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[Silentium]

While I was little, I grew up with a poor father figure in my life. He was always short tempered, and sometime he hurt me. I had just read a book that made me realise something.

For the past 6 months, I have been becoming increasingly attatched to my married youth pastor. I'm pretty sure this is because of my past. I don't know how to tell if this is something that I should try and break away from. And if so, how? Should I admit this to him?

 

[Silentium]

Alright! Since no one knows what to say... i just want to ask if people would at least pray over the subject and pray that God would help me find the answers to my questions...

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Aww. *hug*
This is the first time I've seen this thread.
Are you emotionally attached to him, or attracted to him, or both?

 

[Silentium]

I seem to be both emotionally attached and attracted to him... I know that I should not really be attracted to him, because he is seen as a "forbidden fruit" but, I can't help but feel torn.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

This happens a lot, so don't think that you are alone.

I can see how your past could make you more vulnerable to a situation like this.
Attachment is tricky. I think as a family of believers we should be connected and close to one another. Sometimes those attachments can be healthy. Sometimes things get clouded and confusing.
This guy is your big brother. Think of him only as that. If your feelings become too much...I would consider letting him know what is going on with you. That would be the healthiest thing to do.
*hug*

 

[Silentium]

Thanks a whole lot. This is a subject that i've struggled with for a while. Thank-you for caring and for helping me.

 

[madison1101]

This is the first time I have seen this post, as I have not been on all day. I am not sure how old you are, but I remember when I was a teenager, being drawn to certain men like a priest who really helped me, and certain teachers

It might not be a bad idea to find someone, a woman, to talk to about these things. Is there a woman at your church who you can talk to?

 

[Silentium]

I'm not really close to anyone in my churches. I'm sort of "inbetween" churches. I can't go fully to the Missionary Church because the Pentecostal Church likes to have a pianist for sunday services. There isn't anyone from my penticostal church I feel connected to, and I don't go to the Missionary Church often enough to meet the people. The only person I suppose that I feel connected to would be my youth pastors wife.