That's not sound reasoning. The scenario must suppose all children are treasured by their parents, otherwise the loss of the child becomes meaningless and this exercise in reasoning becomes a moot point.
The scenario already stipulates that there is a special bond of love between parents and their children. God would not be telling anyone to abandon their children just because He's telling us to count other people's children just as worthy of life as their own. So, to be clear, in this scenario, I'm saying He's telling me to not avoid suffering by handing it to someone else to have to suffer. And I'm positive the perspective from self-sacrificial love is not Satan's perspective.
Of course, it's common to look out for our own in this world. But this love that sacrifices oneself for others comes from heaven and is not of this world. Hence, it's the Gospel of Christ crucified preached unto the world.
God not only sent His son to die so that we may live; God knew His son would be stripped naked, mocked, scorned, beaten, scourged and nailed to a cross to die a slow and agonizing death as a spectacle of the ultimate shame, and yet would pray for his crucifiers. This is the incorruptible love on display, the Eternal Spirit that overcomes death and rises from the dead.
Wherefore Jesus says:
John 10:17
Therefore doth my Father love me, because I lay down my life, that I might take it again.
I don't personally hold to any high opinion of myself. I thank God for His Word and His providence, and I teach my children accordingly.
I think you're forgetting the bond is already established and also that this is a hypothetical. In this hypothetical my beloved children die instead of someone else's, so obviously there would be no relationship to strengthen or weaken since they're dead. However, as a Christian, because they died for the sake of others, I have the hope they will have eternal life.
Respectfully, that's not an accurate depiction. It's built into the parameters of the hypothetical scenario because the scenario presupposes that the children's lives are precious and treasured by their parents, otherwise it's a meaningless thought exercise.
Since it presupposes that all parents cherish their children, it's not even asking whether I owe my children something more than I owe other children. It's actually asking if I would take the suffering of losing my beloved children, or hand that suffering to someone else to have to experience. It's therefore asking if I would sacrifice myself to save others from suffering or sacrifice others to save myself from suffering.
Your argument is about justifying the looking out for the interests of your own ahead of the interests of others in terms of welfare. In those terms you didn't disagree nor agree that it's reasonable that the child with the greater need should come first. But you then changed the scenario to a hypothetical no-win life/death semantical construct. You changed the conditions so that there no longer exist children with greater or lesser needs to factor in.
That's what I mean by moving the goal posts.
When it's about welfare, I'm saying the child with the greater need comes first, whether it's mine or someone else's.
Caring for the welfare of the neediest children first is not evil nor is it forsaking my bonds or duties to my own children.
No, I'm not questioning your morality because I don't believe people can be moral apart from God. It's the same as saying that the Word of God is the Light of mankind. Hence there is no such thing as your or my morality. God's Spirit is Love, the moral power. No one owns God. To Love God with all heart mind and soul and love your neighbor as yourself, is morality.
Since Jesus taught to love others as I would want to be loved, I must count others as my equal, or discount God's Word.
You're misunderstanding me. I'm not saying the bond of love between parents and their children is evil. I'm saying it's the carnal part of mankind that cares about His or Her own carnal comfort and discomfort, and it's the spiritual part of mankind that cares about the suffering and well-being of others. Hence the carnal mind is cynical, thinking that everyone is self-serving, caring about their selves over others, and therefore projecting the same onto others.
So, the fact remains that Jesus taught that we're to love others as ourselves, otherwise we're hypocritical in our judgment.