Hot to continue living after a broken dream?

Trust in Jesus. Offer up your thoughts, your problems, your desires to God.

Persevere in prayer. Dont give up.

Jesus is Carrying you while you carry your cross.

Be strong friend. God will guide you.

Plus, you found your way to these forums! God directed you here. Its a wonderful place. We are all friends in Christ here.

God bless and guide you

raquellexxx said:

Hello. I am a Christian in her 20's who desperately needs your help and spiritual guidance because from my family, only I am the believer and I absolutely have no other friends or close people who are believers, which makes it impossible for me to seek any similar help (and I started therapy because I couldn't bare the pain any longer).

Since I remember myself, I had a dream to live in the States and it wasn't the typical stupid American dream. I just always felt that I would be completely happy there - I loved almost everything there, especially the fact that I can share my faith properly. In my country, believers are not so many and they aren't Protestant - we go to church alone and etc.

I had the chance to go there for Work and Travel and I loved it even more. However, lately, my only one dream to live there was completely shattered. No matter how much I tried all these years, there are so many reasons and personal obstacles in my life, making it completely impossible to realize. And I wanted to be legal, which is even more impossible since I can't achieve none of the things to be legal there.

I can't describe how difficult, devastating, and exhausting this is for me to the point that I stopped having meaning in life... Since I am a believer, it makes it even more harder as I keep asking God why did he let this happen when so many even non-believers successfully live my dream without even dreaming, working hard, and praying for it??? It feels so unfair and painful since I've never made anything so bad or horrific in my life that would make God punish me or something like this. What is more - every time, when there was an opportunity for me and people around me to cheat or lie for something, I have ALWAYS chosen the right and truthful path, no matter what... and it makes me feel even more angrier, alone, and devastated..

I keep reading and listening that that God knows your true desires and when you work hard and pray for them, He will let them happen. And no matter how much I tried, my dream was shattered and made impossible. While I know many people that didn't even care about that and they successfully live my dream.... Why? It just doesn't make any sense to me...

Also, I thought that maybe God has a better plan for me here in my country. However, nothing in my life is good here, not to mention to get better with all my endless problems.. My parents don't care about me, my friends are not there for me when I've always been there for them, despite all my hard work, I am treated badly in my work and it's an emotional abuse. And on the top of that - I am experiencing this hell all alone...

For me, every day is an emotional torture, trying to understand why did God allow my only dream to be shattered and as a result, to be extremely unhappy and devastated? Please, I really need your piece of wisdom and advice since it hurts so bad and I although, I started to go to therapy, I still have nobody to talk with on this Christian things.

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God often does the impossible.

Don't give up on your dream just yet.

In the mean time, try to find purpose and meaning where you are.

Don't let your dream blind you to the blessings of your current reality ...

raquellexxx,

I’m sorry you’re disheartened and feel your dreams have been dashed. You’ve articulated the desires of your heart but how do they correlate with the Lord? In other words, how is the kingdom furthered by your immigration to the US. What is His purpose for bringing you here?

For most, moving to the US is challenging if you don’t have the means or skills businesses seek. How will you support yourself? It’s important to bring our dreams down to earth and address them practically.

Keep in mind, the desires of our hearts aren’t necessarily the desires of God’s heart for us. Whenever we’re deeply attached to an outcome we should step back and reassess the issue.

If the lone road to happiness is the US I would question if that’s the Lord. He never promised us happiness. We were given joy which remains in all circumstances. Including the present.

Sometimes the way forward is surrender. Give it to Him and allow the Lord to bring it to pass or fulfill His purpose in the fashion He prefers. Ask Him to align your will with His and restore your peace and joy.

Yours in His Service,

~Bella

raquellexxx said:

It feels so unfair and painful since I've never made anything so bad or horrific in my life that would make God punish me or something like this. What is more - every time, when there was an opportunity for me and people around me to cheat or lie for something, I have ALWAYS chosen the right and truthful path, no matter what... and it makes me feel even more angrier, alone, and devastated..

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You know the story of Job, how he dotted all his i's and crossed all his t's. He even tried to cover for his kids, in case they were messing up. And yet he was tried. In fact, God went out of His way, so to speak, to make sure He was tried. He had a purpose in it.

Joseph had a dream, too, and his life went exactly in the opposite direction for many years. The same is true of David, who had to run for his life even though he had an anointing for kingship upon him.

Very often our lives go the opposite of our dreams. It doesn't mean God has abandoned us, quite the opposite is true. He is using painful adversity to build character and godliness in us. Joseph and David were being prepared to rule; wisdom and toughness and faithfulness were being inculcated in them. Job was being prepared for a far greater revelation of God than merely just making sure he was doing the right thing and wasn't sinning.

The trials are painful, but the outcome is spiritual growth and finally entrance into your promised land. Sometimes it doesn't happen the way we think it will happen. So we learn the lesson of God's holy sovereignty. He is not our servant, He does things in His perfect wisdom to make us holy and to conform us to the likeness of Jesus.

It's ok to grieve your situation, but don't forget God's faithfulness. This is a time to draw near and encourage yourself in the Lord. With careful attention, there are precious stones of great worth to be found in your present adversity. Don't allow the enemy to make inroads into your soul. Be strong and know that the Lord will not forget you.

raquellexxx said:

Hello. I am a Christian in her 20's who desperately needs your help and spiritual guidance because from my family, only I am the believer and I absolutely have no other friends or close people who are believers, which makes it impossible for me to seek any similar help (and I started therapy because I couldn't bare the pain any longer).

Since I remember myself, I had a dream to live in the States and it wasn't the typical stupid American dream. I just always felt that I would be completely happy there - I loved almost everything there, especially the fact that I can share my faith properly. In my country, believers are not so many and they aren't Protestant - we go to church alone and etc. I had the chance to go there for Work and Travel and I loved it even more. However, lately, my only one dream to live there was completely shattered. No matter how much I tried all these years, there are so many reasons and personal obstacles in my life, making it completely impossible to realize. And I wanted to be legal, which is even more impossible since I can't achieve none of the things to be legal there.

I can't describe how difficult, devastating, and exhausting this is for me to the point that I stopped having meaning in life... Since I am a believer, it makes it even more harder as I keep asking God why did he let this happen when so many even non-believers successfully live my dream without even dreaming, working hard, and praying for it? It feels so unfair and painful since I've never made anything so bad or horrific in my life that would make God punish me or something like this. What is more - every time, when there was an opportunity for me and people around me to cheat or lie for something, I have ALWAYS chosen the right and truthful path, no matter what... and it makes me feel even more angrier, alone, and devastated..

I keep reading and listening that that God knows your true desires and when you work hard and pray for them, He will let them happen. And no matter how much I tried, my dream was shattered and made impossible. While I know many people that didn't even care about that and they successfully live my dream.... Why? It just doesn't make any sense to me... Also, I thought that maybe God has a better plan for me here in my country. However, nothing in my life is good here, not to mention to get better with all my endless problems.. My parents don't care about me, my friends are not there for me when I've always been there for them, despite all my hard work, I am treated badly in my work and it's an emotional abuse. And on the top of that - I am experiencing this hell all alone...

For me, every day is an emotional torture, trying to understand why did God allow my only dream to be shattered and as a result, to be extremely unhappy and devastated? Please, I really need your piece of wisdom and advice since it hurts so bad and I although, I started to go to therapy, I still have nobody to talk with on this Christian things.

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Firstly I am very sorry to hear this and to hear of your struggles. I think some of this may be hard to hear. I don’t say any of this without some understanding of how you may feel.
I have had many hopes and dreams unfulfilled.
Things I desperately wanted but it didn’t happen. I learnt I can’t put my trust in those hopes and dreams. One will never be
happy in circumstances and situations. That is not where happiness lies.
It's ok to be sad though. To cry. To be upset.
We are to be content in Christ. In whatever situation we’re in. It is very easy to say, I realise, but not easy to do.
But our main focus is to love God and love others. To come to Christ, be made right in Him. Confess our sins, receive God’s forgiveness and become new creations.
I do think the focus to have this dream may be stopping you living now.
But we are told:

And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.
Romans 8:28 ESV

This puts God first. For those who love God.
Maybe your desires, dreams need to line up more with God’s. Again, I’m very sorry if it’s hard to hear.
God isn’t punishing you. He loves you. That’s why Jesus has be given to save us, by God’s grace.
Maybe He wants you to trust Him, truly put Him first. It still may not mean you get this dream you want but following God truly is the only way.
The right and truthful ways you have gone down mean a lot more also. You are following God. Putting Him first means more. But we also live in a fallen world. Things are not perfect here. Putting all your hope that everything will be ok somewhere else, isn’t a true hope. It won’t be.
First look to God. Then our desires become what He wants.

Delight yourself in the Lord , and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord ; trust in him, and he will act.
Psalm 37:4‭-‬5 ESV
Again, it says delight yourself in the Lord first.

God does know your desires. But not everything we want is the right thing. God ultimately wants us to come to Him, turn from our own ways and turn completely to Him. We do this by repenting of our sins, turning completely to Christ. Dying to ourselves, being clothed in Christ. We are to die in effect. To be made alive in Christ. We then live in Christ’s righteousness.
It has to start with the Gospel of Jesus Christ. Not our own dreams. Working hard to get what you want isn’t the way. It’s like you need to give up your life.

I realise this isn’t easy. There will be difficulties in this world. But you know you have found this site so hopefully now you won’t feel alone. In your distress you need to cry out to our Lord. Pray. You can also get support here from the body of Christ. Talk to people here even if it may feel hard at times. Please reach out if you need to. And mainly reach out to Jesus. I hope you can get the support you need. Take care.

Maybe God's goal for you isn't to be happy maybe it's to be strong or virtuous.

ImAllLikeOkWaitWat said:

Maybe God's goal for you isn't to be happy maybe it's to be strong or virtuous.

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Hi. I can understand the reasoning on this. But God's Word is truth.
It says so much about joy.

You make known to me the path of life; in your presence there is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore.
Psalm 16:11 ESV


I will greatly rejoice in the Lord ; my soul shall exult in my God, for he has clothed me with the garments of salvation; he has covered me with the robe of righteousness, as a bridegroom decks himself like a priest with a beautiful headdress, and as a bride adorns herself with her jewels.
Isaiah 61:10 ESV

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,
Galatians 5:22 ESV

As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Abide in my love. If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love, just as I have kept my Father's commandments and abide in his love. These things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may be full.
John 15:9‭-‬11 ESV

God's goal isn't for us to be unhappy. But joy is in God. We're to abide in Christ. There is fullness of joy in our Lord.

Your dream is to have a life like we have, but how do you know that we are having a good life? Good life comes from God and wells from within. When we love God and love our neighbour then Living Waters well up out of us and by this we know Scripture is true. Not living a godly life so we can have what we want but letting God mould us how He wants us to be letting go of those things that stand in the way of that.

Please understand that not materialism but godly living is what God looks for in our lives. So if all the doors are closed in your face in the direction you have been seeking, then it is best to go to God and ask Him to tell you which way to go, surrendering your dreams to Him, and enabling Him to mould you and place you where He wants you to be.

Peace.

raquellexxx said:

Hello. I am a Christian in her 20's who desperately needs your help and spiritual guidance because from my family, only I am the believer and I absolutely have no other friends or close people who are believers, which makes it impossible for me to seek any similar help (and I started therapy because I couldn't bare the pain any longer).

Since I remember myself, I had a dream to live in the States and it wasn't the typical stupid American dream. I just always felt that I would be completely happy there - I loved almost everything there, especially the fact that I can share my faith properly. In my country, believers are not so many and they aren't Protestant - we go to church alone and etc. I had the chance to go there for Work and Travel and I loved it even more. However, lately, my only one dream to live there was completely shattered. No matter how much I tried all these years, there are so many reasons and personal obstacles in my life, making it completely impossible to realize. And I wanted to be legal, which is even more impossible since I can't achieve none of the things to be legal there.

I can't describe how difficult, devastating, and exhausting this is for me to the point that I stopped having meaning in life... Since I am a believer, it makes it even more harder as I keep asking God why did he let this happen when so many even non-believers successfully live my dream without even dreaming, working hard, and praying for it? It feels so unfair and painful since I've never made anything so bad or horrific in my life that would make God punish me or something like this. What is more - every time, when there was an opportunity for me and people around me to cheat or lie for something, I have ALWAYS chosen the right and truthful path, no matter what... and it makes me feel even more angrier, alone, and devastated..

I keep reading and listening that that God knows your true desires and when you work hard and pray for them, He will let them happen. And no matter how much I tried, my dream was shattered and made impossible. While I know many people that didn't even care about that and they successfully live my dream.... Why? It just doesn't make any sense to me... Also, I thought that maybe God has a better plan for me here in my country. However, nothing in my life is good here, not to mention to get better with all my endless problems.. My parents don't care about me, my friends are not there for me when I've always been there for them, despite all my hard work, I am treated badly in my work and it's an emotional abuse. And on the top of that - I am experiencing this hell all alone...

For me, every day is an emotional torture, trying to understand why did God allow my only dream to be shattered and as a result, to be extremely unhappy and devastated? Please, I really need your piece of wisdom and advice since it hurts so bad and I although, I started to go to therapy, I still have nobody to talk with on this Christian things.

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Hello Racquellexxx,

I don’t know why you have a dream to live in the States. I don’t know why you can be completely happy there.

I don’t know why you can’t share your faith properly in the country you are now.

If they are not many believers in your country, I believe our Lord Jesus Christ is interested in your country because many can be saved. Why ? There are going to be more joy in heavens where our Lord is. This is wonderful that you can bring joy to the Lord.

How about this loneliness? Going to church alone! Actually, you are not alone. Why I say that? This is what our Lord have said :
For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother." -Matthew 12:50
Just remember what our Lord have said that those who does the will of the Heavenly Father is your sisters, brothers and mothers.

Work and travel that you loved ! Why it has to be only in the States ? Why you limit God ?Why choose your plan ? When God have something better ? His plan that He has told you but you have not really listened.
It is better that you pray over the promise that the Lord has given :
And Jesus came and said to them, "All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. -Matthew 28:18
Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, -Matthew 28:19
teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age." -Matthew 28:20

Have you not heard Jesus’ plan ? Jesus have already had a work for you to do that include traveling to all nations. Is that not what you love ?? This job is certainly legal because Jesus have been authority on earth, too.

You have said:
when so many even non-believers successfully live my dream without even dreaming, working hard, and praying for it?

Racquellexxx, don’t envy those who do wrong like non-believers. [psalm 37:1]
The non-believers are in a slippery place. You don’t want to be like them; you will hurt yourself; just commit yourself to the Lord and He will lead you aright.

When you are suffering, consider this : are you suffering for what is wrong ? or are you suffering for what is right? When you suffer for what is wrong, you know its consequences; repent and get back to the Lord’s side. When you suffer for what is right, you suffer for Jesus’s sake; you are blessed to live in His glory. But remember this, when you are suffering, you are not alone the Lord is also suffering with you.

This is written:
and if children, then heirs'heirs of God and fellow heirs with Christ, provided we SUFFER WITH HIM in order that we may also be glorified with him. -Romans 8:17

Don’t be angry anymore. This is what we have been told : Be still before the LORD and wait patiently for him; fret not yourself over the one who prospers in his way, over the man who carries out evil devices! -Psalms 37:7

Don’t be devastated!
Don’t resent the Lord’s reproof or discipline.
As we have been told:
Besides this, we have had earthly fathers who disciplined us and we respected them. Shall we not much more be subject to the Father of spirits and live? -Hebrews 12:9
For they disciplined us for a short time as it seemed best to them, but he disciplines us for our good, that we may share his holiness. -Hebrews 12:10
For the moment all discipline seems PAINFUL rather than pleasant, but later it YIELDS THE PEACEFUL FRUIT of righteousness to those who have been trained by it. -Hebrews 12:11
Draw near to Heavenly Father !

You have said :
I keep reading and listening that that God knows your true desires and when you work hard and pray for them, He will let them happen.

Racquellexxx, I do not know what are you reading and listening ! Can you tell me which bible verse have said that God knows your true desires and when you work hard and pray for them, He will let them happen.??

Have you not heard or read this :
and he died for all, that THOSE WHO LIVE might NO LONGER LIVE FOR THEMSELVES but for him who for their sake died and was raised. -2 Corinthians 5:15

So are you living for yourself or Christ’s sake?

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Yes, I guess it's what HE wants for me after all and I must put Him first, but one of the main reasons to have this dream is exactly to go to church where i think people praise God more and be with Him more... and he doesn't let this happen even if it's more for Him than for me?
Plus, if it was meant for me to have something better than my life in America, why does my life keep getting worse and worse here? And only bad things happen to me here? I don't understand it and this keeps eating me from inside and torturing me ;(((

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Hi Racquellexxx,

It is good that you made the decision to put Him first but you cannot rely on your strength, it will not work; You need to rely on God’s strength to put Him first. I say this because I don’t want to get hurt. I have experienced that pains.

It is a wonderful that you have dream that desire to go to church and praise God more and be with Him more. Hold fast to that dream !

You are saying :
“and he doesn't let this happen even if it's more for Him than for me?“ —- let me answer this. The church is not man made structure; the church is you and you are part of the church; your body is a holy temple of God. when you pray and praise with your body — you are praying in the holy temple of God.
Have you praised Him daily ?

I understand that you want to praise with your brothers and sisters but you must put God first by praising Him, even when your brothers and sisters in Christ are not around.

you are saying:
“Plus, if it was meant for me to have something better than my life in America, why does my life keep getting worse and worse here? And only bad things happen to me here? I don't understand it and this keeps eating me from inside and torturing me”.

Actually, you already have something better than your life in America, that is, the Lord Jesus Christ. I understand that you cannot see. That is why you need to repent.

why your life getting worse and worse ? I know it pains you. How much more pains do you need till you humble yourself before God?

The Shepherd’s Rod struck me! It pains me much and nobody I can turn to.

The Heavenly Father chasten me like the son whom He love. I know I cannot resent His reproof or discipline. What can I do ?
I wait on the Lord to gain His strength.
Because I know I try my way, my strength, and my plans ; all did not work.
Eventually, I understand this:

The LORD is good to those who wait for Him, to the soul who seeks Him. -Lamentations 3:25

Wait on God to gain His strength and commit your way to the Lord and He will lead you aright.

When you have gained God’s strength, let Him restore your joy in His salvation.

You will see that He restores your inner person as He has promised as the Great Shepherd.

raquellexxx said:

Yes, I guess it's what HE wants for me after all and I must put Him first, but one of the main reasons to have this dream is exactly to go to church where i think people praise God more and be with Him more... and he doesn't let this happen even if it's more for Him than for me?
Plus, if it was meant for me to have something better than my life in America, why does my life keep getting worse and worse here? And only bad things happen to me here? I don't understand it and this keeps eating me from inside and torturing me ;(((

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I'm really sorry to hear how sad you are. None of it is easy. We are told that we will have trouble in the world.
But Jesus tells us:
I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.”
John 16:33 ESV

Jesus tells us firstly - in Him there is peace. That's the thing to hang on to. In Him is peace.
We're told there will be tribulation in the world, but Jesus has overcome the world.
I really hope and pray that you look to Jesus. He is our comfort.

Come to me, all who labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”
Matthew 11:28‭-‬30 ESV

raquellexxx said:

Hello. I am a Christian in her 20's who desperately needs your help and spiritual guidance because from my family, only I am the believer and I absolutely have no other friends or close people who are believers, which makes it impossible for me to seek any similar help (and I started therapy because I couldn't bare the pain any longer).

Since I remember myself, I had a dream to live in the States and it wasn't the typical stupid American dream. I just always felt that I would be completely happy there - I loved almost everything there, especially the fact that I can share my faith properly. In my country, believers are not so many and they aren't Protestant - we go to church alone and etc. I had the chance to go there for Work and Travel and I loved it even more. However, lately, my only one dream to live there was completely shattered. No matter how much I tried all these years, there are so many reasons and personal obstacles in my life, making it completely impossible to realize. And I wanted to be legal, which is even more impossible since I can't achieve none of the things to be legal there.

I can't describe how difficult, devastating, and exhausting this is for me to the point that I stopped having meaning in life... Since I am a believer, it makes it even more harder as I keep asking God why did he let this happen when so many even non-believers successfully live my dream without even dreaming, working hard, and praying for it? It feels so unfair and painful since I've never made anything so bad or horrific in my life that would make God punish me or something like this. What is more - every time, when there was an opportunity for me and people around me to cheat or lie for something, I have ALWAYS chosen the right and truthful path, no matter what... and it makes me feel even more angrier, alone, and devastated..

I keep reading and listening that that God knows your true desires and when you work hard and pray for them, He will let them happen. And no matter how much I tried, my dream was shattered and made impossible. While I know many people that didn't even care about that and they successfully live my dream.... Why? It just doesn't make any sense to me... Also, I thought that maybe God has a better plan for me here in my country. However, nothing in my life is good here, not to mention to get better with all my endless problems.. My parents don't care about me, my friends are not there for me when I've always been there for them, despite all my hard work, I am treated badly in my work and it's an emotional abuse. And on the top of that - I am experiencing this hell all alone...

For me, every day is an emotional torture, trying to understand why did God allow my only dream to be shattered and as a result, to be extremely unhappy and devastated? Please, I really need your piece of wisdom and advice since it hurts so bad and I although, I started to go to therapy, I still have nobody to talk with on this Christian things.

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Me neither. From a positive point of view, it will make us trust in The Lord more ‘to Whom can we go? He has the words of eternal life’. Even we’ll-meaning ‘Christians’ can be a distraction sometimes. Remember how lonely Jesus must have been in the garden of gethsemane? He knows our weaknesses and will make a way. Wait, be of good courage lovey...Lift up your head, Your redemption draws near. Numbers 6:24-26

raquellexxx said:

Hello. I am a Christian in her 20's who desperately needs your help and spiritual guidance because from my family, only I am the believer and I absolutely have no other friends or close people who are believers, which makes it impossible for me to seek any similar help (and I started therapy because I couldn't bare the pain any longer).

Since I remember myself, I had a dream to live in the States and it wasn't the typical stupid American dream. I just always felt that I would be completely happy there - I loved almost everything there, especially the fact that I can share my faith properly. In my country, believers are not so many and they aren't Protestant - we go to church alone and etc. I had the chance to go there for Work and Travel and I loved it even more. However, lately, my only one dream to live there was completely shattered. No matter how much I tried all these years, there are so many reasons and personal obstacles in my life, making it completely impossible to realize. And I wanted to be legal, which is even more impossible since I can't achieve none of the things to be legal there.

I can't describe how difficult, devastating, and exhausting this is for me to the point that I stopped having meaning in life... Since I am a believer, it makes it even more harder as I keep asking God why did he let this happen when so many even non-believers successfully live my dream without even dreaming, working hard, and praying for it? It feels so unfair and painful since I've never made anything so bad or horrific in my life that would make God punish me or something like this. What is more - every time, when there was an opportunity for me and people around me to cheat or lie for something, I have ALWAYS chosen the right and truthful path, no matter what... and it makes me feel even more angrier, alone, and devastated..

I keep reading and listening that that God knows your true desires and when you work hard and pray for them, He will let them happen. And no matter how much I tried, my dream was shattered and made impossible. While I know many people that didn't even care about that and they successfully live my dream.... Why? It just doesn't make any sense to me... Also, I thought that maybe God has a better plan for me here in my country. However, nothing in my life is good here, not to mention to get better with all my endless problems.. My parents don't care about me, my friends are not there for me when I've always been there for them, despite all my hard work, I am treated badly in my work and it's an emotional abuse. And on the top of that - I am experiencing this hell all alone...

For me, every day is an emotional torture, trying to understand why did God allow my only dream to be shattered and as a result, to be extremely unhappy and devastated? Please, I really need your piece of wisdom and advice since it hurts so bad and I although, I started to go to therapy, I still have nobody to talk with on this Christian things.

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I'm sorry to hear about your hard times. It must be even harder at the moment.
What is stopping you from going to America? Is it a temporary problem?
What do you think America holds that will make you happy? Is there somewhere else that can offer the same things? Somewhere more attainable?
Why do you think your family and friends don't care about you? Is it that they don't sympathise with your problem?
You say you are Protestant. I'm sure that makes you feel alone in your country.
How did you come to be Protestant?
Can you find some fellowship with other Christians even though they are not Protestant?

raquellexxx said:

Hello. I am a Christian in her 20's who desperately needs your help and spiritual guidance because from my family, only I am the believer and I absolutely have no other friends or close people who are believers, which makes it impossible for me to seek any similar help (and I started therapy because I couldn't bare the pain any longer).

Since I remember myself, I had a dream to live in the States and it wasn't the typical stupid American dream. I just always felt that I would be completely happy there - I loved almost everything there, especially the fact that I can share my faith properly. In my country, believers are not so many and they aren't Protestant - we go to church alone and etc. I had the chance to go there for Work and Travel and I loved it even more. However, lately, my only one dream to live there was completely shattered. No matter how much I tried all these years, there are so many reasons and personal obstacles in my life, making it completely impossible to realize. And I wanted to be legal, which is even more impossible since I can't achieve none of the things to be legal there.

I can't describe how difficult, devastating, and exhausting this is for me to the point that I stopped having meaning in life... Since I am a believer, it makes it even more harder as I keep asking God why did he let this happen when so many even non-believers successfully live my dream without even dreaming, working hard, and praying for it? It feels so unfair and painful since I've never made anything so bad or horrific in my life that would make God punish me or something like this. What is more - every time, when there was an opportunity for me and people around me to cheat or lie for something, I have ALWAYS chosen the right and truthful path, no matter what... and it makes me feel even more angrier, alone, and devastated..

I keep reading and listening that that God knows your true desires and when you work hard and pray for them, He will let them happen. And no matter how much I tried, my dream was shattered and made impossible. While I know many people that didn't even care about that and they successfully live my dream.... Why? It just doesn't make any sense to me... Also, I thought that maybe God has a better plan for me here in my country. However, nothing in my life is good here, not to mention to get better with all my endless problems.. My parents don't care about me, my friends are not there for me when I've always been there for them, despite all my hard work, I am treated badly in my work and it's an emotional abuse. And on the top of that - I am experiencing this hell all alone...

For me, every day is an emotional torture, trying to understand why did God allow my only dream to be shattered and as a result, to be extremely unhappy and devastated? Please, I really need your piece of wisdom and advice since it hurts so bad and I although, I started to go to therapy, I still have nobody to talk with on this Christian things.

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Hello dear sister. You are not alone. I understand. Stay close to Jesus. Try to pray constantly (I know this will be difficult, but will get easier with practice) read His Word every day. Sing hymns in your head. “The Lord is my light and my salvation...When my mother and father forsake me, then The Lord will take me up” psalm 27 The Lord bless you and keep you