I wish I were asexual

I've been there but regardless it's not easy to help. Just as it's not easy for you or any of us to be helped. Yet here we all are as Christians struggling every day and having faith in Jesus we endure our suffering. Try not giving your urges and fantasies power over you, remember your sins are forgiven and yourself is free from the uncleanliness of the flesh.

The reason God had to send his Son Jesus to die for our sins is to show us His understanding of our humanity. How difficult our lower being inherently opposes His own higher being as God who's in spirit having His own nature. Except also He lead the way in humbling Himself in Jesus, our Lord and Savior was focused and busy serving God and people.

It's about having the mindset and habit of putting doubts about yourself aside, then putting faith in Jesus. When he struggled against the flesh he in the spirit turned to God in prayer and walk. He relied upon the Father's word for remembrance and encouragement against Satan after his Baptism. Before it was his time to fulfill his purpose and finish his work on the cross, he too struggled knowing the suffering that was to come. Again he turned to the Father in prayer and with the disciples, long as it took for him and them; at the end it was an hour with them as he prayed. After he continued to walk with God to his last breath and finally his life after resurrected to Heaven.

Only advice I have is what has worked for me. Focus your mind and concentrate your efforts elsewhere. If you rather have another mindset and will, you must humble yourself seeking God in Jesus as our Lord and Savior. Simply go to him confessing your struggles and suffering, listen for his response in spirit where ever he can be found (e.g. God's word/spirit). It helps to put the Holiness and righteousness of God in you when facing sin.

Next time or whenever you feel it's needed give Psalms 32 a read and here's a study of this Psalm:

It’s 2025 and as a 22 year-old girl, I’m in the same exact situation. As pleasurable as these feelings can be within the boundaries of marriage, I hate that I will be struggling with temptation for other men even after marriage. That I will struggle with staying faithful and turning away from these thoughts/sights for the rest of my life. I feel conviction when I look and it almost feels like I am committing adultery even when my flesh reacts against my will. I hate the very fact that I’m at all attracted to any man that is not the husband God has set apart for me.

Most days, I don’t want to get married for this exact reason. I also wish I was asexual. How different my life could’ve looked if I was. Perhaps I would’ve found it easier to dedicate myself to God. I find it discomforting (sometimes disgusting) when other men look at me and I feel disgusted with myself when I look at other men. I will be honest and admit that it does feel nice when others find you attractive, but I hate that I even feel this way. I ignore this feeling as often as I can, but some days, my flesh will force it onto me without mercy. I hate that my mood and self-worth are reliant on how attractive others perceive me. However, I have gained confidence and self-love because of Jesus Christ. I am considerably less reliant, but still, some days, my brain and flesh are particularly more sensitive and perceptive to the looks I receive. Why do we have to stare? Why are we made this way by God?

Some people will say it is part of our fallen sinful nature, but I also heard some absurd theory that before the fall, when Adam and Eve were in the garden of Eden, God had created Adam with a polygenist nature. If this is truly what God intended to be the nature of men, I want no part in it. I understand needing to be obedient, but I believe my Father would not force me to do something He knows would not sit well with me in intimacy. I am fine remaining single for the rest of my life if it means not partaking in a harem. Yes, loneliness is an impending doom for many singles, but anytime I feel that way, I need only to draw closer to Jesus Christ and He will comfort me. If it’s God’s will for me to marry, I do not know what God will do to resolve this in me. Please pray for me, thank you