3rd trimester woes

[NikisMom]

well this is my first post. I just want a place to vent and hear from other beleivers about how their pregnancy went.
Im in between my 32 and 33rd week and its getting rough. Im freaked out because of whats to come, will i be able to care for this child? will i freak out? I know God will give me all the strength i need and the provision.
So im getting enormous right now, its so crazy. Im also struggling with my husband too. Hes not saved and i feel lately like he is not caring about what im going through. I mean i know he is happy about the baby and such. im just worried that when the baby comes he is going to not be the help i need. Anyways feel free to comment. Ive had some really painful health issues over the past few months as well. So please pray for me if you can. Peace.
ang

 

[purpleunicorn_Andi]

well this is my first post. I just want a place to vent and hear from other beleivers about how their pregnancy went.
Im in between my 32 and 33rd week and its getting rough. Im freaked out because of whats to come, will i be able to care for this child? will i freak out? I know God will give me all the strength i need and the provision.
So im getting enormous right now, its so crazy. Im also struggling with my husband too. Hes not saved and i feel lately like he is not caring about what im going through. I mean i know he is happy about the baby and such. im just worried that when the baby comes he is going to not be the help i need. Anyways feel free to comment. Ive had some really painful health issues over the past few months as well. So please pray for me if you can. Peace.
ang

first congradulations on your pending addition you have made it further than I did with my first... but I hope to be where you are in a few weeks, so far this one is looking like he'll make it to term...
you might freak out, but that is normal... I think we all freak out from time to time... yes you will be able to care for your child. and you will be the best mommy that your child could ask for.
as far as getting big, take comfort in that some of that weight will be coming off relativly soon has your husband gone to any of your dr appoinments with you? sometimes that helps them understand a little better what is going on. men can't understand exactly what we are going through, because it is something they can not experience... but have heart, my older brother gave my sister in law almost no support with her last pregnancy (she gave birth in November), but I have seen pictures of him holding the baby, and you can tell that he cares...I don't know how much help he is giving her, but atleast he loves the baby... and you may be surprised... who knows, maybe this will help turn his heart towards God...
I am praying for a safe and healthy delivery, and that both you and the baby are fine. and that God speaks to your husband through this wonderous event

 

[jgonz]

Most men aren't the help we need... So ASK him. Don't worry about it it coming off as nagging, ASK him when you need something.

Don't worry too much about your DH right now... Men handle pregnancy kind of oddly sometimes... Women tend to get emotional and dream of the future baby, while men tend to dwell more on the provider aspect (how much it costs, how am I going to provide, now I have Another mouth to feed!) Give him time. And it may take until your doctor puts the baby in his arms for the first time. He'll Melt. Doesn't matter how many kids you have, it happens every time. It's wonderful to watch.

What kind of birth are you shooting for? If you are going to try for a natural birth, Natural Childbirth the Bradley Way by Susan McCutcheon is a an excellent choice.

One option, especially if you're freaking out right now, is to look into having a doula with you & your DH during your labor & birth. DONA (Doulas of North America) http://www.dona.org/ is a very reputable organization and has lists of doulas available in every state. I used to be certified through them and I can honestly tell you they train doulas Well.

HTH~

 

[RoseofLima]

I would second-- asking him specifically for the help you need. Ask him to help you make a concrete plan for help when the baby comes homes. Don't be vague...very likely he wants to help- but has no idea what to do. Remember this is his first pregnancy, too

My husband has been very honest about hos relationship with our babies...for him it doesn't even start until they are born. He doesn't have hormones to help- or an ever present person inside his body....and so for him the reality of it all doesn't really begin until birth. My guess is that a lot of guys are like that.

Don't worry too much- if I could figure out how to take care of a baby--anyone can. When my oldest son was born- I had never even changed a diaper!! And the love you feel for that baby - when they gaze into your eyes the first time....UGH- it's like nothing you have ever experienced---and it empoweres you to do whatever it takes to care for your child.

It is totally normal to feel overwhelmed and frightened Share that with your husband- maybe begin the conversation by letting him know that you don't need him to 'fix' things- but that you just want to share your struggles with him...

 

[olafias]

One thing I have learned over the years is that my husband, no matter how wonderful he is, cannot give me all the love, support, and care that I need. Even if he runs around all day long doing things for me and tells me he loves me, there is still an empty space. God designed us this way so that we would long for Him! No man can ever fulfill all of our needs and desires, but God can. Give all of your worries up to Him, and let Him fill you with his love. Pray for your DH, and don't be discouraged!

You will be in my prayers as well!

 

[NikisMom]

thanks for your comments. I was really freaking out. i cant beleive how my emotions are in the toilet sometimes in this trimester...unreal. I talked to him, well cried and grouched and whatnot and today was totally great. We had prenatal classes and he was really attentive and offering me things and doting...it was so nice.....i need to chill out. He was really offended that i would question whether he will be helpful or not whne the baby comes....thats a good sign and i apoligised for doubting. God provides all things....TRUST IN THE LORD WITH ALL YOUR HEART LEAN NOT ON YOUR OWN UNDERSTANDING!!!!!!!
peace.

 

[purpleunicorn_Andi]

glad things are better... remember you have all these hormones running wild in your system... and that can cause you to have extreem emotions...