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[Take Heart]

Thanks for all the responses. God bless.

 

[yeshuaslavejeff]

Ignore their reactions, whether good, great, or horrible. Don't become proud nor prideful, nor self-conscience, nor affected by other's words.
(Lots of Proverbs, and other Scripture verifies this).

Let Yahweh accomplish what He Wants to through this all.

 

[faroukfarouk]

If you were invited as a guest to the wedding and saw an adult flower girl in her late 20's, what would be your reaction/internal thoughts about it?

I only ask because i was asked to be a flower girl. And at the time, I felt genuinely honored but after reading this one forum where a bride was asking people online if having an adult flower girl was weird, I started to feel ..different about the whole thing. And its too late to back out now as the bride had me order my own special dress (same style as the bridesmaids but just in an ivory color that matches the color of the brides dress *which is what the bride wanted*). Im also asked to wear a flower crown and of course throw the petals. That aside, what was your genuine initial reaction to the title of this thread?

I just want to prepare myself mentally and emotionally for whatever reaction I may get from the guests.

Hi; fellow Canuck!

I guess the emphasis is on making it a great day for the bride herself according to her wishes.

Wedding planning can be the source of lot of arguments. Having said this, I'm no expert on wedding planning!

It's easy to get a bit introspective, but really the other guests are going to be focused on the bride herself!

Sometimes wedding parties argue about bridesmaids dresses' sleeves, whether tattoos should be covered or not, etc.; there's probably no end to the arguments that can in theory arise.

 

[Take Heart]

Ignore their reactions, whether good, great, or horrible. Don't become proud nor prideful, nor self-conscience, nor affected by other's words.
(Lots of Proverbs, and other Scripture verifies this).

Let Yahweh accomplish what He Wants to through this all.

Thank you. I don't think I'll feel a sense of pride. To be quite honest, I feel a bit deflated/awkward. Though I'll try to not let whatever reactions I get bother me.

 

[faroukfarouk]

PS: @Take Heart I think it's probably best if what the bride asks for she gets (within reason); if she asked for a certain colour, then this is it; if she asks for tattoos to be covered, then cover them; and after all she is the centre of attention; it's her Big Day all along. The bridesmaids show 'reflected glory'.

 

[JAM2b]

I don't think it's an issue. My initial reaction to the title was it only matters how you feel about it. It's not common, but it's not a bad thing or weird. Some people have strong opinions about things that don't really matter. The thing is it's bad opinions we hear instead of the positive or neutral ones. No one is interested in hearing that something is OK.

In a wedding ceremony it's not really about anyone besides the bride and groom. Everything (and everyone) else is just part of the details.

I'd say go and do it, especially if the dress has been bought. You're too far into this commitment to back out. If someone doesn't like, then that's their emotion that they are responsible for. You're not doing anything wrong or weird by being a flower girl.

 

[Saricharity]

That's an interesting question. I had no idea that adults could be flower girls. I was just recently married and my youngest sister was my flower girl. She's five years old.
But now that I think about it, why does it have to be a child? I thinks it's just traditionally always been a role for a little girl.
I think it's wonderful to break with tradition sometimes. You may get some strange looks but I'm sure will be a beautiful flower woman. It is an honour and a wonderful joy to be part of a wedding. My advice would be to embrace the honour and enjoy it.
You will be showing people that weddings can be unique and special and wonderful and that it's okay to break tradition.

 

[yeshuaslavejeff]

Another Wonderful family time:
https://www.nytimes.com/2014/05/11/fashion/weddings/today-in-the-role-of-flower-girl-grandma.html

 

[Take Heart]

Thank you all. I feel much better now.

 

[faroukfarouk]

That's an interesting question. I had no idea that adults could be flower girls. I was just recently married and my youngest sister was my flower girl. She's five years old.
But now that I think about it, why does it have to be a child? I thinks it's just traditionally always been a role for a little girl.
I think it's wonderful to break with tradition sometimes. You may get some strange looks but I'm sure will be a beautiful flower woman. It is an honour and a wonderful joy to be part of a wedding. My advice would be to embrace the honour and enjoy it.
You will be showing people that weddings can be unique and special and wonderful and that it's okay to break tradition.

Many congrats. on your own wedding!

I'm sure you will have had a lovely day; God bless you guys.

 

[faroukfarouk]

Thank you all. I feel much better now.

YW; and for guests seeing members of the wedding party enjoying themselves is contagious.

 

[faroukfarouk]

In a wedding ceremony it's not really about anyone besides the bride and groom. Everything (and everyone) else is just part of the details.

(With the exception of the Scripture element, if present. )

 

[ubicaritas]

Most of the elements of wedding ceremonies have nothing to do with religion and everything to do with Germanic customs.

So I think its perfectly fine as long as everybody is OK with it.

 

[Rescued One]

Well, I don't know when the brides started having flower girls and ring bearers or why. But these days anything goes. One of my daughters chose black velvet dresses for her bridesmaids.

 

[Go Braves]

Well I think that's just fine, but I think I'd call her something else other than a Flower Girl in the program. Flower Bearer maybe?

 

[Radagast]

If you were invited as a guest to the wedding and saw an adult flower girl in her late 20's, what would be your reaction/internal thoughts about it?

THERE ARE NO RULES. If the bride wants you to throw petals, then throw the petals and help make it a great day.

 

[yeshuaslavejeff]

Well I think that's just fine, but I think I'd call her something else other than a Flower Girl in the program. Flower Bearer maybe?

"Hippie" ?

 

[Greg J.]

If you were invited as a guest to the wedding and saw an adult flower girl in her late 20's, what would be your reaction/internal thoughts about it?

I only ask because i was asked to be a flower girl. And at the time, I felt genuinely honored but after reading this one forum where a bride was asking people online if having an adult flower girl was weird, I started to feel ..different about the whole thing. And its too late to back out now as the bride had me order my own special dress (same style as the bridesmaids but just in an ivory color that matches the color of the brides dress *which is what the bride wanted*). Im also asked to wear a flower crown and of course throw the petals. That aside, what was your genuine initial reaction to the title of this thread?

I just want to prepare myself mentally and emotionally for whatever reaction I may get from the guests.

This is not really an issue about being a flower girl. There are no wedding police; that is, no rules that must be followed. It's about your expectations for yourself, where they came from, and how much you want to avoid feeling the pain of rejection (not meeting what you perceive to be other people's desires or standards). If you have already committed, it would probably be a bad idea for your relationship to the bride to back out now. Consider it a lesson learned about knowing yourself better, and trying to recognize when you have been programmed with expectations such that you need to stop and examine them before making a decision.

What, then, shall we say in response to this? If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all—how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things? Who will bring any charge against those whom God has chosen? It is God who justifies. (Romans 8:31-33, 1984 NIV)

I care very little if I am judged by you or by any human court; indeed, I do not even judge myself. (1 Corinthians 4:3, 1984 NIV)

Within the boundaries of what is moral, you are free to do anything you want, and God will be 100% supportive of you. God is always with you to love and help you and to give you faith, strength, and peace in your heart. Did you spend much time in prayer over the internal conflict that motivated you to write the original post? (Rhetorical question) It's never too late to receive something good from God, but you might have to ask.

 

[Dave-W]

THERE ARE NO RULES. If the bride wants you to throw petals, then throw the petals and help make it a great day.

Exactly. Whatever (within reason) will make her happy - DO IT!

 

[Dave-W]

I hope this will make you smile Flower Girl!!