I assumed this much. Every time that God doesn't do something, it gives the enemy leeway into his plans. But why is this? It's a test to see how you'll react, when the path you want is closed, but satan's paths are opened?
Everything is a test. Job was tested, Noah was tested, Abraham was tested, we are tested. Each one of us must go through tests of all kinds, and while I've met people that simply cannot accept this about this life, they are mistaken and it is the case. No one escapes the testing, and knowing about the nature of life here and that one is being tested does not make it any easier, as the knowledge of being tested means your test might be harder than it was to counter-weight the situation and your advanced knowledge to set the standards to a proportional weight and ensure that your grade on the test is true and accurate.
No one escapes testing. God the Son walked this Earth as a man and was tested while here no differently than we are, except in the fact that He passed with a perfect score.
And this is my issue here. I talked to God in that dream, what is the holy life for? Because, I've received nothing that I want. Yet, I have gave God my full attention, and discipline. I gave Him all this at the expense of all societal methods of "living one's life". So, I took away all the lust,m gluttony, pleasures, corruption... for what? If it is for nothing, then by societal standard's I wasted time and resources mainlining the body safe and pure, for absolutely nothing? And God refuses to answer the question. What is it for?
These dreams, as you said, He's showing me what is happening behind the scenes. But it doesn't help me. Even if I know, why do I know? It has to have a reason.
That dream of God when He told me to keep my word, and He promised me, cannot be in relation to eternal life. It can't be. Eternal life comes after you lived your life, after the judgemet is passed (decided based on a life lived). It's too early for this. It has to be something else. And I think it is in relation to this holy life. And I have no idea what I promised Him, and what He promised me.
Eternal life is given by simply believing on God. You don't have to live exemplary to have it. It has to be something else. But how do I know what it is? He promised me, what? Because if Hew said that, it means He hasn't kept his end, yet. "I promised you" means something that will occur in the future.
This life is not for receiving but rather, again, is the testing phase. The Lord Jesus receives a Kingdom for passing the test the Father put Him through on our behalf for faithfulness, but He didn't receive it in the here and now. We are appointed a time to do God's work (John 9:4), and we do not receive payment until the work day is over.
While we are indeed saved by God's grace and not our works (Ephesians 2:8) it does not mean people will all be on the same level nor rewarded equally when we enter the Kingdom. On judgment day our gift of life is by grace through faith in Christ, but our rewards are determined by our faithfulness, works, and seeking God (Hebrews 11:6). There is more information to be found in 1 Corinthians chapter 3 on this, where Paul discusses building on the foundation Christ has laid for us in giving us eternal life (1 Corinthians 3:14 - more context around this verse).
God also isn't refusing to answer a question I don't think (although I have received a number of "no" answers to requests). I wouldn't be urged by God to reply to these messages if He wasn't living in me and putting it in my heart to do so. Although I know it may feel like He is refusing, I think it may be more so His perfect timing and methods than a refusal. I waited ten years for more than one question I've had in life and many others also took years even if it wasn't ten years. God's sense of time and when He answers can also be part of the test, in seeing if we are willing to trust Him like when He tested the woman who came to Him for help... and she passed because she believed in His goodness (Matthew 15:27).
The reason, I suspect, is to prepare you for whatever may happen in showing you that He is with you and speaking to you and even when things look bad, He is there and has not abandoned you. The situations we find ourselves in are of the nature that bring about questions like "where is God right now?" and "why would God allow this sort of thing to happen to me, to us?" When my life is hardest, and it seems God showed up too late for anything to be saved, I've been taught through many accounts of these occurrences that God is never too late, and I have to trust Him through the process. I'm going through this experience even as I write this now, and I've hardly had many times in my life that I wasn't going through the same experience. It feels like God would love me more if He made it easier, and feels like He would show me more kindness throughout these hardships if there were some provisions that made what seems to me very unreasonable circumstances much easier, but when you really know Him, you know that there is a method to what seems to be madness in His great plans. This is after all, what makes the test a test, in that testing is always very hard. The military regularly encourages their recruits to quit and trying to get them to give up just to make sure they are dedicated and willing to go through with what they agreed to be, and if they won't... then they want them to quit because they don't want disloyal soldiers. Our enemy is regularly accusing us before God, and I'm sure the stakes can get pretty intense even though we can't understand what those stakes are. I know it is for God's glory, and I know we will be rewarded, and I know that God knows what each of us can handle.
"And I have no idea what I promised Him, and what He promised me."
This part strikes me pretty deeply with an intense sense of urgency to make note of. He promised you that He would keep you (John 10:28), and pull you through, and be with you (Matthew 28:20). He has promised literally everything in the Bible, as every promise in it belongs to God's Sons and Daughters, believers in Christ. We are the bride of Christ (2 Corinthians 11:2), and when we accept Christ and choose to follow Him, we pledge ourselves to Him as such, and this is our promise to Him. Keeping our faithfulness to Him, and doing good by Him (Ephesians 2:10) is out of gratitude for everything He has done for us and not to gain reward (1 John 4:19) as we would have no reward at all if not for His gift of life for our sake.
Being wed to Christ is no small thing, and if He lived a perfect life, and we are Saints, which are sinners saved by His grace, we should always be thankful (1 Thessalonians 5:18). We promised to follow Him, and love Him, and repented and dedicated ourselves to living according to His ways, and He has promised us hundreds or thousands of promises in His Word if we claim them and remind God about them in prayer (Matthew 7:7).
Ultimately the promise is to be a good husband to us and walk us through this life, as marriage is an institution that portrays our relationship to Christ (Ephesians 5:25), and our promise is to be a good "wife" in that we do as we have been asked and trust He will make it well worth it to us.
Also, a side question, but relevant to the promise. What would happen if things were to go "wrong"? I don't have theological knowledge on the matter, but from my understanding, people are judged differently by God. Those that sin after the truth has been revealed, are judged and punished much more harshly than those that don't know the truth. Could be curses involved as well (automatic-curses as I like to call them), based on actions formed after the truth. (But by that logic, there should also be automatic-blessings, right?) .
I know better - that's the problem. And the promise pf God, I suspect is much more than a promise. It could be a warning to me - either you keep it, or... (something will happen).
The fact is, no one is punished who is in Christ in a sense of condemnation (Romans 8:1). While there are temporal consequences that we receive for sins at times (John 5:14), God often even spares us of more harsh punishments we would have otherwise received for our evil doings when we repent and our heart did not intend to do evil.
The statement of some being punished more than others by Christ (Luke 12:48) is referring to those who go into punishment and have not been forgiven. Christ is pointing out the fact that when people are given the truth, and they reject it when they had the ability to follow it, it is because they are being much more evil than others, and thus being more evil brings on more severe punishment.
There are "automatic" blessings also, in that doing right keeps one safe from evil things they would otherwise experience. God protects those who are walking right with Him, and even if we do fall into foolish things God will use them to teach us and make blessings out of our curses (Romans 8:28). We truly do not have any idea just how much evil God is really protecting us from. There are far worse things than we can imagine that exist than we would want to even know about. I've learned more about the darkness than I would like to know, and I've learned when we are safe and secure it is not because there is no evil that wishes to harm us, but that there are very mighty angels protecting us at quite literally all times of each and every day.
"It could be a warning to me..."
I suspect it could be a warning, but much more so. I think it is also an encouragement in that many people never get dreams from God, and many people especially do not get information about their enemies watching them and wishing to get a foot in the door. He obviously is also telling you that He is pleased with your efforts so far and wants you to continue in them, and in following Him. He also wants you aware that people are wishing for your demise, and for you to stay diligent and on the path.
I think He is trying to put your mind at ease about many questions that are arising in you, and is showing you that while you are surrounded, that there are far more of His own around you than there are against you (2 Kings 6:16). He doesn't want you to doubt in Him because you have not received rewards in this life, because this life is for testing, not rewards (Daniel 12:13). He also does not want you worried about your enemies, but quite clearly does want you aware of them to encourage you to keep fighting the good fight. There is nothing in God's heart, our Father, toward us except love, forgiveness, and an extreme desire to fashion us into little versions of Christ (Romans 8:29) and to reward us for being faithful.
He loves you, and He wants you to be prepared for the future, to quench your doubts, to ease your fears, to lift you up, and to encourage you to keep going with the efforts and investments you have engaged in toward Him and the Kingdom.
There is nothing to be afraid of besides doubt invading our hearts and putting a wedge between us and Him, because that is the only tool that anyone ever has to get to us. Hardships or other experiences we have where we embrace putting expectations on God are the tools used to impose doubt onto us and cause us to question God when we are made to glorify Him, in direct opposition of the enemy's desire to steal God's glory.
