6 months old

[~RENEE~]

I was talking with Cecil's physical therepist today. And she told me that developmentally Cecil is six months old.

Physically he is 15 months old. But according to her. as far as his. Gross motor development is concerned he is 6 months.

I asked her what could have caused this. She told me that it was most likely caused by the probs with his heart.

I believe that something went wrong when he was taken by c-section. How can I find out whether or not this is true. Cause if it is I want them to pay for what they put my baby through.

 

[Athaliamum]

First before looking into making anyone pay, I would take you son to the elders of your church and get him prayed for. Make sure they anoint him with oil, and as prayer descends time, pray for him from the moment of conception through to his current age. I don't think it has anything to do with a c-section. Birth is risky, there's never any garentees no matter what way a child is born.

 

[Elmarie]

Hi! My heart is broken for your sake. I know what you are going through - My son's problems are a direct result of drs' negligence, BUT you have to ask yourself the question: Will this be worth the fight? Firstly, the legal fees will be enormous and it sounds as if your medical bills aren't small either. How long will it take to prove your case and how much energy will it demand from you? It might be wiser to concentrate your energy, efforts and finances on your son, and trust the Lord for provision for him, instead of spending them on a fight that you are not sure you will win. More importantly, you will be able to move forward, instead of clinging to the pain of that event ( that cannot be changed, no matter how much the doctors pay.) Only God can heal your son and only God can heal your heart. It is natural to be upset and angry, but be careful that it doesn't lead you down the path of resentment and unforgiveness. If you've considered all of the above and still feel the same way, please don't do anything until you've enquired of God and have confirmation that you should take legal action.Trust the Lord. Please don't think I say these things lightly. These are choices I had to make too. With great compassion, Elmarie

 

[kayd1966]

Having a child with special needs is very heart breaking...as parents we go through so many emotions...guilt, grief, anger, etc.

I spent a lot of time trying to find someone to blame...then one day as I was driving my son home from another appointment, I started to cry...I cried and cried, when I got home, I left the kids with DH and went for a drive. I cried and cried some more...then yelled and had a real good fit...after all that...I realized all the energy I was putting into blaming someone could be better spent focusing on my son.

Crying out to God, made me realize that God had brought this little boy into my life for a reason. I finally found SOME rest in the fact that God does really know what He is doing.

Walking this road is not easy...its so hard some days...its heart breaking other days but then there are those days that are so amazing. The days when my boy makes me laugh and smile and have fun.

How you handle this will be a witness to the Lord. You will get to meet people that many around you will never get a chance to meet. The way to deal with your son and the way you treat others will allow you to show others into the Kingdom of God.

I know you are angry, hurt and scared...the future is so hard to face when its not what you expected. Lean on the Lord, let Him lead you through this and ask Him to show you what His plan is for you and your baby.