- Jan 16, 2019
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I saw this video earlier and while it addresses older women I think the message is timely and applies to all ages. There's also an important warning for those with older parents who may be widowed male or female. The economic crisis is creating a predatory dating market where homeownership is the latest scam. The video mentions loneliness as the culprit but naïveté and benevolence can be equally compromising. Here's a few things to keep in mind.
*Don't admit you own your home. When conversations about the economy come up nod in agreement. But don't volunteer your circumstances or disagree. They'll assume you have resources.
*Don't discuss your travel plans or goals for the present year. Preface statements about places you want to visit as 'someday'.
*Be mindful of one-sided connections. They visit your house, meet your friends and family and are integrated in your world but there's is off-limits or a mystery.
*The video mentioned love bombing and when you've been single for a long time you can fall prey to that. Things of God have a cadence and its rarely overnight. Take your time and don't spiritualize everything. Background checks are a form of counsel that's unbiased. Make an informed decision about the person that isn't wholly based on emotion.
*Don't overshare about your family. Good or bad. Know their character first. Family is a familiar hook people use to ingratiate themselves in a person's life as different from the rest to garner trust and the same holds true for friends.
*Take what's needed for the date. Don't bring a wallet full of cash or cards.
*If you want to check out their social media start with LinkedIn.
~bella
*Don't admit you own your home. When conversations about the economy come up nod in agreement. But don't volunteer your circumstances or disagree. They'll assume you have resources.
*Don't discuss your travel plans or goals for the present year. Preface statements about places you want to visit as 'someday'.
*Be mindful of one-sided connections. They visit your house, meet your friends and family and are integrated in your world but there's is off-limits or a mystery.
*The video mentioned love bombing and when you've been single for a long time you can fall prey to that. Things of God have a cadence and its rarely overnight. Take your time and don't spiritualize everything. Background checks are a form of counsel that's unbiased. Make an informed decision about the person that isn't wholly based on emotion.
*Don't overshare about your family. Good or bad. Know their character first. Family is a familiar hook people use to ingratiate themselves in a person's life as different from the rest to garner trust and the same holds true for friends.
*Take what's needed for the date. Don't bring a wallet full of cash or cards.
*If you want to check out their social media start with LinkedIn.
~bella
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