Is being rude a sin?

Peter J Barban · Feb 4, 2020

We should give people the respect they deserve, not necessarily the respect they want.

Archivist · Feb 5, 2020

Bible Highlighter said:
I know the English language just fine. What I said fits. Your rejection of my definition that your average person will understand does not undo what I have stated. Words have synonyms to them. They are related words that say the same thing. Your failure to understand the synonym I pointed out does not undo its truthfulness.

You obviously don't know or understand the English language as it was spoken in 1611 or you would realize that the word rude didn't mean what it means today when the KJV was written. OED is the definitive record of the English language, and it says that the word wasn't used in the way that you are claiming until much later. As I noted earlier, when Paul said that he was "rude in speech" in 2 Corinthians, he was saying that his speech lacked subtlety or sophistication. He was not saying that his speech was ill-mannered.

I'm curious, since you claim to be such an expert on the English language, what are your degrees and majors?

Not going to keep going back and forth with you on this (if you want to continue to debate this).

No sense in your going back and forth with me on this because you are wrong.

Mountainmanbob · Feb 5, 2020

Being rude is just one more of many sins.

Seems usually that if we have to ask
it's probably a sin.

M-Bob

SkyWriting · Feb 5, 2020

Bible Highlighter said:
Nope. Paul says do not have fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them (Ephesians 5:11).

Paul never met Jesus.

hedrick · Feb 5, 2020

SkyWriting said:
Paul never met Jesus.

No, but he met Christ.

DNB · Feb 6, 2020

Bible Highlighter said:
Is being rude a sin?

Definition of Rude:
Rudeness is a display of disrespect by not complying with the social norms or etiquette of a group or culture. These norms have been established as the essential boundaries of normally accepted behavior.

Source:
Rudeness - Wikipedia

Note: Yes, I am aware of 1 Corinthians 13:5. The KJV does not use this word, though. Pauls says he is rude in speech (See: 2 Corinthians 11:6 in the KJV). Was Paul sinning? Surely not. In addition, there are examples of being rude in our culture that is really wrong (and I would consider it a sin).

Here are some examples given here:

https://www.quora.com/What-are-some-examples-of-rude-behavior

And here:

The 25 Rudest Behaviors—Are You an Offender?

But what some may consider as rude may not always be rude to another.
There are cultural forms of rudeness that we may not be aware of when visiting another country. We may not intend to be rude, but we may be rude by doing something they may find to be rude.

I'm sorry BH, but the question is so convoluted that no one can answer without first defining what rude is. And since rude is definitively contextual or circumstantial, then the question must be considered case by case. So ultimately, your OP should be posed as, Can someone define what is being rude that leads to sin?

But, after saying all that, I will categorically state that, yes, being rude is a sin, ...as long as the offensive gesture is unequivocally deemed as an act of rudeness!
And what determines an act to be rude or not, is that the motivation is not derived from love, for either God the holy creator, or one's neighbour that was made in his image.

Bible Highlighter · Feb 7, 2020

DNB said:
I'm sorry BH, but the question is so convoluted that no one can answer without first defining what rude is. And since rude is definitively contextual or circumstantial, then the question must be considered case by case. So ultimately, your OP should be posed as, Can someone define what is being rude that leads to sin?

But, after saying all that, I will categorically state that, yes, being rude is a sin, ...as long as the offensive gesture is unequivocally deemed as an act of rudeness!
And what determines an act to be rude or not, is that the motivation is not derived from love, for either God the holy creator, or one's neighbour that was made in his image.

I was merely giving a general definition of how "rude" is defined by this world, and I do not agree that all things are rude as defined by this world. Only God can define what He truly considers something to be rude or not. Rude would indeed be a violation of a lack of love towards another in such a way that disregards having love for their soul. This is not to say that we should not shake the dust off our feet and move on when preaching the gospel to others (and they do not receive it), but we can pray for them later, and we can still do good towards them later (if such people come back into our lives). We can love our enemies.

Shrewd Manager · Feb 7, 2020

I rudely changed my vote after reading the rude definition adopted. Don't sneer 'Moron' at a brother or denigrate a sister as an 'Idiot'. That's rudeness and according to stupid dogma, eternal torment is its wages. Still, I'm yet to meet a 'son of hell' who takes that dire warning seriously.

Miles · Feb 7, 2020

It can be, but not all rudeness comes from a place of selfishness. Some of it is cultural. What's considered polite in one culture might be considered rude in another.

Bible Highlighter · Feb 7, 2020

Miles said:
It can be, but not all rudeness comes from a place of selfishness. Some of it is cultural. What's considered polite in one culture might be considered rude in another.

I agree.

DNB · Feb 7, 2020

Bible Highlighter said:
I was merely giving a general definition of how "rude" is defined by this world, and I do not agree that all things are rude as defined by this world. Only God can define what He truly considers something to be rude or not. Rude would indeed be a violation of a lack of love towards another in such a way that disregards having love for their soul. This is not to say that we should not shake the dust off our feet and move on when preaching the gospel to others (and they do not receive it), but we can pray for them later, and we can still do good towards them later (if such people come back into our lives). We can love our enemies.

Yes, agreed. Love has many facets, and some of them are disciplining, rebuking, correcting, ostracizing and ignoring, etc.
I'm sure that the Pharisees and tax collectors were quite indignant in regard to Jesus' scathing remarks towards them (white washed tombs, etc), even bringing their offense to his attention. But, as we all know, Jesus was not acting in sin as he berated them, despite how his recipients felt.
So then, if you are pointing out the ambiguity of classifying a particular act as a sin, then yes, it's not what society deems as such, but what God considers it to be.
And one good barometer to use, is to determine whether or not the act was derived from love, and not selfishness, contempt or apathy. And as you said, wiping the dust of your feet in the right context, is definitely, in my opinion, an act of love

timothyu · Feb 7, 2020

Miles said:
What's considered polite in one culture

FOX cable news

Bible Highlighter · Feb 7, 2020

DNB said:
Yes, agreed. Love has many facets, and some of them are disciplining, rebuking, correcting, ostracizing and ignoring, etc.
I'm sure that the Pharisees and tax collectors were quite indignant in regard to Jesus' scathing remarks towards them (white washed tombs, etc), even bringing their offense to his attention. But, as we all know, Jesus was not acting in sin as he berated them, despite how his recipients felt.
So then, if you are pointing out the ambiguity of classifying a particular act as a sin, then yes, it's not what society deems as such, but what God considers it to be.
And one good barometer to use, is to determine whether or not the act was derived from love, and not selfishness, contempt or apathy. And as you said, wiping the dust of your feet in the right context, is definitely, in my opinion, an act of love

Again, I agree. Well said.

Is being rude a sin?

Is being rude a sin?

Yes.

No.

It depends on the type of rudeness. If it is a basic general violation of loving your neighbor.

Other (Please explain).

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