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Getting married a second time after your partner dies

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At my wife and my age, that is unlikely for both of us. There comes a point where it’s simply not on the radar.

When we were much younger, I wanted my wife to remarry if I went first. Had she went first, who could say? Would I have fallen in love with another? I don’t know.
 
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If your partner died would you feel able to marry someone new, or date again but never get married.

Or has this happened to you, if so what did you do?
I think it somewhat depends on the death. If it was tragic and unexpected, i would imagine a period in which you still felt committed to your late spouse. Therefore it may be both awkward and uncomfortable to entertain the thought of dating. You would probably feel like you are cheating with a ghost and so out of your game that you forgot how to talk to other women at all.
 
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If your partner died would you feel able to marry someone new, or date again but never get married.

Or has this happened to you, if so what did you do?
Actually had a former classmate who's dad got remarried less than a year after his young wife tragically passed away in a car accident. I'm single, but I assume some people need intimacy and companionship?

My late aunt, who died in 2008 and buried by her first husband, got married pretty quickly after her first husband died in the 1980s. She kept her first husband's last name, though. Her second husband is buried by his first wife.
 
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If your partner died would you feel able to marry someone new, or date again but never get married.

Or has this happened to you, if so what did you do?
My wife of 42 years is my best friend. I am honored and blessed that God brought us together. If something happened to her I doubt very much that I would seek anyone else on my own, however, God knows what is best for me and I wouldn’t put it past Him to put someone else in my life.
 
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My wife of 42 years is my best friend. I am honored and blessed that God brought us together. If something happened to her I doubt very much that I would seek anyone else on my own, however, God knows what is best for me and I wouldn’t put it past Him to put someone else in my life.
Yes. I would imagine it would be extremely difficult to remarry after 42 years for obvious reasons. But biblically you would be free to do so if you so choose, and there would be nothing wrong with that. But my recommendation to the OP is to make sure there is time to take care of themselves as they navigate the wilderness of grief. BTW my heart is breaking at the thought an my prayers are going out.
 
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I didn't intend to marry the first time forty years ago, but there were practical reasons to do so and it has worked out well for the most part. There may be good reasons to do so again, but it seems unlikely. My husband says he won't remarry, but he probably should.
 
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