Question about Re-Marriage/Adultery

jacks · Feb 24, 2025

PrettyboyAndy said:
She is explaining to me, that if 2 people divorce for any reason besides death of a spouse or adultry, and they remarry, they are living in the perpetual continual sin of adultry, and unless they divorce again, they are unrepentant.

She’s explaining that it’s similar to 2 men married in a homosexual relationship.

What I was wondering is what she thought the remarried people should do? Does she advocate that they now get a divorce? Or would they be better off, remaining married and asking for forgiveness? Once they have remarried, it seems they would just be compounding their sin, by again getting divorced.

The homosexual relationship comparison, seems very odd. You might be better asking your clergy about this situation, the women your speaking with seems a bit dogmatic on this issue.

Gregory Thompson · Feb 24, 2025

(but if you were just going to do whatever you wanted, why did you ask for God's word on it?)

PrettyboyAndy · Feb 24, 2025

Gregory Thompson said:
(but if you were just going to do whatever you wanted, why did you ask for God's word on it?)

I am married with 5 children - me and my wife are just fine. I am wondering if what my wife’s best friend explaining to us is biblically correct.

PrettyboyAndy · Feb 24, 2025

jacks said:
What I was wondering is what she thought the remarried people should do? Does she advocate that they now get a divorce? Or would they be better off, remaining married and asking for forgiveness? Once they have remarried, it seems they would just be compounding their sin, by again getting divorced.

The homosexual relationship comparison, seems very odd. You might be better asking your clergy about this situation, the women your speaking with seems a bit dogmatic on this issue.

Yes, she is saying unless the remarried person divorce's again, they are living in a continual state of unrepentant adultery.

jacks · Feb 24, 2025

PrettyboyAndy said:
Yes, she is saying unless the remarried person divorce's again, they are living in a continual state of unrepentant adultery.

Seems odd to say they should sin to stop sinning. We all sin continually and knowingly. Personally I would think divorcing again would just compound the problem. She's casting stones.

Gregory Thompson · Feb 24, 2025

PrettyboyAndy said:
I am married with 5 children and me my spouse are fine. I am wondering if what my wife’s best friend explaining to us is biblically correct.

Glad to hear that.

Edit: removed what I said here because what the friend was saying is now unclear.

Actually, a church that teaches homosexual marriages are not a correct arrangement, should not be teaching that divorces and remarriages are okay. It's hypocritical.

Gregory Thompson · Feb 24, 2025

PrettyboyAndy said:
Yes, she is saying unless the remarried person divorce's again, they are living in a continual state of unrepentant adultery.

Oh no, that's wrong. The adultery is about the sex.

Reluctant Theologian · Feb 24, 2025

PrettyboyAndy said:
We have a friend who believes re-marriage would make you an adulterer.

And if you re-marry unless its due to death of your spouse or being cheated on, your living in sin, in a perpetual state of adultery.

I would like to hear other believers view on this.

She has a lot of scripture to backup her point.

Several things seem to be straightforward:

From a Biblical perspective (both TNK/OT and NT) marriage is a permanent/life-long thing - and in Matthew Yeshua mentions sexual immorality (as defined by Mosaic Law) (Matthew 5:32) as the only condition that allows a husband to send away his wife. To me it seems that abandonment by the husband equals 'sending away' - in both cases the initiative is with the husband in stopping his marital duties.

Yeshua does not say anything about remarriage of a husband outside the divorce/sending away question context. A husband under Mosaic Law had always been entitled to marry another woman.

Now for the wife I would extrapolate Yeshua's remark in Matthew in such a way that sexual immorality on the husband's side also allow a wife to leave her husband (although He doesn't explicitly say that) - and in that case she would be allowed to remarry. (So for both husband and wife only death or (optionally) sexual immorality on the other partner's side ends a marriage.)

For all other cases (so not involving sexual immorality on the side of the husband) Paul's instructions apply in line with Torah - a wife should remain living alone or be reconciled with her husband (Romans 7:2, 1 Corinthians 7:11, 1 Corinthians 7:39) - she is not free to remarry.

Notice the asymmetry of Paul's instructions - three times he mentions the instruction for wives, but not a single time a similar instruction for husbands. This is not sexist or accidental - it is in line with Torah/Mosaic Law - and identical to Yeshua's instructions.

Some might say the innocent should never suffer under unlawful marriage dissolution; yet Yeshua implies exactly that: a wife who is sent away unlawfully (without valid 'sexual immorality' grounds) should not remarry.

Maria Billingsley · Feb 24, 2025

PrettyboyAndy said:
We have a friend who believes re-marriage would make you an adulterer.

And if you re-marry unless its due to death of your spouse or being cheated on, your living in sin, in a perpetual state of adultery.

I would like to hear other believers view on this.

She has a lot of scripture to backup her point.

Jesus Christ of Nazareth set standards higher than the Mosaic law. For example He also said if a man looks upon a woman with lust he has already committed adultery. What are we to make of that?
This nonsense about " in perpetual state of adultery " is legalistic at best and a stumbling block at worse. Jesus Christ of Nazareth often spoke in hyperbolic language in order to get His point across.

Marriage is a life long commitment.

Blessings

Truth7t7 · Feb 25, 2025

PrettyboyAndy said:
We have a friend who believes re-marriage would make you an adulterer.

And if you re-marry unless its due to death of your spouse or being cheated on, your living in sin, in a perpetual state of adultery.

I would like to hear other believers view on this.

She has a lot of scripture to backup her point.

God's words are very clear, if a spouse divorces and remarries while the spouse lives its adultery, like the Ole vow states (Till Death Do US Part) and the Holy Bible teaches just that, as Maria states above in post #31 (Marriage Is A Life Long Commitment)

The Bible allows divorce and remaining single if the spouse is sexually unfaithful (Fornication) it also allows for separation and to remain unmarried or be reconciled, No place in scripture does God's words allow for remarriage while the spouse is living

Romans 7:1-3KJV
Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth?
2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.
3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.

Mark 10:11-12KJV
11 And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her.
12 And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.

A command of the Lord Jesus regarding Christian separation simple and clear, remarriage isn't a consideration

1 Corinthians 7:10-11KJV
10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:
11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.

Truth7t7 · Feb 25, 2025

PrettyboyAndy said:
She is explaining to me, that if 2 people divorce for any reason besides death of a spouse or adultry, and they remarry, they are living in the perpetual continual sin of adultry, and unless they divorce again, they are unrepentant.

She’s explaining that it’s similar to 2 men married in a homosexual relationship.

If a spouse is married to another person while their initial lawful spouse is living its Adultery, it's that simple as my post #32 above clearly shows

The only way to correct the sin of Adultery is to repent, divorce the unlawful spouse, and remain single and unmarried or reconcile with the initial lawful spouse, it's that simple

(Till Death Do Us Part)

PrettyboyAndy · Feb 25, 2025

Truth7t7 said:
If a spouse is married to another person while their initial lawful spouse is living its Adultery, it's that simple as my post #32 above clearly shows

The only way to correct the sin of Adultery is to repent, divorce the unlawful spouse, and remain single and unmarried or reconcile with the initial lawful spouse, it's that simple

(Till Death Do Us Part)

If the only sin that is unforgivable is blasphemy of the Holy Spirit, and lets say someone is re-married already, and they don't feel convicted to divorce, what would happen then? With regards to their salvation.

PrettyboyAndy · Feb 25, 2025

Reluctant Theologian said:
Several things seem to be straightforward:

From a Biblical perspective (both TNK/OT and NT) marriage is a permanent/life-long thing - and in Matthew Yeshua mentions sexual immorality (as defined by Mosaic Law) (Matthew 5:32) as the only condition that allows a husband to send away his wife. To me it seems that abandonment by the husband equals 'sending away' - in both cases the initiative is with the husband in stopping his marital duties.

Yeshua does not say anything about remarriage of a husband outside the divorce/sending away question context. A husband under Mosaic Law had always been entitled to marry another woman.

Now for the wife I would extrapolate Yeshua's remark in Matthew in such a way that sexual immorality on the husband's side also allow a wife to leave her husband (although He doesn't explicitly say that) - and in that case she would be allowed to remarry. (So for both husband and wife only death or (optionally) sexual immorality on the other partner's side ends a marriage.)

For all other cases (so not involving sexual immorality on the side of the husband) Paul's instructions apply in line with Torah - a wife should remain living alone or be reconciled with her husband (Romans 7:2, 1 Corinthians 7:11, 1 Corinthians 7:39) - she is not free to remarry.

Notice the asymmetry of Paul's instructions - three times he mentions the instruction for wives, but not a single time a similar instruction for husbands. This is not sexist or accidental - it is in line with Torah/Mosaic Law - and identical to Yeshua's instructions.

Some might say the innocent should never suffer under unlawful marriage dissolution; yet Yeshua implies exactly that: a wife who is sent away unlawfully (without valid 'sexual immorality' grounds) should not remarry.

Very nice answer. What happens to ones salvation if they got re-married without the proper grounds?

Truth7t7 · Feb 25, 2025

PrettyboyAndy said:
If the only sin that is unforgivable is blasphemy of the Holy Spirit, and lets say someone is re-married already, and they don't feel convicted to divorce, what would happen then? With regards to their salvation.

I won't judge a person's salvation, I work my own out daily in fear and trembling, just sharing biblical truth in love

The only way to correct the sin of adultery is to repent, divorce the unlawful spouse, and remain single or reconcile with the initial living spouse if possible

80% of places calling themselves the church won't preach on the true sin of adultery, they put their blessings on it, just keep $$$ in the offering basket and everybody is smiling

Divorce the 40yr old wife of 18yrs and 3 kids, marry the beautiful 28yr old college girl, run across town to the Mega Church unnoticed and pretend like the sin of adultery doesn't exist, standard procedure in the US and around the world

In Love, Jesus Is The Lord

Maria Billingsley · Feb 25, 2025

PrettyboyAndy said:
If the only sin that is unforgivable is blasphemy of the Holy Spirit, and lets say someone is re-married already, and they don't feel convicted to divorce, what would happen then? With regards to their salvation.

This bondage of being in perpetual adultery is false. It is not the Gospel of Jesus Christ of Nazareth. Now it folds into a salvation issue. Let us reason. Living the rest of one's life thinking they are not saved because they got a divorce then remarried is preposterous. There is a higher message here that is being overlooked.

Truth7t7 · Feb 25, 2025

Maria Billingsley said:
Living the rest of one's life thinking they are not saved because they got a divorce then remarried is preposterous.

Do you believe that if a person divorces their spouse and marries another person while their initial lawful spouse is living, is this adultery?

If yes to the question above, how do you believe this sin of adultery can be dealt with?

Maria Billingsley · Feb 25, 2025

Truth7t7 said:
Do you believe that if a person divorces their spouse and marries another person while their initial lawful spouse is living, is this adultery?

Obviously not. They are divorced. Like I said, there is a higher message that is more logical.
" Marriage is for life".

Truth7t7 · Feb 25, 2025

Maria Billingsley said:
Obviously not. They are divorced. Like I said, there is a higher message that is more logical.
" Marriage is for life".

God's words below teach otherwise, to be married to another person while the initial spouse is living is Adultery, plain and simple

God's words are very clear, if a spouse divorces and remarries while the spouse lives its adultery, like the Ole vow states (Till Death Do US Part) and the Holy Bible teaches just that

The Bible allows divorce and remaining single if the spouse is sexually unfaithful (Fornication) it also allows for separation and to remain unmarried or be reconciled, No place in scripture does God's words allow for remarriage while the spouse is living

Romans 7:1-3KJV
Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth?
2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.
3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.

Mark 10:11-12KJV
11 And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her.
12 And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.

A command of the Lord Jesus regarding Christian separation simple and clear, remarriage isn't a consideration

1 Corinthians 7:10-11KJV
10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:
11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.

Maria Billingsley · Feb 25, 2025

As a general comment here...
We should take into consideration who Jesus Christ of Nazareth was speaking to. Men were the only ones who held the power to divorce. A woman could not do it. All of this is directed at them and their hardened hearts. The Mosaic law uses the word " indecency " which had a vast meaning. Jesus Christ of Nazareth narrowed it down to one thing in order to cut through the seared conscience of men.

Maria Billingsley · Feb 25, 2025

Truth7t7 said:
God's words below teaches otherwise, to be married to another person while the initial spouse is living is Adultery, plain and simple

God's words are very clear, if a spouse divorces and remarries while the spouse lives its adultery, like the Ole vow states (Till Death Do US Part) and the Holy Bible teaches just that, as Maria states above in post #31 (Marriage Is A Life Long Commitment)

The Bible allows divorce and remaining single if the spouse is sexually unfaithful (Fornication) it also allows for separation and to remain unmarried or be reconciled, No place in scripture does God's words allow for remarriage while the spouse is living

Romans 7:1-3KJV
Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth?
2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.
3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.

Mark 10:11-12KJV
11 And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her.
12 And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.

A command of the Lord Jesus regarding Christian separation simple and clear, remarriage isn't a consideration

1 Corinthians 7:10-11KJV
10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:
11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.

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