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Why you can't debate unbelievers into the Kingdom of God

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A great piece on how we go about conducting ourselves as Christians.
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In an age addicted to argument, Christians have become remarkably good at talking — and remarkably poor at listening. Scroll through social media or walk past a campus debate table, and you’ll see believers armed with microphones, cameras, and carefully memorized rebuttals. The object is not conversion but conquest. The applause line has replaced the altar call.

Somewhere along the way, we began to confuse winning debates with winning souls. Yet Scripture presents a very different picture of how truth changes hearts. The Gospel was never designed to be wielded like a sword in a duel of intellects; it was meant to be offered like bread to the hungry.

The problem with the debate mindset

Apologetics has its place. Reasoned defense of the faith can clarify misunderstandings and expose falsehoods. But when the believer’s primary instinct is to defeat rather than to disciple, something sacred is lost. Too many of today’s “discussions” look more like verbal brawls—complete with highlight reels and hashtags — than like Gospel witness.

Paul warned Timothy, “Have nothing to do with foolish, ignorant controversies; you know that they breed quarrels. And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but kind to everyone, able to teach, patiently enduring evil, correcting his opponents with gentleness” (2 Tim. 2:23–25). Those words are as necessary in the digital age as they were in the first century. Debate can inform minds, but only the Spirit can transform hearts.

Why argument alone fails

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I’ve never understood the logic behind arguing about the Lord or how pressure reveals His heart for us and it comes across otherwise. During my time in missionary prep I encountered people with that mindset. Winning souls was akin to a sport and they had similar qualities to those rooting for a team. There was little said about prayer in relation to their discourse. Every conversation was a slam dunk or treated as such.

But one day I asked a question about their methods and wanted to know how they were certain He wanted them to say the things they did and they never asked. We’re all at different points and few come to faith immediately. It’s usually a process and knowing where they are makes a difference. What helps me in my ministry to the lost is remembering how I felt. I don’t argue or debate and listen more than I talk and provide a human touch.

I’ve found it more effective to share my experiences with the Lord without ulterior motives. Only He can soften hearts. Whether I’m the one who helps them cross the finish line or not. We play a part through our presence and that’s enough. I don’t have to be “the one.“

~bella
 
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