Is socially unacceptable behaviour ever / always a sin , though ? Are limitations a sin ? It says in The Bible that God's power is made perfect in our weakness! I do not think that weakness is always a sin.
Perhaps understanding the actual definition of the word sin might help here...
sin = missing the mark
or perhaps other ways of looking at it...
being off target, off centered, out of balance perhaps
from this point of view perhaps each person needs to decipher for themselves what the mark is...
the concept of sin that I used to know was...
sin=wrong
that definition just lead me to more and more polarized thinking and judging... and who am I to judge... that is Gods job.
If I am working toward a true and honest relationship not only with myself but with God who lives within me...the day I asked Jesus into my heart.
He is doing the housecleaning...not I... but it is I who needs to pay attention to what actions God wants me to take next.
So as far as how it relates to society... I must take each issue at hand and look at it with new lenses... with perhaps what you might call God lenses...
Some of the questions I need to ask myself...
Is my behavior hurting myself (Chirst's home...I do need to take care of His house you know)?
What needs is my behavior meeting?
How is my behavior affecting others? Is this affect going against my true values (or simply just a reflection of societies values that are being imposed upon me)?
Is their understanding of my behavior being looked at with filtered glasses? If so, then perhaps the issue is more about them than it is about me.
Would it hurt to objectively look at my behavior in God's Light and see what my other options might be?
to name a few...
I work at keeping in mind that just because I have difficulty with control, or communication skills, or social skills... does not mean I shouldn't be looking at my behaviors and changing what needs to be changed for me and for God. But it does mean I need to not worry about what others think I "should" be doing just because I am not conforming to the typical. Let God take care of them... I do NOT need to change to make them happy. Although...it does many times behoove us to work at speaking NT language...but we need to do it because we want to and are ready to do the work... and realize and have compassion for ourselves when we don't get it right away and to let go of it when we realize that we are beating our heads against the wall of "can't do it that way" and look for new creative approaches to the same problem...perhaps something more socially acceptable.
For example... wearing my hat is a coping skill I developed a long time ago on a subconscious level... I didn't know that my hat helped me so much in crowds and brightly light areanas until recently when I began to understand my sensory issues. Now I am in an intense therapy program for trauma... which wearing a hat is an indicator of hiding from feelings and others. I have worked very hard at explaining to some of the therapists my reason for wearing my hat and it is in no way to hide from people in general... in fact I dissociate less when I wear it. I finally came to an understanding and workable solution with my main therapist... she turned off half the lights in the room and partially closes the shades... I have no problem taking my hat off during therapy...
However I had another therapist that insists that I take the hat off whenever I am in the building and that if the lights are bothering me to ask permission to wear it... I went back and forth for a long time... because I know I don't cue in to where I need it until it is too late and I am already overloaded... I got upset and said "fine I won't wear it at all and threw my hat in my bookbag." But after some time to really think about it... I realized it would not help me in my recovery to work on that so called social skill in that manner... so I chose to wear my hat accept during group with my main therapist because I wanted to be responsible to our agreement. I sometimes forget but she works with me with that. but the rest of the time I wear the dang thing... why... because I don't feel like I should be treated like a child and HAVE to ask permission to wear it. I figure if it is socially unacceptable to wear a hat in the building then let them not accept me... that is there issue not mine... if someone asks I will explain why I wear it...if someone wants to assume I am hiding... that is there assumption and they are the one to make a fool of themselves to assume. By choosing this I am in line with God... in that I worked out my differences with the ones I need to cooperate with and not worry with the others. I feel right with God on it... and I will calmly explain my reasonings if it is asked again but I have made my decision... and if someday I discover that I am hiding behind my hat... I will address that issue at that time and give myself permission to change at that point. Because in no way is it a means of disrespecting anyone... and if they can't see through that then perhaps that is something God is working on them with.
Tad