Difficult to find a matching friend!!

In your house . . . pray and keep trusting God. And appreciate any sharing with another person . . . versus being picky about who you want. And, as you love, you can get into more and better loving . . . like investing . . . put in what you have, and it grows.

Hi @frank1234

I got blessed w/ a friend who has a lot of the same issues I do. It really is a blessing from God. We met in middle school & are 30 now. If God can assist me, he can assist you too. You are a Christian so try church groups & go from there. It might take time. I remember I was so desperate for a friend back then & God eventually pulled thru. He probably knew all along this blessing would come to me. I thought ‘wow all these kids at school & none want to be my friend & I don’t really want to be friends w/ any of them either b/c they are all so perfect & wouldn’t understand me anyways.’ What do you know, there was one! Also you may be surprised someone you might not think could be your friend may be exactly what you are looking for. Me & this friend didn’t become good friends till high school & great friends till high school was almost over. So do you go to church & church groups? A LOT of people struggle w/ depression & anxiety.

Let us know how these church groups go or are going & we may be able to assist more!

frank1234 said:

How do you go about finding a good friend like that when most of the time you don't even feel good and leave your house?

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Hmm. As much as this sucks, deeply personal topics like faith aren’t the easiest way to find friends. Frivolous hobbies or topics are much easier hunting grounds for the modern friendless.

Most people don’t bond over the intensity of debate or communal prayers, they bond over the meal afterwards. Still you can develop qualities that’ll help in fostering better friendships.

Pick people who are patient, not necessarily people “like you.” If you’re often depressed or reclusive, adding more depressed people to your circle of interaction isn’t wise. They’ll be down and won’t often pick you up, it’ll just be two people down together.

A patient outgoing person is better. They have a quality you need (namely they’re outgoing,) but they’re also patient and understanding around your own issues.

Don’t feel pressured, let life happen naturally. Seek out in person help from people with practical solutions.

Expose yourself to things you fear in your own time, “exposure therapy” really works, but it only works when you’re in charge and freely exposing yourself to the things you fear.

Lastly, God loves you buddy, and we’ve all felt your loneliness and isolation at different points in our own journeys. Weather that storm.

frank1234 said:

It seems very difficult when you have a chronic illness(including depression and anxiety issues) to find a good Christian friend that matches you(you know normally if you didn't have those obstacles you would arrange to be at the places that people that share your profile and match who you are hang around and that way you can meet them and contact them and develop a good friendship relationship with them).
How do you go about finding a good friend like that when most of the time you don't even feel good and leave your house?

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You come on here and find one! I am not necessarily a traditional storybook Christian, but I care deeply about people and have a lot of helpful insight and can help with looking at things from a different perspective. I love to help people and am a great listener. The surprising thing is, I dont have lot of close friends but whenever I see people I know, they tend to respond rather warmly to seeing me, so thats something! You can message me if you like. What are you going through?

frank1234 said:

Thank you jaxxi, pretty soon i might share something with you. Thanks.

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I will be watching and hoping that you will. As an Empath, I can feel your longing. I have it to- just for a friend with similar values, integrity, a sense of humor, someone you can be yourself with that knows you. They are few and far between, if at all. Im here.