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What home schooling hides: A boy tortured and starved by his stepmom

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I was at the Johns Hopkins University Lighting of the Quad tonight. The next-to-last musical act was a Christian a cappella group that were described as such from the stage.

Clearly secularism is out of control.
 
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While I admire your continued effort to "both sides" every situation you can, this is a patently ridiculous analogy on multiple levels. First off, it equates religious belief with established science backed by decades of research by tens of thousands (hundreds of thousands? millions?) of people. Second, any society in which this scenario took place would be, by definition, a theocracy. Given the nasty habit that theocracies have of killing/imprisoning/punishing anyone they deem a heretic, there's no way I would ever advertise my rejection of their beliefs by telling them that I planned to pull my kids out of school to teach them evolution.

The reality is that it's in the interest of the state to have an educated populace, and if students are not going to be educated at state schools, then there needs to be some way of evaluating whether or not they are receiving a proper education. Obviously, a situation in which parents can get away with allowing their kids to sit around playing video games all day (as in the OP story - even discounting the abuse) is not acceptable.
But notice that "getting a proper education" is not actually the issue in question here.
 
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Notice, you yourself put an adjective on that to qualify it. You know what that means? It means you're not talking about all of them.

Unless you're using adjectives the way the left wing does when it says "toxic masculinity" and really means that all masculinity is toxic, like "evil Nazis" and "damned Yankees."
Actually. It's because he's fair enough not to generalize....not like...well, a large chunk of this thread.
 
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So there is an evil stepmom in the world but we knew that. One wicked stepmother doesn't mean all homeschoolers are tortured.

What are they trying to do? Outlaw homeschooling our children if we want to? They can't do that.
It would be really helpful if people would read the article and the thread before posting knee jerk reactions.

The issue is not home schooling. The issue is the lack of oversight which allows cases like this to go unnoticed.
 
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Let's say that your local school district put into their lesson plans that "guns rock, universal healthcare is commie nonsense", and you wanted to pull them out of that environment, and the state government had rules that favored the school board and said "well, okay, you can pull them out, but we're going to require your kid to meet with us 4 times a year just to make sure you're not saying anything bad about guns or anything good about universal healthcare...and if we find out you're "uncooperative", we'll just have to file a neglect report"

You wouldn't be at all frustrated by that situation?
Of course I would, but this isn't analogous to any situation that is actually happening. It's what many homeschool parents appear to believe will happen if the state requires counseling visits, but the specific bill mentioned in the OP article included doctors and psychologists as potential people that could be met with, and they're generally not going to be qualified to assess a curriculum based on a short meeting with a student.

It's hard to work to rectify a situation if one party enters into the conversation baselessly assuming malice on behalf of the other party.
Third, I'd say that if they had a hugely vested interest in a educated populace, why is there no discernable trend in key literacy metrics between red states and blue states?
The primary driver of low literacy rates and poor education outcomes is poverty, not curriculum or education spending or politics. I did some quick and dirty Excel graphs this morning and found this (data from World Population Review and US Census):
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And why are we seeing these types of outcomes with regards to mathematics?


Is it remotely possible that some of the stuff some of the blue states are pushing aren't really all that valuable in terms of creating an educated populace? (at least withing the realm of knowledge base that has practical applications)
Pointing out that this data (edit: the science data) is from 2015, so trying to relate it to the current "culture war" issues is more difficult. And trying to relate religious belief to science performance is a bit of a red herring - this assessment only covers 4th grade and 8th grade science, which doesn't really get much into evolution or the origins of the Earth.

With regards to math, scores are trending down nationwide. Comparing 2022 to 2015, the only improvement was in the DoDEA (+2). Illinois and Mississippi were flat, and everyone else got worse. Compared to 2009, things look slightly better, but that's not saying much (8 states plus the DoD show improvements).
 
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Pointing out that this data (edit: the science data) is from 2015, so trying to relate it to the current "culture war" issues is more difficult. And trying to relate religious belief to science performance is a bit of a red herring - this assessment only covers 4th grade and 8th grade science, which doesn't really get much into evolution or the origins of the Earth.
I'm trying to find some more "up to date" 12th grade data on the matter...not sure why the DOE decided back in 2013 to stop reporting on that grade level.

It's one of those things I'm actually interested in seeing objective academic achievement numbers on.

You can find "state education rankings" from different sources, but they're all putting their various spins on it and seem to be heavily weighting metrics that align with their values to establish the "rank".

For instance, if you see a report that factors in a "school choice grade" as a positive metric, you can tell it's coming from a conservative slanted source that are trying to push red states up higher on the list... Likewise, if they're adding an "inclusivity score" as a positive metric, that's coming from a more progressive source that's attempting to bump blue states up higher on the list.
 
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Y'all should be looking at the lateste ranking with PISA; it's an international ranking JUST put out yesterday.

ALL over the globe there was a lowered performance so nobody is really bucking that trend.

The GOOD news is that it shows exactly HOW impactful schools are in their learning. The bad news is that everyone is now behind.

With that said, I would also be VERY VERY curious about see how homeschool scores changed. Because theoretically, they should at LEAST be unchanged.
 
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This is a horrifying case of abuse and murder. Where were the neighbors? Did they not have anyone around them to be suspicious? It's horrifying that murderers and kidnappers and child abusers can house children where their neighbors have no idea what's going on. Why do we need the state to monitor people? I do not agree with any kind of state oversight of families. I'm pretty disappointed that a Christian forum has so many communists and marxists. Did you know Karl Marx believed the only thing standing in the way of communism was the nuclear family? He wanted it GONE. Please read the Communist Manifesto if you really want state surveillance, it will open your eyes to how destructive it is.
 
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Of course I would, but this isn't analogous to any situation that is actually happening. It's what many homeschool parents appear to believe will happen if the state requires counseling visits, but the specific bill mentioned in the OP article included doctors and psychologists as potential people that could be met with, and they're generally not going to be qualified to assess a curriculum based on a short meeting with a student.

It's hard to work to rectify a situation if one party enters into the conversation baselessly assuming malice on behalf of the other party.
It's not baseless when the people proposing the rules are the same people who have been opposing homeschooling all along.
 
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It's not baseless when the people proposing the rules are the same people who have been opposing homeschooling all along.
Then perhaps the homeschoolers should propose alternatives, rather than just saying, "No, we don't wanna!". How do you think we should prevent kids like Roman and his brothers from slipping through the cracks?
 
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Then perhaps the homeschoolers should propose alternatives, rather than just saying, "No, we don't wanna!". How do you think we should prevent kids like Roman and his brothers from slipping through the cracks?

We can find a hundred cases in which the First Amendment or the Fifth Amendment or some other cherished American freedom has permitted someone to be murdered. How many times has the judicial presumption of innocence until proven guilty beyond reasonable doubt resulted in someone being murdered? How often has habeas corpus resulted in someone being murdered?

This may sound cold, but it's like every other issue of public policy: How great is the actual problem?
 
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Wow. Sometimes this threads here are just.. well. A woman tortures and murders her stepson and the responses have been:
mocking disdain
media bad
whataboutism
media bad, muslims bad and red hats are the real victims.

Not a single post of sympathy for poor little Roman.
Maybe because the intent of the thread was to malign home schooling and not just to report a tragedy.
 
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Then perhaps the homeschoolers should propose alternatives, rather than just saying, "No, we don't wanna!". How do you think we should prevent kids like Roman and his brothers from slipping through the cracks?
How many mass shootings occur in homes where children are being home schooled? Maybe we should crack down on public schools to prevent mass shootings
 
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We can find a hundred cases in which the First Amendment or the Fifth Amendment or some other cherished American freedom has permitted someone to be murdered. How many times has the judicial presumption of innocence until proven guilty beyond reasonable doubt resulted in someone being murdered? How often has habeas corpus resulted in someone being murdered?

This may sound cold, but it's like every other issue of public policy: How great is the actual problem?
What rights are we balancing here, precisely? Because, while the solution should not be more burdensome than the problem, I fail to see a significant burden in concept imposed by a child having occasional interactions with a counselor to ensure that they are safe at home. This function is performed in public schools by the day-to-day interactions between teachers and their students, so it's not like it's a special requirement placed upon homeschoolers.

So far, all that's been presented as a negative is that the state might use these interactions to pry into the details of the curriculum being taught, and then might take actions against a homeschooling parent if that curriculum doesn't meet certain standards that might not be reasonable. That's a lot of "mights" - and they can be mitigated with legislation if they're that concerning.
 
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How many mass shootings occur in homes where children are being home schooled? Maybe we should crack down on public schools to prevent mass shootings
Every time there's a school shooting, measures are proposed to mitigate the circumstances that led to that shooting - we've seen additions of security screenings, more school resource officers, pushes to improve mental health services, gun control proposals, etc. There's no "crackdown" on homeschooling being proposed - just measures to mitigate the circumstances that lead to abusers being able to hide their victims in the homeschooling system (like having them occasionally interact with a mandatory reporter, or requiring parents to inform the school district that they are homeschooling their children).
 
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I am all for the right to homeschool one's children but sadly it can be used to hide child neglect and abuse from the people who could report it.
 
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What rights are we balancing here, precisely? Because, while the solution should not be more burdensome than the problem, I fail to see a significant burden in concept imposed by a child having occasional interactions with a counselor to ensure that they are safe at home. This function is performed in public schools by the day-to-day interactions between teachers and their students, so it's not like it's a special requirement placed upon homeschoolers.

So far, all that's been presented as a negative is that the state might use these interactions to pry into the details of the curriculum being taught, and then might take actions against a homeschooling parent if that curriculum doesn't meet certain standards that might not be reasonable. That's a lot of "mights" - and they can be mitigated with legislation if they're that concerning.

It's up to the government that proposes new regulations and laws to prove their necessity and harmlessness.
 
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Maybe because the intent of the thread was to malign home schooling and not just to report a tragedy.
As the OP, I deny that. If I had a motive, it was to support certain common sense regulations to homeschooling, such as those proposed by the Michigan lawmaker that were ignored.
 
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