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I need wise counsel and wisdom about a girl.

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Hey all! It’s been awhile since I’ve posted but I’ve been around! And I wanted to reach out today for wise counsel and fellow believers advice

So for about a year ago I met a girl on upward, the Christian dating site and me and her have a lot in common, she also most certainly doesn’t live in worldly ways. Like me she doesn’t swear, Loves Christ, has never touched any sort of drug, has never had any sexual activity outside marriage, has never been drunk, and shares the same beliefs and political opinions as I do.we’ve met a handful of times and had a great time together.

I just however want to make sure she is a right one to Date. i keep praying for wisdom I guess a part of me is foolish for thinking God will answer in my emotions change, which I’m letting go of. But I confess I’m scared and a hint of hesitant to receive his answer, I’m so scared I’ll never find a woman who doesn’t have a history like me; and I guess I’m scared of the possibility of letting her go if he doesn’t approve. Could anyone help me out with this?
 

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You’ve answered your question in your OP. How much confirmation do you need? She has the qualities you’ve asked for and you’ve enjoyed one another’s company. Continue to spend time together and see where it leads. Don’t overthink it.

~bella
 
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You’ve answered your question in your OP. How much confirmation do you need? She has the qualities you’ve asked for and you’ve enjoyed one another’s company. Continue to spend time together and see where it leads. Don’t overthink it.

~bella
Agreed. But for all that is sacred, don't jump in and remain for fear of being alone. The whole idea of dating is to thoroughly explore your compatibility over a goodly amount of time - especially in regards to your exercise of your faith, not merely in agreeing on the tenets you hold.

Remain in prayer, both of you, to kindly and respectfully step away if your spirits are giving you unease.

Much better to hurt feelings for a time, than to jump into Holy communion and grow to resent each other because you later discover the other didn't live up to an imagined ideal.

Be blessed!
 
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Hey all! It’s been awhile since I’ve posted but I’ve been around! And I wanted to reach out today for wise counsel and fellow believers advice

So for about a year ago I met a girl on upward, the Christian dating site and me and her have a lot in common, she also most certainly doesn’t live in worldly ways. Like me she doesn’t swear, Loves Christ, has never touched any sort of drug, has never had any sexual activity outside marriage, has never been drunk, and shares the same beliefs and political opinions as I do.we’ve met a handful of times and had a great time together.

I just however want to make sure she is a right one to Date. i keep praying for wisdom I guess a part of me is foolish for thinking God will answer in my emotions change, which I’m letting go of. But I confess I’m scared and a hint of hesitant to receive his answer, I’m so scared I’ll never find a woman who doesn’t have a history like me; and I guess I’m scared of the possibility of letting her go if he doesn’t approve. Could anyone help me out with this?
If I understand you correctly, you found a girl you like and now you are scared that God will not approve and you will need to let her go?

I am not sure how this is even supposed to work. How would you know He does not approve her?
 
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