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Hello everybody,
Somebody sent me a PM suggesting that maybe if I post in here I would get more responses.
For 2 1/2 years, since June 14, 2001, is the day I will never forget, or should I say June 13? The reason why I say this is because June 14 is when my grandmother passed away from cancer that came back and was found a few days before she died. The thing I regret the most is the day before she died I got to see her in her hospital room. She was so excited to see me, I was probably her closest grandchild, even though she would do anything for all 7 of us grandchildren, and I could tell she wanted me to say something to her. I was just so shocked how sick she looked, my grandma can't look like that, she is always healthy, and even if she is sick, she hides the sickness away. She needs to get out of bed so she can come give me a hug. I want you to see me walk across the stage for graduation since you helped raise me. Anyways, I didn't say anything to her the next five minutes because of shocked I was, I wanted to but nothing came out of my mouth. Then, the nurse came in to take her blood, my grandma's joy to see me turned into hopelessness and disappointment. She ended up turning for the worse that second because the nurse said that she would be in a lot of pain when she took some blood. She died the next day. I never got to say goodbye to her. The last thing I said to her was goodbye grandma, and I said it so sarcastically because I was really annoyed with her for some reason, probably something so dumb and childish.
I have tried several ways to get rid of the pain, as I should call it. I have tried to hide it for the first 4 weeks, then I tried the crying stuff in private, since I am a guy, guys can't cry, so I had to do it in private, then I hid it for another year, then I cried on my graduation day, it would have been a lot better if my grandma was there, I went to a Christian school and her gravesite was down the block from the church my school was located. I have been back to the hiding phase the last half of a year, and today while listening to the radio I heard her favorite song and I have been literally crying inside all day, and on occasion crying outwardly.
How do you get rid of this grieving pain? I have tried to go to counselors and all I do is feel worse for what I did to my grandma. If I didn't disappoint her that day, she would be alive today and want to see me in college and becoming a pastor someday.
servant4ever
Somebody sent me a PM suggesting that maybe if I post in here I would get more responses.
For 2 1/2 years, since June 14, 2001, is the day I will never forget, or should I say June 13? The reason why I say this is because June 14 is when my grandmother passed away from cancer that came back and was found a few days before she died. The thing I regret the most is the day before she died I got to see her in her hospital room. She was so excited to see me, I was probably her closest grandchild, even though she would do anything for all 7 of us grandchildren, and I could tell she wanted me to say something to her. I was just so shocked how sick she looked, my grandma can't look like that, she is always healthy, and even if she is sick, she hides the sickness away. She needs to get out of bed so she can come give me a hug. I want you to see me walk across the stage for graduation since you helped raise me. Anyways, I didn't say anything to her the next five minutes because of shocked I was, I wanted to but nothing came out of my mouth. Then, the nurse came in to take her blood, my grandma's joy to see me turned into hopelessness and disappointment. She ended up turning for the worse that second because the nurse said that she would be in a lot of pain when she took some blood. She died the next day. I never got to say goodbye to her. The last thing I said to her was goodbye grandma, and I said it so sarcastically because I was really annoyed with her for some reason, probably something so dumb and childish.
I have tried several ways to get rid of the pain, as I should call it. I have tried to hide it for the first 4 weeks, then I tried the crying stuff in private, since I am a guy, guys can't cry, so I had to do it in private, then I hid it for another year, then I cried on my graduation day, it would have been a lot better if my grandma was there, I went to a Christian school and her gravesite was down the block from the church my school was located. I have been back to the hiding phase the last half of a year, and today while listening to the radio I heard her favorite song and I have been literally crying inside all day, and on occasion crying outwardly.
How do you get rid of this grieving pain? I have tried to go to counselors and all I do is feel worse for what I did to my grandma. If I didn't disappoint her that day, she would be alive today and want to see me in college and becoming a pastor someday.
servant4ever