2006...Is it worth it?

[pockleberry]

I got like this last year as well but this year it has come back and hit me even worse. Tomorrow is the start of a new year but I'm not sure I can face it. I've been trying to recover from my depression for almost as long as I've had it but instead of getting better I'm getting worse. It looks like my parents are gonna get divorced either way I know my mum will need surport that I can't really give her. I know it's selfish but I just wish I could get away. I'm not sure I have anything to look forward to so I guess what I'm asking is should I really still be alive?

 

[ForeverSeekingLight]

Hey.
Please don't do anything. You are worth so much to not only God but also this community and your family and friends. It sounds like you have quite a few stresses on you right now. Havr you thought about talking to someone about them?

Feel free to pm me anytime. I will be here for you whenever you need to talk.
Hugs,
Becky

 

[servant4ever]

Yes, you are worth it... you should maybe talk to your doctor and see if he/she can give you medicine to help you with it... also maybe talk to your pastor or youth pastor to get out what's bothering you and everything.

 

[bumblebee62331]

I got like this last year as well but this year it has come back and hit me even worse. Tomorrow is the start of a new year but I'm not sure I can face it. I've been trying to recover from my depression for almost as long as I've had it but instead of getting better I'm getting worse. It looks like my parents are gonna get divorced either way I know my mum will need surport that I can't really give her. I know it's selfish but I just wish I could get away. I'm not sure I have anything to look forward to so I guess what I'm asking is should I really still be alive?

You can't ask others if they think you should be alive because bluntly, it's not up to them. It's not their choice. You will die when God decides it is time to take you home. If you jump the queue, that's not fair.

Okay, time to think differently. Nothing bad has happened this year yet, but you are already pre-empting it. You need to change your outlook. You can say "but I'm depressed!" and I know it's not easy to change, but even if you could just say, look forward to this afternoon, because you are going to make some cookies or something, that's a start. Then start looking forward to a whole day because you are going to Maccas with your friends. Whatever. Try to have something to look forward to and soon you will start to feel a little less like the world is out to get you.

I'm sorry about your parents divorce. Yes, your mum will expect you to be there for her, but she won't expect you to shoulder it all. A divorce is horrible and affects everyone around, but technically, it is their thing to deal with. They can discuss it with you but you should not be made to feel guilty or pressure to "take care" of them.

You don't have anything to look forward to? You don't want to get married? Make new friends? Graduate? Get a job? Get a pet? Play with your pet if you already have one? Buy some clothes? Have a birthday party? Have grandchildren? Ok, so a lot of those are long term. How about meeting some friends? Phone them - a lot of the time you have to initiate contact, or you will be alone for a long time. What about your friends on here? Can you talk to them?

Make something to look forward to, so that if you still feel depressed after doing something fun, then at least you've had the opportunity to try to feel a little better. I hope none of this has offended you, I'm just trying to help

 

[Tattered]

I got like this last year as well but this year it has come back and hit me even worse. Tomorrow is the start of a new year but I'm not sure I can face it. I've been trying to recover from my depression for almost as long as I've had it but instead of getting better I'm getting worse. It looks like my parents are gonna get divorced either way I know my mum will need surport that I can't really give her. I know it's selfish but I just wish I could get away. I'm not sure I have anything to look forward to so I guess what I'm asking is should I really still be alive?

The best thing you can do for your mom is take care of yourself. First off ... I have to ask ... are you eating good? Do you eat a healthy breakfast and get plenty of fruits and veggies? ... I know I'm sounding like a mom, but it really does make a difference if your diet is healthy and not full of sugars, fats and salt. Also, are you getting exercise? Sometimes just a brisk walk can really make a huge difference. It kicks those endorphins in gear and you feel soo much better.

Barring all that, you need to talk to someone. I encourage my kids to talk to me when they are down, but not all Moms and Dads can do that. Do you have a teacher? ... someone at your church? ... anyone who will just let you talk it all through. Personally, that has been a big thing for me in getting over a bad funk.

Lastly, and best ... open your bible to the Psalms. Find an uplifting one ... I like Psalms 130:1-4, but there are others that may fit you better Most of the latter psalms are psalms of ascents and are all about praise and thanksgiving. Sometimes praying those psalms ... even when you don't feel like it ... can really lift you up.

I'm praying for you

 

[Harlan Norris]

I got like this last year as well but this year it has come back and hit me even worse. Tomorrow is the start of a new year but I'm not sure I can face it. I've been trying to recover from my depression for almost as long as I've had it but instead of getting better I'm getting worse. It looks like my parents are gonna get divorced either way I know my mum will need surport that I can't really give her. I know it's selfish but I just wish I could get away. I'm not sure I have anything to look forward to so I guess what I'm asking is should I really still be alive?

You know when I read this kind of thing I recall a scene I saw on a news program.It was during the genocide in Rowanda.There was a child sitting in the middle of a road with his dead family laying all around.People were just fileing by,trying to ignore it.There's really nothing that compares to that anywhere around here.Frankly it's hard to imagine things getting to that point.Now that kid knew what trouble was. I'll bet that he still wanted to live.It's important to put things in perspective.I can still remember being 15.I figured things were about as bad as it was possible for them to be.But at that point I still hadn't seen much.Hang in there,this too shall pass.

 

[glenn978]

You are special in Gods eyes. He has a purpose for you. Keep your focus on Him and it will help you to make it through the toughest times. I am living proof of this. 24 years ago I felt the same way that you do and I almost messed up and missed all the blessings that God has given me in these years. Be strong in Him and you will make it through all the trials that come your way. God bless you.

 

[pockleberry]

Hey.
Please don't do anything. You are worth so much to not only God but also this community and your family and friends. It sounds like you have quite a few stresses on you right now. Havr you thought about talking to someone about them?

Feel free to pm me anytime. I will be here for you whenever you need to talk.
Hugs,
Becky

Thanx I guess I know deep down that people care about me but sometimes I forget. I do have people that I can talk to but I haven't wanted to over the holidays it just doesn't seem fair to stop them enjoying themselves with my problems and depression.

Yes, you are worth it... you should maybe talk to your doctor and see if he/she can give you medicine to help you with it... also maybe talk to your pastor or youth pastor to get out what's bothering you and everything.

I am already on medication sometimes it helps and other times it doesnt and I get like this wanting to use it to end my life. The leaders at my church don't really seem to care whats going on I don't know maybe thats just my intupritation but thats what I think. My youth leader is alot better tho so I guess I can't complain she is there for me if I need to talk.

You can't ask others if they think you should be alive because bluntly, it's not up to them. It's not their choice. You will die when God decides it is time to take you home. If you jump the queue, that's not fair.

Ok fair point I guess I shouldn't have asked that I'm sorry.

Okay, time to think differently. Nothing bad has happened this year yet, but you are already pre-empting it. You need to change your outlook. You can say "but I'm depressed!" and I know it's not easy to change, but even if you could just say, look forward to this afternoon, because you are going to make some cookies or something, that's a start. Then start looking forward to a whole day because you are going to Maccas with your friends. Whatever. Try to have something to look forward to and soon you will start to feel a little less like the world is out to get you.

I'm not pre-empting that bad things are gonna happen unless of course your talking about what I said about my parents and that is based on what I've been told not what I'm feeling. Ok yes I can take what you are saying about finding things to look forward to and that helping me I can give it a go and I will.

I'm sorry about your parents divorce. Yes, your mum will expect you to be there for her, but she won't expect you to shoulder it all. A divorce is horrible and affects everyone around, but technically, it is their thing to deal with. They can discuss it with you but you should not be made to feel guilty or pressure to "take care" of them.

You don't have anything to look forward to? You don't want to get married? Make new friends? Graduate? Get a job? Get a pet? Play with your pet if you already have one? Buy some clothes? Have a birthday party? Have grandchildren? Ok, so a lot of those are long term. How about meeting some friends? Phone them - a lot of the time you have to initiate contact, or you will be alone for a long time. What about your friends on here? Can you talk to them?

Make something to look forward to, so that if you still feel depressed after doing something fun, then at least you've had the opportunity to try to feel a little better. I hope none of this has offended you, I'm just trying to help

Most of the things you mentioned are still along way off for me yet I'm only 15, 16 this year I'm not old enough to do them. But yes again I get your point I need to find things to look forwrd to. What you said did come across as a bit harsh but I understand that you're just trying to help so I'm gonna try and take it in a positive way cause i'm sure thats how you ment it.

The best thing you can do for your mom is take care of yourself. First off ... I have to ask ... are you eating good? Do you eat a healthy breakfast and get plenty of fruits and veggies? ... I know I'm sounding like a mom, but it really does make a difference if your diet is healthy and not full of sugars, fats and salt. Also, are you getting exercise? Sometimes just a brisk walk can really make a huge difference. It kicks those endorphins in gear and you feel soo much better.

Ok erm in answer to your question I'm not sure that my diet is exactly healthy not because I eat alot of bad things but because I'm developed some bad habbits but I don't think I should really go into them here. As for the exercise I like walking as it gives me a chance to clear my head and is often a great chance to pray.

Barring all that, you need to talk to someone. I encourage my kids to talk to me when they are down, but not all Moms and Dads can do that. Do you have a teacher? ... someone at your church? ... anyone who will just let you talk it all through. Personally, that has been a big thing for me in getting over a bad funk.

Lastly, and best ... open your bible to the Psalms. Find an uplifting one ... I like Psalms 130:1-4, but there are others that may fit you better Most of the latter psalms are psalms of ascents and are all about praise and thanksgiving. Sometimes praying those psalms ... even when you don't feel like it ... can really lift you up.

I'm praying for you

Me and my mum are pretty close and I do talk to her about some things but with her own stuff going on I find it hard so I talk to my youth leader who is also a friend from church.

I will try to have a look at some psalms.

Sorry this post is so long

 

[bumblebee62331]

I'm not pre-empting that bad things are gonna happen unless of course your talking about what I said about my parents and that is based on what I've been told not what I'm feeling. Ok yes I can take what you are saying about finding things to look forward to and that helping me I can give it a go and I will.

Most of the things you mentioned are still along way off for me yet I'm only 15, 16 this year I'm not old enough to do them. But yes again I get your point I need to find things to look forwrd to. What you said did come across as a bit harsh but I understand that you're just trying to help so I'm gonna try and take it in a positive way cause i'm sure thats how you ment it.

I am a deep believer that medication should be used as a last resort. Do everything in your power to try to feel better before resorting to chemicals and artificial mood enhancers etc.

Sorry this post is so long

Hey, it's okay. Long posts are good

 

[Harrythepizzaguy]

Oh, come on-- you're only 15...the first lesson you need to learn about depression is survival skills...I'm 47 and have been depressed on and off since your age...sometimes agonizing. If I can make it, you can. Survival of the fittest I'm afraid sometimes...are you among us? the survivors? It's not really a choice--shame or worse--demons... or honor in heaven.... get with it, kid...
Harold (Mental health survivor--forever!!)

 

[Evie]

I got like this last year as well but this year it has come back and hit me even worse. Tomorrow is the start of a new year but I'm not sure I can face it. I've been trying to recover from my depression for almost as long as I've had it but instead of getting better I'm getting worse. It looks like my parents are gonna get divorced either way I know my mum will need surport that I can't really give her. I know it's selfish but I just wish I could get away. I'm not sure I have anything to look forward to so I guess what I'm asking is should I really still be alive?

u bet it is! been depressed myself for along time but you got to find your own joy!
Please don;t talk that way,it's so sad to hear teens and young adults talking this way.
Let's go before Jesus together and kneel before Him and allow Him to hold us for awhile,what do you say?

 

[shye]

everyone is worth staying a live. Try and think on the positive side. and if your parents are getting a divorce just remember its not your fault. Maybe you can fine a support group or something and when you are in a depression go there. Support groups are the best.

 

[Amin]

I got like this last year as well but this year it has come back and hit me even worse. Tomorrow is the start of a new year but I'm not sure I can face it. I've been trying to recover from my depression for almost as long as I've had it but instead of getting better I'm getting worse. It looks like my parents are gonna get divorced either way I know my mum will need surport that I can't really give her. I know it's selfish but I just wish I could get away. I'm not sure I have anything to look forward to so I guess what I'm asking is should I really still be alive?

You most certainly should be alive. There's got to be an answer,
and we can't find it, if we're not here. Sorry to hear about the parents, but i'm sure your just being there would be more helpful to her, than if you were not. In other words, you're needed. Gods' best for you, Amin.

 

[whitedove7]

I am so sorry you are having such a hard time. I cannot imagine parents divorcing. It sounds like you have a lot of hurts in your life and I'm so sorry about that. Things will get better for you.

you mentioned that you cannot be there for your mom. I wouldn't worry about it and so don't fall into guilt that you cannot. Just being there will be a great help even if you cannot say anything.

For whatever reasons your parents getting a divorce, I hope you are not taking on any false guilt that you are responsible because you are not. Sometimes fathers and mothers just don't get along.

Just know the Lord loves you and cares about you. He loves you right where you are in this situation. He cares about every detail of your life. Just cast all your fear to him about your mom.

Again, I will be praying for you that you will find comfort in the Holy Father God and that you can rest in him and allow him to be the lifter of your head. You were created in his image and he sent his son so that you can have everlasting life and also to have a relationship with him. Peace be with you.