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Can You Really Know the Person You’re Marrying? Jinger and Jeremy Vuolo Weigh In

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How can you truly know the person you’re planning to marry? Can you actually have peace going into the marriage? In the most recent episode of their podcast, Jinger Duggar Vuolo and her husband, Jeremy, discussed how they navigated their fears on this topic prior to marrying each other.

“I was so afraid of not knowing who that person was going to be deep down. I always had this lingering fear of like, ‘Oh no, if I enter a relationship with someone and if I’m married to them, how will I ever truly know who they are?’” Jinger said. “I think a lot of that stemmed from fear of what I had been through, you know, even just seeing people make choices that were really painful and hard and not knowing exactly who that person was. It was scary for me.”

How Jinger Duggar and Jeremy Vuolo Navigated Pre-Marriage Fears


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That is a very interesting article, but marriage as I have lived in it can also involve finding out a lot more about ourselves than we expected to, not just the other person.
 
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That is a very interesting article, but marriage as I have lived in it can also involve finding out a lot more about ourselves than we expected to, not just the other person.
Very true. :thumbsup:
 
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I'm really baffled. If I didn't trust the woman who became my wife and wasn't comfortable around her, I never would have proposed. If she didn't trust me and wasn't comfortable around me, she never would have accepted. I don't know if it made a difference or not. but we both went into it with the attitude that this was it; divorce was never considered an acceptable option. Were we nervous? Yes, precisely because divorce was never considered an option. But when I saw my wife in her wedding dress, it was as though all the nervousness flowed out of me.

We've been married well over thirty years, so I guess you could say it's worked out.

We also had been going together for a while before marriage. Maybe that was a factor. On the other hand, one of my aunts met her husband while he was on leave, and they married before his leave was over. They remained married until one o them died, well over fifty years after they tied the knot.
 
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