How do you feel being a mature single at church?

Citanul said:

It's not just phones and stranger danger. Many women are tired of cold approaches from complete strangers when they're going about their everyday business. It's not that they don't want to meet someone, just not like that.

But there definitely are women who want men to approach them and the problem is that there's no way of knowing where someone stands on the matter. The consequence of that problem is that the type of men these women would prefer to date are ones who are respectful of women and, being aware of the harassment women receive, decide that it's better not to approach anyone.

And this is where churches miss the mark. Those women who don't like cold approaches would be open to dating someone if they'd first had a chance to get to know them in some sort of social environment, but that's not happening as many churches offer very little for singles/young adults, and if you're an older single then there's no hope for you. There might be men's and women's groups, but having those groups interact at all would be unthinkable.

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ThisIsMe123 said:

Yeah I call BS on "men not stepping up in churches", I don'tsee this happening. When I'd attempt to do so, I'd get a dirty look the same way a strange woman doesn't like being approached in non-Church public place (the gym, store etc).

Most women are not wanting men to approach, as it's off putting these days...unless you're cute, then you may have a shot. Bu with all this stranger danger and peoples' faced buried in their phones...social media has kept people tethered behind the screen, and actually opposed to real life connections.

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Godcrazy said:

Too little done for singles. Too many women afraid the other women take their men that are single. Too much focus on families none on singles. a far cry from the early church. I think add to it the secularity of society in general how people don`t care about each other or know each other anymore. It is sad. we should be different.

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Richard.20.12 said:

Please explain:
"Too many women afraid the other women take their men that are single."
Do you mean there are married/attached women who are afraid that the single women will take their married/attached men if more attention was on single life in the church?

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