Family Advice

So I am a 30 year old Christian, I have an older sister who is not and never has been Christian, in fact, she's more the opposite, and is involved in a lot of 'things of the world' including worshipping demonic things and also her own issues regarding her own sexuality and gender.
We are friends on social media as expected from family members, however she has shared a couple of very hurtful posts recently, one stating 'If you can't conceive, then that's God's will' (after I had a loss) and another post insulting the cross and what seemed to be targeted at Christians. I have since removed her from my socials.
I couldn't help but mention to her that her posts are hurtful. It's ok to have opinions, but sharing them with the intention to hurt people when you know your family members fall in to a certain category isn't nice.
I got a lot of hateful messages back and comments such as 'I'll do what I want' and 'I don't care'.

I love her obviously, but I feel like for the past few years, she has become distant and selfish, for example, I have never missed celebrating her birthday and always got her a card and gift, but she doesn't even send a birthday message, which is fine, I don't give to receive. She is also constantly going on about her mental health, but not actively doing anything about it.
A big part of me thinks and probably knows that she doesn't seem to like me or my husband because we are Christians. (she's never like him) and she once stated 'He doesn't like me because God doesn't like gays'

I am a very respectful person and want to live a content, peaceful life. So the easier the better.
After speaking to her about the post, she got her girlfriend to send me a very hateful message saying things like 'You go above and beyond to insult and hurt *name*' and 'you're bullying someone who has only ever wanted to build a relationship with you' and 'Lastly THEIR name is **, If you want to be shown respect, try showing it'.

She has only shortened her name recently, so it is quite difficult to get in to the habit of that name after over 25 years of calling her by her full name. One thing is, I don't and will never follow 'they/them' pronouns, never. I don't follow those beliefs and I don't think its fair for a small minority of people to force others to follow their beliefs.

Just like, I can't (not that I would) say, 'well, you have to come to church, because that's what I believe, and that's that'. I am ok with other people believing what they want, but not forcing it upon others.

TLDR; My sister has disrespected my faith for years, now she is posting insulting, hurtful things on socials aimed at Christians and also my personal circumstances. She hasn't liked me for years and bothered about birthdays or anything (when I have given to her every year) and then expected me to change my beliefs and refer to her as they/them, which is not happening.

My question is; How do I move on from this. Many Christians say to 'change your company' which, I barley see her anyway and I wouldn't want demonic influences in our home and in front of our future children etc.

Delvianna said:

I think this is one of those instances that you just need to give her to God and let her own decisions come to fruition. We see this in 1 Corinthians.

"I wrote to you in my letter not to associate with sexually immoral people— 10 not at all meaning the people of this world who are immoral, or the greedy and swindlers, or idolaters. In that case you would have to leave this world." - 1 Corinthians 5:9-10

The beginning of the chapter is about Paul telling the church to give a man over to Satan (expel him from the church) because he was having sex with his step-mother and the reason was, "hand this man over to Satan for the destruction of the flesh,so that his spirit may be saved on the day of the Lord."

I know that's hard to do but it sounds like this is a good time in doing so. After this, work with God on learning to truly forgive your sister and her girlfriend for what they have said and done, so you can heal from it. God will absolutely give you ideas on how you can forgive. I'm sorry you're going through this and I completely understand what you're going through as my brother is also not Christian, is very much pro-trans among other things and constantly instigates arguments because ... i dunno, he has nothing else better to do? lol So just pray to God to help you deal with it, ask for advice on how to let go and also, if you have anyone close you reach out to (family, friends, church members), maybe God can use someone else to give you a word that you need to hear. It's always good to have someone to find comfort in. Also, if you ever want to reach out to me if you don't have anyone, you can private message me at any time.

I pray that the Lord leads you to forgiveness, heals your heart from the pain and guides you to peace, love and understanding. And maybe, at some point in the future, you and your sister can reconcile.

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Thank you very much for this advice. I pray for her, and will continue to do so. I will spend more time asking God for guidance and the help for forgiveness. This is a very encouraging piece of advice, thank you. It's helpful to get advice from someone who also has a similar person in their family.

Thank you, and God bless you.

Thank you for your comment. I absolutely agree with what you're saying. I prayed for my mum to know Jesus, and she did, and now she is coming to church every week. I will continue to pray for my sister too and hope that one day, she'll find Jesus like I did and my mum. I will be here for her if she ever asks any questions about Jesus, church or scriptures.

Thank you for your insight.

Blessings to you