Continue to resist these urges by drawing upon prayer and the word of God so that you may sanctify yourself and keep yourself sexually pure.
Apart from a marriage relationship between a man and a woman, God never ever approves of the culmination of sexual onenessnor does He condone attempts of sexual arousal. We are not animal brutes who are driven by instincts alone. We are moral agents who choose according to our greatest desires at the moment we so choose.
"It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality." (1 Thessalonians 4:3)
Mat. 28:27-30
27 "You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.' 28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29 If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. 30 And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.
I realize that we all like feeling the sensation of [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]. The problem arises when we give in to these desires much like animals following their instincts, hormones, etc., never giving any rational thought or self-restraint to these urges. We are not animals, but persons created in the image of God, with minds to think. When we start to pursue our own instant gratification, we begin to condition our minds that spills over into other aspects of our lives. We end up pursuing our own interests, our own good versus being conformed to the will of God and bringing our physical passions under control.
We need to be warned against playing around with sexual fire. Because if you start off with abusing a gift, when it comes to retraining the mind to use it properly, the task is almost hopelessly difficult. For example, how can a mother or father who cannot reserve her or his gift for one's spouse (but must squander it on one's self) face up to teaching their own child self-government?
I am against autosexual behavior on the grounds that it defeats the mutual purposes for which sex was created.
When you have these urges, focus yourself in prayer, fasting, and Scripture.
Meditate on the following:
Colossians 3:1-17:
[1] If ye then be risen with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ sitteth on the right hand of God.
[2] Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth.
[3] For ye are dead, and your life is hid with Christ in God.
[4] When Christ, who is our life, shall appear, then shall ye also appear with him in glory.
[5] Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry:
[6] For which things' sake the wrath of God cometh on the children of disobedience:
[7] In the which ye also walked some time, when ye lived in them.
[8] But now ye also put off all these; anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy communication out of your mouth.
[9] Lie not one to another, seeing that ye have put off the old man with his deeds;
[10] And have put on the new man, which is renewed in knowledge after the image of him that created him:
[11] Where there is neither Greek nor Jew, circumcision nor uncircumcision, Barbarian, Scythian, bond nor free: but Christ is all, and in all.
[12] Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering;
[13] Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.
[14] And above all these things put on charity, which is the bond of perfectness.
[15] And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to the which also ye are called in one body; and be ye thankful.
[16] Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord.
[17] And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him.
AMR
