after all these yrs, turns out don't know husband at all!
thought we were same on politics but he would never say
found out today, he's in opposite political party!
however, he said he votes according to the person not always with political party
what about other couples?
same or different?
I hope you are being sarcastic with your 'living with the enemy' part.
My parents were opposite parties, and drove together to be election judges. It made for some interesting dinner conversations, but they never did get nasty. Personally? I found the setup an asset growing up. You learn about both parties positions without all the extras. Heck, Mom ran for office and Dad was very supportive of it. Dad did too later on. I didn't much care for the being a political family part even though it didn't get nasty then either - even during disagreements. That's why when I was asked I didn't run for office, although my brother felt differently. Mom and my brother were opposite parties too, and it wasn't that big of a deal. We knew they wanted what was best, and wouldn't dig into the dirty that is politics. lol the part I didn't like which is the same no matter what side you are on.
Over the years my H and I had opposite views on things, and that doesn't have to be a terrible thing. People might be surprised at how much individuals have in common if they could cool the partisan stuff down a bit, and actually learn to listen. I realize that is hard today, but it can be done.
If people approach it as 'enemy' type of approach? Your going to set yourself up for heartbreak. I have always voted on policy, and yes even the person. I have crossed the aisle a couple of times, and don't base my decision on likeability. lol I wouldn't vote to often, because most of them I really don't like personally.
He might NOT have said anything, because he feared your reaction. Try to talk and not make it an 'eggshell' conversation. You both might learn something about the other, and realize how much you do have in common. A point that is being completely lost today sadly.