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Powerful Advice For Those Seeking A Spouse
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timewerx
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I have an easier method in reverse!
List all your personal qualities. Your present qualities, not what you're trying to be, but the real you, who you are right now on a piece of paper and at the top of the list write "My dream husband" if you're a lady or "My dream wife" if you're a man!
Don't change for anyone because you won't be able to sustain it. And if you're looking for someone with qualities way better than your own, chances are, they're only holding out or pretending. It won't last.
List all your personal qualities. Your present qualities, not what you're trying to be, but the real you, who you are right now on a piece of paper and at the top of the list write "My dream husband" if you're a lady or "My dream wife" if you're a man!
Don't change for anyone because you won't be able to sustain it. And if you're looking for someone with qualities way better than your own, chances are, they're only holding out or pretending. It won't last.
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While I agree that nobody should force themselves to change solely for the sake of another person (because, as you say, it isn't likely to last), I do believe that a good partner will inspire us to become the best version of ourselves. They'll reflect back things we need to acknowledge, work on, and learn from. Sure, you want someone who loves and accepts you as you are, but people who are stagnant and unwilling to learn and grow, won't make very good spouses in the long run, in my opinion.I have an easier method in reverse!
List all your personal qualities. Your present qualities, not what you're trying to be, but the real you, who you are right now on a piece of paper and at the top of the list write "My dream husband" if you're a lady or "My dream wife" if you're a man!
Don't change for anyone because you won't be able to sustain it. And if you're looking for someone with qualities way better than your own, chances are, they're only holding out or pretending. It won't last.
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timewerx
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To become the best version of ourselves we have to go through "fire". Suffering in abundance! Plenty of trials and persecutions and to persevere to the end.
With Jesus being my good partner there were plenty of times I thought of giving up. It hasn't always been easy. Quite the opposite of what we are led to believe.
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"Abundant suffering" is not always required. A person can learn and grow through many types of introspection and reflection, brought on by a variety of situations. I've learned and grown through respect and admiration for those around me. I see a trait that I admire, and I wish to work on within myself, so I start doing so. No suffering required
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It really is good advice.
I think whatever criteria one has for a partner is fine, but do try to satisfy the same criteria yourself.
I think whatever criteria one has for a partner is fine, but do try to satisfy the same criteria yourself.
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I just recently read probably the best advice for finding a wife for men, and it’s for men to not go out and “search”, but to go to sleep since God put Adam to sleep. Takes all the pressure off me as I think I have heard all the cliche advice like go to church or attend so and so Christian event. It’s all so tiresome. I love the sleep advice a lot.
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