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Pastor Sparks Backlash for Saying Interracial Marriages, Including His Own, Are Not ‘Ideal’

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Avoid opposites. Opposites attract... divorce.
There is no "opposites" involved in race and marriage.

One man and one woman for life on the other hand is already opposites and the "for life" thing is as opposed to divorce.
 
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Lots of idealism here but reality is different.
Marriage to a person who is different to you is best avoided.
Opposition from in-laws and society aside, there are different traditions and expectations involved that can result in misunderstandings and quarrels.
The only interracial couples I know that have stuck it out and are happy are those that share a deeper commitment to something else e.g. a strong faith in Jesus.
Race doesn't always = society issues. My husband is from England and we struggled for a while when we first met to communicate and had a TON of misunderstandings despite the fact we're both white and speak english due to American understandings vs English. I also know a beautiful black lady married to a white man and they have no issues when it comes to mixing their families or in their own marriage.

While I believe Jesus is the glue that keeps every relationship together, I don't think unilaterally saying to "avoid" a marriage just based on race is wise, or correct.
 
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I think one of the problems we have as Christians is that we think everybody else thinks in a Christian way. Sometimes they do and sometimes they don't.

Right now in Australia there are racial tensions, exacerbated by the recent massacre at Bondi Beach, with the shooters originally of Indian origin having radical Moslem beliefs.

Today was Australia Day, which celebrates the arrival of the (British) First Fleet in 1788, a development partly brought about by the American Revolution. When the American Colonists removed British rule, the Brits went looking for somewhere else to dump their convicts who were victims of the savage penal laws of the time.

The First Fleet, commanded by Captain Arthur Phillip, arrived at Botany Bay between January 18 and 20, 1788, but quickly moved to find a better location. The fleet subsequently arrived at Sydney Cove, Port Jackson, on January 26, 1788, marking the start of European settlement in Australia.

Consequently some indigineous Australians call today "Invasion Day" as that was the day another race started to take their land.


At the same time there are rallies against immigration (ring a bell for US citizens?).


All this has been happening on "Australia Day".

Whether we like it or not, racism is a factor in human society. Passing "anti-hate" laws won't change human nature.

Personally I think the tensions in Australia are going to get worse before they get better.
 
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I’m just going to repeat what I said to my friend Bob Crowley earlier.

My impression from the op is that there is cultural differences that can raise internal conflict within the marriage. Plus add the expectations of family and friends from both sides of the family. The cherry on top is the issues the union poses in society that look down upon the couple and their children for whatever reason. There is no doubt that those things can cause problems but I think when Scripture says to not become unevenly yoked, that’s on a spiritual level. I have no issues with interracial couples as long as they along with their families are strong enough to jump all those hurdles. :praying:
 
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At the same time there are rallies against immigration (ring a bell for US citizens?).
Off-topic sidebar: What US media calls anti-immigration in the US is mostly anti-illegal immigration. Lumping the two together helps the media spin it better. I’m only mentioning it here because that point may not be known to observers overseas.
 
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An Arizona pastor has taken to social media to question the wisdom of interracial marriage, characterizing his own marriage to a Latina woman as less than “ideal.”

Partridge is an author and pastor of King’s Way Reformed Church in Prescott, Arizona. He is known for posting provocative content regarding a variety of issues. In October, Partridge was at the center of online controversy after criticizing the “crack-sucking leggings” worn by a waitress where his family ate a meal.

Dale Partridge: Interracial Marriage Is Not the ‘Ideal’

“As a Christian man happily married to a Mexican/Spanish/American woman, I actually agree with @JoelWebbon,” Partridge said in a social media post on Saturday (Jan. 10). “Interracial marriage is not the ‘ideal.’”

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When interracial marriages fail in the US today, it's from the same essential factors that other marriages fail, financial pressures being at the top and unresolved personal expectations being the second factor.
 
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When interracial marriages fail in the US today, it's from the same essential factors that other marriages fail, financial pressures being at the top and unresolved personal expectations being the second factor.
Of course. Thats why I mentioned internal/ cultural issues. Add the cultural on top of the regular internal issues such as one spouse that was raised in a culture to also financially support their parents, etc., its a hard hurdle to jump.
 
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Of course. Thats why I mentioned internal/ cultural issues. Add the cultural on top of the regular internal issues such as one spouse that was raised in a culture to also financially support their parents, etc., its a hard hurdle to jump.
And that's why I said "That's not race, that's culture, which is a different thing."
 
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And that's why I said "That's not race, that's culture, which is a different thing."
I mentioned both. Some in society also making things difficult for the family.
 
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That made a difference 50 years ago.

These days, Millennials simply "no contact" their parents.
Still a problem adding to the difficulties. And it’s a fact that a lot of different races have different cultures. I have Latino friends that run a business here. As much as I enjoy their company there is no denying we have different cultures and ways of doing things. And as much as I enjoy those differences, there is no denying if it was a marital union there would be many issues that would come up that would be foreign to one another that would take a lot of adjustment and compromise not just within the marriage but the whole family dynamic.
 
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Still a problem adding to the difficulties. And it’s a fact that a lot of different races have different cultures. I have Latino friends that run a business here. As much as I enjoy their company there is no denying we have different cultures and ways of doing things. And as much as I enjoy those differences, there is no denying if it was a marital union there would be many issues that would come up that would be foreign to one another that would take a lot of adjustment and compromise not just within the marriage but the whole family dynamic.
Do you think that doesn't happen between Latinos of different cultures?

Personal story:

I'm a dark-skinned descendant of American slavery and speak a spattering of Spanish. My wife is also a descendant of American slavery, but much lighter-skinned and speaks no Spanish. My daughter is also lighter-skinned and speaks Spanish literally like a Spaniard, Castellano accent and all. At the time, she was dating a local Texan of distant Mexican heritage (a Tejano).

We went to a local Mexican (not Tex-Mex) restaurant in which the staff was Latino (I couldn't say whether it was mixed-nationality).

We made our dinner orders at various levels (or non-levels) of Spanish terminology and accents. My daughter reported overhearing our server speaking to the staff (in Mexican Spanish), thinking that we were a family of Spanish-speaking people from a variety of Hispanic nations. He expressed happy wonder that in America such a thing was possible.
 
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Do you think that doesn't happen between Latinos of different cultures?

Personal story:

I'm a dark-skinned descendant of American slavery and speak a spattering of Spanish. My wife is also a descendant of American slavery, but much lighter-skinned and speaks no Spanish. My daughter is also lighter-skinned and speaks Spanish literally like a Spaniard, Castellano accent and all. At the time, she was dating a local Texan of distant Mexican heritage (a Tejano).

We went to a local Mexican (not Tex-Mex) restaurant in which the staff was Latino (I couldn't say whether it was mixed-nationality).

We made our dinner orders at various levels (or non-levels) of Spanish terminology and accents. My daughter reported overhearing our server speaking to the staff (in Mexican Spanish), thinking that we were a family of Spanish-speaking people from a variety of Hispanic nations. He expressed happy wonder that in America such a thing was possible.
Did I say that? I think I’ve made myself clear enough. Not sure what you are trying to debate here.
 
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An interracial couple that are very interesting to follow.

This video shares a unique family's story, highlighting their daily life and the special bond that defines them. It showcases the beautiful family diversity within their family structures, revealing heartwarming moments of love and family growth. Their journey exemplifies a truly loving home filled with strong family ties.



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