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If a brother has something agains you, leave your gift at the altar... but what if it was minor and you're not sure if he has something against you?

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Hi, sorry for the long title. I'm not sure if I can take communion tomorrow because I am not sure if I need to go reconcile with someone at work or just let it go.

Basically, a clinical staff member sent me an alert on a patient, and it was kind of urgent, but I didn't see it for a little while. The clinical staff aren't supposed to do that, there's other channels to go through.

So I sent her a message and added my supervisor to the chat so he could see. I told her that there was a more efficient way to get what she needed, and wrote at the bottom (after Thank you, "CC my supervisors name." (To me, I was being passive aggressive.)

Turns out it was a weird situation, and I can't blame her for trying everything she could to get what she needed done. I politely... but still a bit passive aggressively... re stated that what she did wasn't efficient. She said thank you for the info, I said we appreciate you, and that was it.

Where I sinned was: I was somewhat passive aggressive, and I didn't go through the proper channels--I'm supposed to just inform my leads and let them deal with it. (The staff member i question isn't in my department but still needed something from us.)

Given that there was sin in how I handled this, but I don't know if she's mad at me, should I not take communion? Should I reach out and apologize, or just ask God for forgiveness and let it go?
 

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Hi, sorry for the long title. I'm not sure if I can take communion tomorrow because I am not sure if I need to go reconcile with someone at work or just let it go.

Basically, a clinical staff member sent me an alert on a patient, and it was kind of urgent, but I didn't see it for a little while. The clinical staff aren't supposed to do that, there's other channels to go through.

So I sent her a message and added my supervisor to the chat so he could see. I told her that there was a more efficient way to get what she needed, and wrote at the bottom (after Thank you, "CC my supervisors name." (To me, I was being passive aggressive.)

Turns out it was a weird situation, and I can't blame her for trying everything she could to get what she needed done. I politely... but still a bit passive aggressively... re stated that what she did wasn't efficient. She said thank you for the info, I said we appreciate you, and that was it.

Where I sinned was: I was somewhat passive aggressive, and I didn't go through the proper channels--I'm supposed to just inform my leads and let them deal with it. (The staff member i question isn't in my department but still needed something from us.)

Given that there was sin in how I handled this, but I don't know if she's mad at me, should I not take communion? Should I reach out and apologize, or just ask God for forgiveness and let it go?
YES... just ask God for forgiveness and let it go.
 
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I think you should first ask God for forgiveness. Seems more like a mistake that you're repentant over, than actual malice.

Second you should apologize to the person if you feel it would clear your conscience and relieve any possible resentment that person might have.
 
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Well--I woke up with a fever so I'll be missing church/communion anyway...

Now I'm trying to think of a way to apologize that doesn't diminish what she did wrong but does acknowledge I jumped the gun and shouldn't have messaged her and my supervisor like that...

I do think there's a chance it's not a big deal and I'm over thinking it, but I suppose an apology can't hurt. It was on Friday and I won't be able to message them again until Monday...
 
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Hi, sorry for the long title. I'm not sure if I can take communion tomorrow because I am not sure if I need to go reconcile with someone at work or just let it go.

Basically, a clinical staff member sent me an alert on a patient, and it was kind of urgent, but I didn't see it for a little while. The clinical staff aren't supposed to do that, there's other channels to go through.

So I sent her a message and added my supervisor to the chat so he could see. I told her that there was a more efficient way to get what she needed, and wrote at the bottom (after Thank you, "CC my supervisors name." (To me, I was being passive aggressive.)

Turns out it was a weird situation, and I can't blame her for trying everything she could to get what she needed done. I politely... but still a bit passive aggressively... re stated that what she did wasn't efficient. She said thank you for the info, I said we appreciate you, and that was it.

Where I sinned was: I was somewhat passive aggressive, and I didn't go through the proper channels--I'm supposed to just inform my leads and let them deal with it. (The staff member i question isn't in my department but still needed something from us.)

Given that there was sin in how I handled this, but I don't know if she's mad at me, should I not take communion? Should I reach out and apologize, or just ask God for forgiveness and let it go?
I do not see the connection between "offering a gift" found in Judaism and the "Lord's Supper " in Christianity. No one is sinless when sharing this ritual. Making amends to recieve communion should not be the motivation. Loving your neighbor should. That being said, let everyone be convinced in his own mind what is in the Fathers will.
Blessings.
 
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