40....too late to start again?

[1stJohn]

Here I am....40.

THAT age. 40.

And here I am....separated, two children, money is tight, my heart is broken ( I do not annoy you, for details if you are curious just look at my thread in Christian advice called "I NEED advice".....but to make long things short, I am feeling miserable).

I am tired. My back aches. I no longer want to date, I no longer seem to have the energy to start a new day, let alone my life.

So...tell me the truth! 40 years are many....too many to start again. Is'nt it?

 

[virtualgirl]

Forty is just the beginning my friend.

My grandmother had seven children. When she was in her forties, and most of her kids were grown, Grandma went back to school to get her L.V.N. She graduated and worked at a local hospital until she retired. (She got to work in the O.B. department rocking all those little babies. Lucky!) You can pursue your dreams, too.

My 45 year old sister retired two years ago from a very stressful industry after working in it for 20 years. Even though she has an MBA, she started back to school this year because she wants to be a math teacher. It's not too late for her to start again.

Do you have any hobbies? Now could be a good time to pick up that hobby that you put away for a while, or start a new one.

Do you have a list of books that you have always wanted to read? Start tackling them.

You sound like you might have depression. You might also be feeling down because of physical changes such as perimenopause. Have you seen your doctor? If you are suffering from depression he can give you medication that could help. Also, be sure to take care of yourself. Eat a healthy diet, get enough rest, and try to include some exercise in your life.

I prayed for you.

 

[MN John]

40 is a splendid time to start fresh.

... as long as you are starting with God!

 

[country woman]

I am 45 and I love my life, I have a beautiful 24 year old daughter whom I love with all
my heart, She is a women of God and I am very proud of her,
I have a few aches and creaks but I manage.

 

[tams67]

I'm 41 and feel like what's the point? who in their right mind would want me....Yeah for myself I feel like there is no starting again...

 

[virtualgirl]

I'm 41 and feel like what's the point? who in their right mind would want me....Yeah for myself I feel like there is no starting again...

I read your profile and saw that you lost your husband. I am so sorry. Have you checked out the widow/widower forum? I'm sure you can find some encouragement from others who have been through the same sufferings you have experienced.

I prayed for you to find peace and rest in the Father who loves you more than any other person ever could.

 

[country woman]

God has answered my prayers, He sent me a wonderful man I met here on CF we have been together almost 10 months and we are very happy

 

[kellyc]

it's great if you find a mate, but what if you don't? should you just fall over and die? probably not....
1stjohn you just had your experience recently. now is NOT the time to date.

 

[havana16]

I had my last son at age 41 and was and still am diabetic. As long as God is in your future you will do well!

 

[country woman]

remember its all in God's timing

 

[blueguy]

I agree with Missy Virtie..... Life begins at 40 and goes up from there. Hang in there baby and pray about it

 

[country woman]

Go with what Blue says

 

[blueguy]

Go with what Blue says

Now she's in trouble there Country, lol

 

[country woman]

well after all you are married aren't you?

 

[blueguy]

well after all you are married aren't you?

Yes Country, I'm as shackled as a prisoner is in a dungeon.... he he he.

 

[virtualgirl]

Those are good shackles, BG. Very good.

 

[blueguy]

Those are good shackles, BG. Very good.

Oh yes there Miss Virtie, I love being married. My wife truly is a gift.

 

[country woman]

You are very blessed to have a great wife and family.

 

[WEBBGURL]

I don't think any of us are ready for the boneyard yet. We have way too much to offer. And by the looks of some of the 20 year olds out there...all they seem to have is youth. They are careless and selfish. I wouldn't trade what I thought I knew then for the wisdom I have now.

 

[One day at a time]

Ah....life is not over....I agree with there is still so much more out there. Yes, I am married....but two yrs ago ended up in an accident that has permantly changed my life....but through it all....I know that I still have things to offer. I'm sure you do to....pray and ask God what He wants you to do....you have experiences that you can offer advice to those who you will be able to relate to.....
Praying for you! Hang in there......