, came into his parents house, took their pistol, loaded it, went into the kitchen. I don't know what thoughts were going through his head. I know that a lot of people, including myself had prayed for him and offered to help.

He put the gun to his head, and pulled the trigger.

The gun didn't jam.
 
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