Should a man in a Godly relationship compliment how beautiful his girlfriend is daily ?

In addition to the good things that linux.poet has said, I'll add that it's possible to compliment your partner for more than her looks. Did she just say something insightful, or accomplish something at work that was really hard, or create something artistic, or do something thoughtful for you? If so, say something that shows that you noticed what she did and that you appreciate it.

QuestionQuest74 said:

I know looks starts the initiation of the relationship but should a man compliment his girlfriend or WIFE looks daily in a Christian relationship? Or is that vain and sign of insecurities and being carnal from the women she’s in need of compliments or the man being desperate

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You can enjoy discovering what each woman really needs. Here is what God's word says a Christian lady needs >

"Do not let your adornment be merely outward---arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel---rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God." (1 Peter 3:3-4)

QuestionQuest74 said:

I know looks starts the initiation of the relationship but should a man compliment his girlfriend or WIFE looks daily in a Christian relationship? Or is that vain and sign of insecurities and being carnal from the women she’s in need of compliments or the man being desperate

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Do you sense your GF has a need for daily confirmation of her external beauty? If so that signals some insecurities I would say.

And things need to be symmetrical? Does she also compliment you daily on what a great man you are?

To me it sounds better to daily confirm your feelings or commitment towards her - and actions would probably speak louder than words, because being dependent on beauty is a bit shaky once the years progress ...

Being thrilled with/doting on your wife (or pre-wife) on multiple fronts is good thing and typically, reflexive.
(If it is an expression of ulterior motives, that is likely a problem.)

I have been married for 40 years and I am still enthralled by my wife's beauty.
I also dote on my 29yo ward/daughter.
(I am still realistic about the sin nature that we all three share.)

In marriage, the Bible says,
"Let your fountain be blessed,
And rejoice with the wife of your youth.
As a loving deer and a graceful doe,
Let her breasts satisfy you at all times;
And always be enraptured with her love.
For why should you, my son, be enraptured by an immoral woman,
And be embraced in the arms of a seductress?" Proverbs 5:18-20 NKJV

QuestionQuest74 said:

I know looks starts the initiation of the relationship but should a man compliment his girlfriend or WIFE looks daily in a Christian relationship? Or is that vain and sign of insecurities and being carnal from the women she’s in need of compliments or the man being desperate

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Depends on if it is a genuine compliment. If not, then you are lying and that is a sin. Blessings.

QuestionQuest74 said:

I know looks starts the initiation of the relationship but should a man compliment his girlfriend or WIFE looks daily in a Christian relationship? Or is that vain and sign of insecurities and being carnal from the women she’s in need of compliments or the man being desperate

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I routinely tell my wife that she is gorgeous. To me, she is. She is also beautiful on the inside. I encourage her often. Taking your wife for granted is ungodly and unwise. Read the Song of Solomon. That's how to treat a woman. Also Proverbs 31:10 - 29.

QuestionQuest74 said:

What about girlfriend?

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Are you considering marrying her?
If you are, it is appropriate to begin thinking of her in husbandly terms, while maintaining clear boundaries.
If she is not being considered for marriage, why would you have her as a girlfriend?

Anyone can compliment a woman on her looks - a real man compliments her on more than that.

You should regularly compliment your girlfriend about many positive things. Beauty is just one on that list but yes it should be included. Do so without expectations on your end or she will see it as insincere.

QuestionQuest74 said:

What about girlfriend?

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If you judge a woman mainly by what she looks like, this can get you into major trouble. Among other things, beauty discrimination can trick us into falling in love only with a woman's show of charm and outward beauty. And so we can miss out on how real loving is. And we can be in love with our own feelings, and not even know who she really is and how she really is.

And God wants us to discover how to love every woman, because God is all-loving.

"if you love those who love you, what reward have you?" (in Matthew 5:46)

Jesus is not discriminating about how beautiful a woman has to be, in order for her to be His Bride, is He?

So, if we can love only the women who are beautiful, this is a major problem. And a number of men are deeply ruined from real love, because of how they have been tricked into discriminating against women who are less beautiful looking.

And we see what happened when Jacob did not love Leah because she was not beautiful like Rachel >

Genesis 29:31

Have you read this? God expected Jacob to be able to love Leah, even though she was not beautiful like Rachel **and** even though he was **tricked** into getting with Leah.

Jesus wants us to dearly care for every woman, then, never judge any only by what she looks like. God is no respecter of persons, and we need to be like God and love like Him, so we are ready to share eternity with Jesus in His love.

And so you can see how beauty discrimination is part of the anti-Christ thing. But people have very cleverly ignored this, haven't we?

QuestionQuest74 said:

What about girlfriend?

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That depends to a degree on how serious you are. If she is your future wife, treat her like that. If she is not, you need to be careful not to give her the wrong impression. Find something about her that you really like and tell her that you appreciate that about her. Does she dress well? Tell her. Is she clean and tidy? Let her know that you notice. The advice I was given was to find out everything I could about my future wife then close my eyes. We can always find fault with others and ourselves. Some faults are deal breakers, others matter little.

There is a balance between showing interest in someone and leading them on. Pray for wisdom. I advise looking up Mark Gungor, by far the best speaker on relationships that I've ever come across. He has a number of youtube presentations, recordings of his live seminars. If you are serious about your gf, let her watch with you. You will both be blessed.