- Jan 16, 2019
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Given your background I would expect a rational approach to the subject. What you've deduced is factually incorrect and morally flawed. It's akin to saying the devil made me do it. Sin is a choice. Whether it's pornography or another vice. Holding others accountable for indulgence is irresponsible and devoid of regret.
It wouldn't matter if the man was rejected once or often over a period of time. The word is infallible and doesn't bend according to circumstance. It is a sin and he is wrong and that can't be debated.
You have walked the earth over seventy years and reference one in your example. During that period did you respond to every occurrence of interest from the opposite sex or only the ones that met your criteria or mutual appeal?
This is an oxymoron. Holiness isn't a bargaining chip and the prize is righteousness not the desire of ones heart. Living as the Lord instructs should be enough and if it isn't you've run in vain.
There comes a point when we must view our decision with the collective in mind. Every decision impacts another eventually. Your choice to choose one in the past made others inaccesible and so on. We don't always have the opportunity for do-overs and some mistakes have greater consequences.
You've chosen to reside in a state where 16 women out of a 1,000 will marry. A little research would have shown you that number holds true across the country with a few exceptions in mind. But 22 is the greatest and that's a far cry from half. It's important to broach problems from several prongs and resist the draw of emotion and apathy for resolutions.
Most women aren't marrying. Nor are the majority christian either.
Most women aren't seeking companions in their seventies or sixties either.
Nor are most men desirous of women after they reach a certain point chronologically.
It isn't a quagmire but it requires a bit of truth serum nonetheless. You'll need to assess yourself from head to toe and defer to the facts. Not potential, personality or resources. What is she taking on with you? That's the question a woman considers for someone in your season. The more forthright you are in your examination the better it will be overall.
The majority will assume you have challenges and have silent concerns regarding your vitality. They don't want to be a nurse. Most men who've been alone for a time usually neglect their health. Their diet is bad, they eat out a lot and don't exercise and neglect has a price.
Everything has its season in life and we fare best when we move with the current rather than against it. You can't ignore your part in the problem and it should have been resolved 20 to 30 years ago at best. The challenges we endure in the end are usually borne by those who've walked with us when we're vibrant.
You're asking her to roll the dice for the sake of...
At seventy years of age no woman is giving anyone a chance. That's for girls and couples with a horizon ahead. You make rational decisions when you mature and weigh the costs. All you need to determine is what you're working with and how bad you want it.
When you own your mess you stop pointing fingers and feeling sorry for yourself. Life doesn't happen to us and oftentimes we're part of the problem. You didn't get where you are without cause and you're too old to be blaming women. It sounds ridiculous and you lived through a different era. You didn't enter adulthood with a gender war and assault on marriage.
But that's how the good times work. Most never assume they'll end and when they do they're caught off-guard.
~bella
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