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Pete, the rep I sent you was cut off. Please know that I meant if I didn't feel safe at CF I would leave, not if I didn't feel safe with you. You all have given me a safe place to air my hurts. God bless, T

Pete, CF's loss is certainly our gain. I have missed you and your compassionate advice. God Bless, T

J, I just received an advertisement for Steve Arterburn's newest book, here it is in case you are interested. Blessings, T Reframe Your Life: Transforming Your Pain into Purpose by Steve Arterburn NOW AVAILABLE SPECIAL DISCOUNTED PRICE This book shows how to view hurtful events through a more...

J, what wonderful news! They obviously think highly of M and his work. They also must care alot about your marriage to move him with his promotion. I am so glad that M is taking this healing process so seriously. I know it is God's will for the two of you to have a happy, successful...

Joyful11, sounds like true repentance to me. I praise God for M's repentant heart. God bless, T PS I am so glad the two of you are talking and you are free to air your hurts.

Makes sense to me. Although, try to think of it this way, whether you proceed in happiness and peace or whether you proceed in caution and insecurity, you have no control over what M does. While no one wants you to live in ignorance, try to enjoy the blessings God gives you as they are given...

GoNoles, so good to hear from you and, as always, great advice. R8, praying, praying, praying

J, don't feel guilty for needing to express your pain. Just bc you forgive doesn't mean all the hurt goes away, I am sure M can understand that at some level. Keep talking to us, we love you and want to help anyway we can. T

Joyful11, :hug: :hug: :hug: Cory, wow, that is honest! I believe you have opened up the floodgates of God's blessings. I am glad your wife is getting better, I pray there are many wonderful married years ahead of you.

R8, your illustration (about the crime) was perfect. It makes perfect sense to me. T

J, I struggle with understanding forgiveness too. This is what websters says: 1 a : to give up resentment of or claim to requital for 2 : to cease to feel resentment against (an offender) : PARDON <forgive one's enemies> My thought then would be, if you are not living a life of resentment...

Amen Pete! J, perhaps it is time to surround yourself with stories from couples who have been through affairs and have come out strong in marriage. We have all heard the stories that have a poor outcome but I still believe God is in control and He wants your marriage to be blessed. I will...

J, Jesus is crying with you and so am I. Your list touched me so much, I am so sorry for your pain. I wish I could take it away. Jesus can but He will use it to make you and your marriage stronger. Just a suggestion, give M a copy of the list. T :cry:

J, I honestly don't know how you couldn't have those fears. I would be worried if you didn't bc then I would be afraid you were living in denial. M has alot of work ahead of him as far as trust goes. You cannot be rushed. R8 is right, you must trust the LORD. Just remember, this pain will...

J, it sounds like the two of you are truly working at repairing your marriage. I know God will honor the love you have for Him and each other. May God grant you 50+ years of peace, happiness and marital fulfillment.

J, I am so glad to hear of the negative readings. Wish I had some helpful books to share but I will continue to pray!

J, I am sorry. I agree with R8, including the trusting slowly part. I will also pray that she is not pregnant. I am so sorry. T I hate to bring this up, but you did get tested after finding out about them, didn't you?

Excellent points! Glad to hear that guys are stepping up. I do think the church has become feminized (is that a word?), but how do we make it more of what men need if men aren't involved? Sure, we women have ideas (tons of them), but that is part of the problem...women trying to give men what...

Cory, love the fact that your church is stepping out with accountability groups. Hope more will follow. dayknee, I agree with everything cory said. Think of how much worse off your children will be if both parents get into legal trouble bc of what dad has been doing. You cannot control...

J, that is very good news. (sorry I assumed his boss was a "he", you know what assuming does!!) The recovery plan sounds like a very good idea. Now would be the time to suggest it since M seems open to try anything. dayknee, it just sounds to me like you need some legal protection...