Good morning, all,
I’ve been married now for 5 years. My anniversary was Aug 4 so not too long ago. My wife has been going thru some issues from her past before I knew her and has been seeking medical help for her anxiety, depression, and mental needs. She is a nurse who last year got into some trouble with the board of nursing with drinking, taking expired meds, and now is on 3–5-year probation period. She had to go to a medical center called Bradford to get some help up North US. I thought it was a good thing, but when she called every week all she had was complaints about me, even though the why she was drinking alcohol and taking meds was for things that have transpired in her path. She had a Christian counselor and I thought she was great, but my wife didn’t like her and almost got the lady into some trouble because she and I were having conversations about faith. I’m still with her as I hope she would get better. When she came home, she started going to church, getting involved in women’s group, but lasted only a short time. My wife does not agree with the plan that God has for men and women.
Coming home from a family get together yesterday from Lagrange GA, she said she had a secret to tell me, and it goes against my beliefs. She told me that she had felt this way for some time even before we married. She said she was into or attracted to other women. Now my faith is strong in Jesus, and I didn’t get angry or go into rage. I asked her what she was expecting me to say, and she said she expected me to be angry. She has not physically been with a woman yet but expressed that she wishes she had tried or wants to. I said if we are married that I would not allow this.
I feel like my wife is pushing me away. Before we married, I said that God comes first in our marriage. She was originally on board with that, we attended church together, and did much together, but in the past few years even before Covid, she stopped going to church. She picks and chooses what she wants to believe and not believe in. She doesn’t think there’s anything wrong with abortion and said you can’t help who you love girl on girl or boy on boy. As far as intimacy, because of what happened in her past (rapped by her own father) she feels every time we are together, she feels wrong in doing so. I feel like I’m being punished in this area.
I feel like I’ve given my wife my all. I know Jesus said in the last days that there would be a great falling away. Do I continue to love her and support her as Christ loves the church or should I break off this marriage? I know the bible is clear that the only course of action is unfaithfulness or death do us part, but I feel like my wife has been unfaithful to me in supporting me as my wife, intimacy, now the whole I like women thing. Any Christian advice would be much appreciated.
I’ve been married now for 5 years. My anniversary was Aug 4 so not too long ago. My wife has been going thru some issues from her past before I knew her and has been seeking medical help for her anxiety, depression, and mental needs. She is a nurse who last year got into some trouble with the board of nursing with drinking, taking expired meds, and now is on 3–5-year probation period. She had to go to a medical center called Bradford to get some help up North US. I thought it was a good thing, but when she called every week all she had was complaints about me, even though the why she was drinking alcohol and taking meds was for things that have transpired in her path. She had a Christian counselor and I thought she was great, but my wife didn’t like her and almost got the lady into some trouble because she and I were having conversations about faith. I’m still with her as I hope she would get better. When she came home, she started going to church, getting involved in women’s group, but lasted only a short time. My wife does not agree with the plan that God has for men and women.
Coming home from a family get together yesterday from Lagrange GA, she said she had a secret to tell me, and it goes against my beliefs. She told me that she had felt this way for some time even before we married. She said she was into or attracted to other women. Now my faith is strong in Jesus, and I didn’t get angry or go into rage. I asked her what she was expecting me to say, and she said she expected me to be angry. She has not physically been with a woman yet but expressed that she wishes she had tried or wants to. I said if we are married that I would not allow this.
I feel like my wife is pushing me away. Before we married, I said that God comes first in our marriage. She was originally on board with that, we attended church together, and did much together, but in the past few years even before Covid, she stopped going to church. She picks and chooses what she wants to believe and not believe in. She doesn’t think there’s anything wrong with abortion and said you can’t help who you love girl on girl or boy on boy. As far as intimacy, because of what happened in her past (rapped by her own father) she feels every time we are together, she feels wrong in doing so. I feel like I’m being punished in this area.
I feel like I’ve given my wife my all. I know Jesus said in the last days that there would be a great falling away. Do I continue to love her and support her as Christ loves the church or should I break off this marriage? I know the bible is clear that the only course of action is unfaithfulness or death do us part, but I feel like my wife has been unfaithful to me in supporting me as my wife, intimacy, now the whole I like women thing. Any Christian advice would be much appreciated.