Gordon Wright
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The interpretation of elder qualifications is a great litmus test for how a church thinks about marriage and singlehood. But even the most farfetched spin must admit that "husband of but one wife" rules out polygamous elders.
The acceptance of divorce is another litmus test. Logically, you can't romanticize marriage and also be excusing of divorce. If they try to do both then they are strangers to logical thought.
If you want to know whether something has relevance today, it helps to understand why it ever had relevance in the first place. There were in fact reasons. Divorce was bad in Biblical times because it caused financial hardship to women and children. Generally it was instigated by the husband. Nowadays, not so much.
It's said that divorce is emotionally devastating for children. What those who say this tend to leave out is any basis of comparison. Devastating compared to what? To growing up under a marriage full of bitterness? Divorce is most certainly less bad than that.
There's nothing magical about marriage. The world figured this out long ago, but Christendom still worships that idol. Divorce is part of the price we pay for expecting too much from marriage.
The acceptance of divorce is another litmus test. Logically, you can't romanticize marriage and also be excusing of divorce. If they try to do both then they are strangers to logical thought.
If you want to know whether something has relevance today, it helps to understand why it ever had relevance in the first place. There were in fact reasons. Divorce was bad in Biblical times because it caused financial hardship to women and children. Generally it was instigated by the husband. Nowadays, not so much.
It's said that divorce is emotionally devastating for children. What those who say this tend to leave out is any basis of comparison. Devastating compared to what? To growing up under a marriage full of bitterness? Divorce is most certainly less bad than that.
There's nothing magical about marriage. The world figured this out long ago, but Christendom still worships that idol. Divorce is part of the price we pay for expecting too much from marriage.
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