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[Kn1ght777]

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[blackribbon]

Exactly how to do you tell a woman that you are not attracted to them and somehow become friends with them? People usually become friends by talking and having something in common...it has nothing to do with what they look like.

 

[Kn1ght777]

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[Brightmoon]

Oh you’re young , young women tend to have crushes on good looking guys . They’d rather have a real relationship than a crush as they get older. Some ,but not all ,outgrow that in their teens

 

[devin553344]

Hello, and please don't hate me because I don't like being this way.

I am a very unattractive person, with a slightly deformed face and the women my age treat me horribly. Some fear me, some act like they are better than me, some ignore me at all costs, and I have accepted that the possibility of a girlfriend is impossible due to my looks.

The only way I can make female friends is by convincing them I'm not attracted to them, even if I am. Only then are they nice to me.

Regardless, I always hear them talk about being attracted to (other) men, I am still mistreated by a large number of them, and I am starting to hate my female peers because of this.

Please give me advice on what to do about this jealousy, and please pray for me.

Thank you!

I see that you are Christian which is good. You should pray to God as much as needed to change your heart and mind that you will not judge women. It is a hard thing given your story, but you're right, it's the right thing to do, to not hate them.

Do you just hate them or your mother also? If you still love your mother you can use that to your aid.

It's OK to hate their actions which are offensive and unfair, but as you expressed we shouldn't hate people.

Good job for seeking help on this issue, you made the most important step already

 

[Kn1ght777]

I see that you are Christian which is good. You should pray to God as much as needed to change your heart and mind that you will not judge women. It is a hard thing given your story, but you're right, it's the right thing to do, to not hate them.

Do you just hate them or your mother also? If you still love your mother you can use that to your aid.

It's OK to hate their actions which are offensive and unfair, but as you expressed we shouldn't hate people.

Good job for seeking help on this issue, you made the most important step already

I do love my mother. I desperately want to change, because I don't want to live like this.

 

[devin553344]

I do love my mother. I desperately want to change, because I don't want to live like this.

The best way to change from within is to ask God for He is within us Christians. And He can and does change people all the time. He has changed me so much from the child I was raised to be. I was raised to hate women by my father and I've overcame that teaching and I believe you can too, with prayer and Gods help.

 

[Tone]

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What am I missing here with the "1" thing?

*I hit the funny icon, because all I see is "1"...not to laugh about what you are struggling with...

Yahuah bless you and as you keep your eyes fixed upon Him, may He bless you accordingly. I have found that most of the times (if not all) that I got involved in a relationship, I wasn't even looking for one...I was going about my business. But, then again, I've never been married so...