- Apr 19, 2021
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Hi everyone,
long story short, I am 29(female) with a 38 year old (male). I am having a battle (if it even is a battle), with my boyfriend and his view in career and future things to focus on. I am 29, have a career, have savings and live on my own. I do enjoy following God, working and planning my future ahead in regards to having a home, life savings and so forth. My boyfriend of 38 years old works a regular job (40k/year), and has been “studying” for his exam , which he has never taken. He also lives with his parents and has no savings. He says he doesn’t believe in buying a home. Just renting. Whenever I bring up how important it is to have a savings and be prepared for the future, he always tells me that god says not to worry. Which is does say in the Bible. But to me it comes off as manipulation at times because it comes off as an excuse to not be a harder worker. Someone who is just “comfortable” where he is at. However,god does say in Timothy ( But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever). My boyfriend says that when I tell him he should focus on being head of the household (supporting), he says that I am “wordly” and still focus on what the world wants. I’m not asking for a rich man. I would just like to have a husband in the future who could support me if I get pregnant lose job or what not! I don’t feel like I’m acting “wordly”. He also criticizes me for not prioritizing to spread the gospel. I do have that as a goal, but I also have other goals I have to commit to (my job etc). I feel pathetic at times, but sometimes I feel like I keep him around to not be bored. I don’t get excited about marrying him and I have no desire to do anything “cute” for him. I also think I keep him around because my family gives me tremendous stress on not being single. I feel pathetic when I say this, but it’s such a huge battle I have with men. I pray to god to please bring me someone I could love and to be proud of calling my husband. My Christian people, am I wrong in the way I feel about my bf? Am I still being worldly?
long story short, I am 29(female) with a 38 year old (male). I am having a battle (if it even is a battle), with my boyfriend and his view in career and future things to focus on. I am 29, have a career, have savings and live on my own. I do enjoy following God, working and planning my future ahead in regards to having a home, life savings and so forth. My boyfriend of 38 years old works a regular job (40k/year), and has been “studying” for his exam , which he has never taken. He also lives with his parents and has no savings. He says he doesn’t believe in buying a home. Just renting. Whenever I bring up how important it is to have a savings and be prepared for the future, he always tells me that god says not to worry. Which is does say in the Bible. But to me it comes off as manipulation at times because it comes off as an excuse to not be a harder worker. Someone who is just “comfortable” where he is at. However,god does say in Timothy ( But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever). My boyfriend says that when I tell him he should focus on being head of the household (supporting), he says that I am “wordly” and still focus on what the world wants. I’m not asking for a rich man. I would just like to have a husband in the future who could support me if I get pregnant lose job or what not! I don’t feel like I’m acting “wordly”. He also criticizes me for not prioritizing to spread the gospel. I do have that as a goal, but I also have other goals I have to commit to (my job etc). I feel pathetic at times, but sometimes I feel like I keep him around to not be bored. I don’t get excited about marrying him and I have no desire to do anything “cute” for him. I also think I keep him around because my family gives me tremendous stress on not being single. I feel pathetic when I say this, but it’s such a huge battle I have with men. I pray to god to please bring me someone I could love and to be proud of calling my husband. My Christian people, am I wrong in the way I feel about my bf? Am I still being worldly?
